Would you date a girl with a low libido?

I'm 21 and I don't want sex often. I usually only get horny right before my period starts. Are all guys going to get fed up with me because I won't want to have sex that often? or are there guys out there that aren't sex crazed.
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  • I can totally get where you're coming from - but I'm looking at it from the other side.

    My girlfriend is the most important person in my life - I love her more than I ever thought I could. We live together and we're firmly set on building a life together. At the same time she has a really low libido, and I have a high one.

    Whilst it's one of those things I probably wish I could change... it's just something that I've learned to live with to be honest - the fact that I have her in my life means so much more to me that sex.

    Though there are compromises - I masturbate a lot (and she knows this), watch a fair bit of p*rn and occasionally have some flirty chat online with people who I meet (but she doesn't know about this). In fact she doesn't even know I belong to this site.

    But - in truth - I would never cheat on her, I love her immeasurably, and when we do have sex, it's AMAZING :)

    Just my two cents...

  • The women in this group will tell you "you've got to find the right guy". I might sound more cynical when I say that time too changes a lot of things.

    My partner was pretty unorgasmic when we first met (mid-20s). Things changed dramatically in some years time. You know that women peak sexually in their late 30s or so.

    I wasn't much into sex (except masterbation, which, as a guy I needed for the physical relief it offered) till my mid-20s. Things changed after that. So don't rule out anything please

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  • Not to dismiss your worries unnecessarily, but you should wait until you are with someone you really care about. Just because you only feel horny then, doesn't mean a guy won't be able to turn you on at other times. Believe me, I used to think the same way.

    Also, if it really turns out you just don't like sex that much, while it will mean that you probably won't be able to have a relationship with a guy who has a huge sexual appetite, there are guys (not a lot maybe, but some) who also have low libidos, and will be perfectly fine with that.

    One other thing, my first time was awful. It's usually still pretty bad the first time I have sex with someone. I need a bit of time to get comfortable with a new partner before I can really enjoy it, and you might be the same way.

  • You might just have not found a guy who drives you wild yet.

    Just a thought.

    Even if you manage to find a nice guy who's comfortable with that, chances are he'll still want you to put out more often than you would like.

    Also, there are ways to "get in the mood". Spanish fly for example.

    • well I've actually only been with one guy. So maybe your right. But usually if someone has a high sex drive they will want to masturbate, but I never get the urge to do that unless my period is comming, so it's like once a month.

  • sex isn't everything in a relationship but it is a big part. sex is a big reasons why relationship sometimes dono't work out

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  • youre young, you just need to experience what GOOD sex is like and then you will want it ALL the time! ;)

  • I've just answered a question about another user who was complaining that her man doesn't want sex as much as she does. And that she intiates sex all the time and is getting fed up with her man who is happy to go without sex for weeks.

    As I said to her, people have different sex drives. Some are higher than others. think of them like an appetite. Some people just pick at their food, whilst others could sit an all you eat buffet all day long.

    Myself personally, I don't have such a high sex drive. If you meet the right guy, then you won't have a problem. Even if his higher thant yours I'm sure you could reach a compromise. Just as long as the difference between you drive and his isn't too high.

  • I am sex crazed. But it does not depend on if somebody has low sex drive or not. If I love a girl, I would get over it. (I don't say it would not be trouble for me) But if I love a girl, it would not matter.

    • would you get frustrated all the time because of it?

    • Yes. But we would love each other and figure that out. And I would try very hard not to make her feel bad about that.

    • I love her and what bad things I feel are my problem after all.

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  • It depends. Are you saying you only get spontaneously horny right before your period, or are you saying you can not be aroused by a partners efforts except right before your period? If you can not be aroused, I'm afraid you will encounter sexual/relationship difficulties with most guys.

    • Yeah I'm saying I only get horny right before my period, that's the only time I feel the need to masturbate. I haven't really had a guy to try get me aroused as I've never had a proper boyfriend. I've slept with one guy, and to be honest I didn't enjoy doing it.

    • You should not get concerned yet. Sex with only one guy, I am reading that as one time, is ussually not very pleasing to the female. Wait until you have a boyfriend. I only get horny like you said, every few days, but when the wife reaches over and caresses my penis, it jumps to life. I am sure you are the same. When the guy you love surpises you while you washing dishes by nibbling your neck and grinding his penis against your butt, I bet you will be wet in seconds. :)

  • IN A HEARTEAT! There's more to the relationship than just sex N the girl needs to enjoy it too. Besides, some of my greatest memories of being with my 1st ex were just sitting N cuddling, me giving her a little back scratch after work, sometimes still in uniform (LOL) but never nude either, N some of that was before we did anything sexual. We also stopped short of intercourse N when things were good I was in HEAVEN without sex! If a girl has a big labido, cool. If not, it's about how much makes her happy N comfortable...

  • Depends. Would I be able to date other girls?

    • seriously? is sex really that important? what if everything else in the relationship is perfect? isn't love more important? why does it matter that you don't get sex as often as you want, you'll still get some! and you can masturbate. I would never be in an open relationship, that's just dirty and a good way to catch a disease!

    • Let's replace "sex" with "honesty", so my reply will make some sense: "seriously? is honesty really that important? what if everything else in the relationship is perfect? isn't love more important? why does it matter that you don't get honesty as often as you want, you'll still get some!"

    • A good partner would casually ask me to abandon a healthy, fulfilling part of my life. The woman saying this really doesn't care about me all that much; she cares about what she's (un)willing to give me. I'm not signing up for that. An open relationship offers a solution to a problem that would otherwise be fatal. If she's so determined that I be exclusive that she's glad to have me exclusive and miserable, then let her have someone else's misery. I mean to be happy.

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  • all guys arnt sex crazed I'm not, I have been known to wait two years to have sex with a girl because I usually only go with a chick if I think itll work an ill wait no matter what, loyalty has no price.

  • all guys ain't sex crazy just most of them

  • Not in your age group, no.

    • Well I would think you wouldn't date anyone in my age group anyway, low labido or not. Your old enough to be my father lol the age gap is too much. Apparanlty older women (35-40) have higher libido's because their fertility time is running out and their body naturally wants more sex to have babies. So maybe I'll want more later on in life. lol

    • You misunderstood. I was answering this : "or are there guys out there that arn't sex crazed."

    • Oh okay, sorry. I thought you were saying you wouldn't date me because of it. Yeah your probably right, guys my age don't even want relationships, they just want sex! I guess I'll have to wait till I'm older lol.

  • Well, considering I am horny all the time (and contrary to popular belief there is NOTHING wrong with that!), I wouldn't want a Girlfriend who didn't have a next-to-nonexistent libido. We wouldn't be very compatible.

    • Whoa... I just realized I typed that wrong. Any girl who had a next-to-nonexistent libido would NOT be my kind of girl! I'd prefer a girl with a libido as strong as mine, or stronger. Stronger mostly for the challenge to keep up. :P

  • If a guy cares about you then he will not care if you want it or not to much! he will be happy to be with you

  • Be honest, and tell her you have a medical condition and that for her to be your gal, she'll have to satisfy you or else you'll just to have friends with benefits or find other escapes, but you are still totally devoted to her.

    • Haha rightt ;D

  • You will have a group, like myself, who cannot even stomach the thought of having sex during a woman's period. If I saw blood on my c ock I would immediately throw up. Not because I have any problems with blood but because of what it is and where it came from. That is why I tell my wife I really don't want to do anything a day or two before and after because I love eating p ussy and I would never be able to do it again if that happened while doing it.

    • I never said I wanted to have sex while on my period, I just said the only time I actually get horney is when my period is about to start.

    • you're a bit deluded, period is nearly 50% water and if you'e on the contraceptive pill it is a "fake" bleed anyway. you should put a rubber on and give her a good seeing to while on her period. You woudlnt mind the blood of a virgin probably, so why's this any worse? By ignoring your wife's needss on her period you're telling her she's unattractive and it doesn't matter what her appetite is like at this time. You're missing out mate.

  • I wouldn't mind dating you. Its more important to me to hold her hand and kiss her on the forehead and stuff like that. It means a lot more to me to just hang out with a girl. Relationships to me aren't all about sex If you get dumped because you don't have sex often then that is not a real relationship.Believe me I get so fricken horny but I can always masturbate. Masturbation is FUN FUN FUN =P

    • lol well that's good to hear, hopefully I can meet one like you

  • Just like you have a low libido, There are also guys out there the same way. It would be a big challenge to find one, because nobody has it written on their forehead... And, I do believe there are things you could do to help raise your libido if you were interested.

  • why do girls get more horny on their period? you remind me of an animal in heat.

    • Dramatic changes of hormones in their bodies.

    • why an animal in heat? Humans are animals and it a scientifically proven that a surge in hormone makes increases your libido. you don't ask why men feel the need to wank, do you? it something that occurs naturally in our bodies. I'm due on in about three days and my partner will be in for a treat this weekend as I'm horny as f*** before during and a little after my period.

    • gross. he doesn't mind ketchup on his hot dog I take it?

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  • If I really wanted to be with a girl, it wouldn't matter how much sex she wants to have.

  • Once a month is no good.

  • I wouldn't care.

  • Been there, done that but it didn't last (guess why)

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