Girls, would you be offended?

[Shane_B]

Please read. PLEASE DON'T take it personal. Firstly, I will NOT have sex, unless I'm in a relationship, but I'm still a virgin, only because I'm insecure about my manhood (dick) size... it's holding me back from being in a relationship. Example of a senario: IF we was dating, would you be offended if I was to ask you if you are clean (meaning from sexual disease) and I said that I won't have sex with you unless you was able to prove to me that your clean, only because I care about my health (sexual health) and I'm still a virgin. Would you be honest? Or Would you be offended?

[samhradh_leannan]

It's smart for both you and your partner to get tested prior to having sex for the first time. I certainly would not be offended by being asked to get tested- I wouldn't even need to be asked. But when you bring it up, do it politely. All you have to say is that you want to establish a clear bill of health before you start having sex. Just be aware that not all STDs are easy to test for or have very accurate tests, so there's really no way for anyone to completely "prove" that they don't have an STD. You can also carry some STDs even as a virgin, so you should get tested too.

[smokeandberry]

If you said it in a degrading way or assumed I have an STD because I'm not a virgin then I'd be offended.

Otherwise not at all, I'd respect you a lot for being aware of that and totally understand your worries. It shows you care and look after yourself.

[Shane_B]

I would never degrade any female regardless, it's only out of honesty and respect. I'd explain it in polite understandable way, for you to understand me, and why, and my reasons for it, without offending you, but by explaining myself first before I was to ask you the question and NOT hurt your feelings when I do.

[smokeandberry]

Perfect, I'm a fan of you

[Munchykin]

I definitely wouldn’t be offended. That’s a very valid question that people who are having sex never seem to ask. Nothing wrong with wanting to get tested before sex. You’re just being safe and cautious. In my opinion, I find that more attractive than offensive because that show me you are interested in staying safe and making sure about what you are getting yourself into. Mostly because you aren’t just going around having sex with just everyone!

[Shane_B]

Well I'm still virgin, and I'd only have sex in a relationship, I'm NOT into hook ups or one night stands. But I've never had a relationship, never even kissed a girl either or even been on a date.

[Band_freak]

I wouldn't be offended and I would expect you to give the same courtesy 😊

[Shane_B]

Of course. What ever I recieve, I return in fairness and kindness, if not more as in loyalty and respect etc.

[hasrett]

No I would be relieved because secretly I would want to ask him the same thing.

[fay23]

Depends on how you say it but no, no it wouldn't offend me.

[Shane_B]

It wouldn't be in a rude/ offencive way, but in a polite understandable mannor. I'd explain it all, and why, for you to understand me, and as to why I'm that way and my reasons for it.

[fay23]

Then that would be fine

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't feel offended.

[Anonymous]

Id tell you i was a virgin too and if you didn't know me well enough to trust me then I might be offended... but no i wouldn't be offended by your question.

[Shane_B]

I would trust you if you was to tell me your a virgin straight away, if you wasn't embarrassed to admit it, or felt awkward about it. And also, my insecurities would also go away, especially my insecurity of my manhood (dick) size as well. Its dramatically holding me back from relationships in genral...

[Opinion Owner]

Cool. Yea im looking for someone waiting for marriage just like me so its cool. I wouldn't worry so much about your size... I don't know how much it really matters but it can't be that bad. :p

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be offended