Would you let your wife have a MFM?

[wey1972]

if your wife asked would you let her have a MFM, what would your reaction be,

[imonfire]

Nope. It's not something I'm into and I would be very uncomfortable sexually and emotionally. I don't think there is anything wrong with it.

On the flip side, I don't think I could do FMF in a marriage either. I've done it with people that were just sexual partners (it's not that much more fun anyway) but there wasn't a commitment.

Monogamy is different for everyone. But some people can be really emotionally hurt if their partner suggests that kind of 'monogomish' lifestyle. But who knows. I know years of life with one person can change your expectations, too.

[Phoenix1991]

I wouldn't say anything, I'll just pack my bags and leave.

[ionhide]

damn right

[Betwyn]

For asking, you'd leave? Wow...

[Phoenix1991]

Yup.

[AwesomeErich]

I agree I'd leave too! This three sum sh*t is what you do BEFORE marriage not during it! You have fantasies that involve another person and your married look out the divorce papers will soon follow anyone who would consider another person joining in on their loving bond needs their heads examined!

[GirlsLie]

"I agree I'd leave too! This three sum sh*t is what you do BEFORE marriage not during it! You have fantasies that involve another person and your married look out the divorce papers will soon follow anyone who would consider another person joining in on their loving bond needs their heads examined!" Why does it have to be before marriage only? if both people agree to and want to do it then what business is it of yours to tell them what they should do.

[gray_sailor]

@GirlsLie I suppose, provided you left the "forsaking all others" clause out of the marriage vows. Don't make a promise and then, when inconvenient, revoke it. That is the basic problem the guys are having. For the record, my first wife offered me an open marriage -- a shameless attempt to CONTINUE to cheat on me, but now it would occur with my blessing! Take note, that was my 1ST marriage.

[GirlsLie]

I don't see why certain things are still in marriage vows, they're old fashioned and in my opinion no one should tell anyone else how THEIR marriage should be. Everyone has different definitions or marriage and if something works for both people then it's really no one elses business at all. Your wife cheating on you or her intentions don't speak for everyone elses marriage so if you think your bad experience gives you the right to tell others how their marriage should be then I don't agree with that lol

[gray_sailor]

@GirlsLie Who said anything about what should happen in OTHER'S marriages? There isn't a single guy anywhere in this thread that has said anything except what would be acceptable in his own marriage. (Though some may express themselves in universal terms, I see their answers as applying uniquely to them.) I don't criticize others, I only defend my own boundaries. 'Forsaking all others' was a conscious, intentional and AGREED UPON element on the vows in my second marriage.

[GirlsLie]

"This three sum sh*t is what you do BEFORE marriage not during it! You have fantasies that involve another person and your married look out the divorce papers will soon follow anyone who would consider another person joining in on their loving bond needs their heads examined" That is who my initial response was to and to what i'm referring to. I also don't understand why is would count as being unfaithful if both parties agreed to it. So if two adults are married, they decide they want to have a threesome for fun, what should they do first? Get a divorce so then they can freely do as they please as two consenting adults or should they just not do what they want to do and not have fun in their own marriage because of what others think? lol

[gray_sailor]

@GirlsLie Your analysis can be argued as the logical outcome following from the quote you have referenced. BUT I apply the idea that each man is speaking only for his own marriage as a first principle. With that principle in mind, the logical outcome of that referenced quote is that for @AwesomeErich , HIS wife should have gotten that "three sum sh*t" out of her system PRIOR to marrying him. If that is not sufficient for her, after the divorce, she can find two other Males to MFM with. I see no criticism of others actions, only a man defending his boundaries in the context of his own marriage. The call for getting "their heads examined" was not a psychiatric prescription, merely the rhetorical use of hyperbole.

[gray_sailor]

@GirlsLie I should also have stated, that clearly @AwesomeErich has NOT entered into such a prior agreement with his wife. As such, merely the call to revisit a pledge of mutual sexual exclusivity can be reasonably viewed as a violation of his marriage as presently constituted.

[GirlsLie]

Seems to me like he was talking about marriage in general and other people's marriages as well, which is why my argument was directed at him in the first place.

[Phoenix1991]

tse4.explicit.bing.net/th this is me right now

[samswinger]

Lol you guys need to get a grip! So insecure! My husband let's me and we FMF. Being the center of attention of more than one person is simply amazing! If you are insecure in your manhood or relationship, forget it! It's not for you! We have been married 22 years now, together for 27, and started doing these type of things for 4 years now. Our relationship is stronger and more exciting because of it! Things get boring, this brought a lot of spark back into our lives!

[Puddlesoflove]

You guys in NY by any chance?

[wey1972]

I think maybe you are right about people being insecure, John my husband and I are into MFMs, been into them now over ten years, John's prowess at love making is great, I had two lovers before I met my now husband, now I have had 14 more, it fascinates me the different way some men have sex and what is important to them, glad your into it,

[Questionsweask]

Agree, it can be fun , healthy and amazing. if your insecure then no. it is said that your relationship is stronger, better, and more fulfilling for those that do then those that dont. Because of the trust you have and not hung up on so many things most are it seems which hurts their relationship in the long run anyway more times then not.

[Account]

I'm not into MFM or FMF BUT, I bet if the question was the other way around (FMF), most guys who said no would be like: hell yeah,that's my fantasy etc. Which is hypocritical as f*** imo. I am not talking about the guys who would be against it. I am talking about the guys who would be up for it if Q/A was asking for a FMF situation. Down-vote all you want. I know I am telling the truth. I've seen it before here.

[enjoyturk]

Most I think that is true. I am on the plus side of a MFM

[Betwyn]

How many of these guys would turn down his wife is she offered to bring her hot friend into the bedroom with them?

[aMuse]

I'd leave her for that to... If she wants to cheat on me with women, it's no different.

[Account]

This.

[Married-in-PA]

As usual, you are spot on, Mlle. Kudos. I loved you "water or camera duty". By the way, my wife is WAY to shy for something like this; and yes, I have asked. I am the wild, Beserker, Scotsman in our family. No one believes a word I say, because they think I am insane.

[Hamburgers]

Doesn't matter. It's different.

[GirlsLie]

Lol, exactly. How many men want a 3 some with another woman and openly express it all of the time but a woman wants it and it's a huge deal.

[AwesomeErich]

I'd think the answer to that would be how much you respected your partner and the relationship of you have an open relationship then it's OK, however if your committed to one another you love one another as only a couple allowing yourself or your partner to enter I to the stage of adding another person is like putting your relationship on life support and your both in critical condition! It's NOT the thing to do of your seriously wanting to keep someone intimacy and care REQUIRE one-on-one dedication, and loyalty in every way it's NOT an option, and the other person isn't either!

[gray_sailor]

NONBFN!

(Not Only No, But Fuck No!)

For some context for my answer, read this:

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1547923-what-made-you-leave-your-ex-how-are-you-coping

[gray_sailor]

@Account After I pressed enter I thought better and sure enough there was that accusation of hypocrisy. (First female in the list too!) For the record then, in my marriage the following prohibitions apply: No MFM No MMF No FFM No FMF Just so we're all clear, ALL of these would violate my marriage. Isn't that about right @GraySailorsBride ?

[GraySailorsBride]

That is exactly right., and for those that think that our sex life would be boring without the introduction of something as propose by the asker, so wrong, in our case anyway. At our age and time in our marriage, the sex has never been better, kinkier, more exciting and loving. Just keeps getting better. We communicate with each other, listen to what we both desire. It's never been better.

[gonyr]

It's completely normal for her to want one. As a guy, I would love to being another girl in the bedroom. I don't expect it from her. Be honest about your fantasies, but don't expect anything of it. It's probably better that it remains a fantasy

[aMuse]

Sure, she could do that right after I divorced her.

[Lynx122]

No I'd probably be open to somethng like that if I had no attachments but if I'm in a relationship I just want it to be me and her.

[front2back]

Why did she marry in the first place if she wanted to have sex with other men?

I might let it happen if it was during the girlfriend/boyfriend period, even then only with another dude I was cool with. But married? She should have gotten all that sh*t done in college.

[rotinaj10]

Way too complicated for me. Not even FMF... Just not my thing

[MikeK]

As long as I'm one of the "M's" :)

[Betwyn]

Yeah... that would sorta suck being relegated to water or camera duty for that one...

[MikeK]

LMAO

[Hamburgers]

I don't give a sh*t if she was my wife of 20 years, that h*e would get the divorce papers.

[Hamburgers]

@update: Sounds like you guys were tip-toeing on crazy things to begin with. You failed to mention that in your initial question.

[tbju0001]

Only if M #2 meets my approval

[whynot223]

Yes I would. I trust her.

[jmurk]

If I and another girl was included, I'll do it, but that's the only way. Why do you want to have this kind of fantasy?

[crybaby]

why would you want to have a fantasy with two women?

[jmurk]

To even the playing field.

[Puddlesoflove]

I'd totally let her. Just have to find the right guy. Id love to take turns cumming in her and really let the cum fly. Maybe some dp creampies and of course have her on her knees mouth open as we finish in her mouth together.

[justaskme555555]

yes sure why not

[JennieF]

My loving husband has.

[madmark]

yes and have , enjoyed it

[Cocoa94]

Hell yes... I'd encourage it actually

[Adonisallen]

yeah if i watched lol then id join

[rajcuckold]

Yes...

[Anonymous]

I'm not Bi either but I absolutely would so a mfm with my wife.

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course. We've done MFM, MMFM and even MMFMM. It's all great fun.

[Anonymous]

I would say yes. I would love her to fulfill her fantasies. The more sexual a woman the hotter she is

[Anonymous]

yes if she showed me how to suck the guy off! why not//YOLO

[Anonymous]

YES - Lets Go

[Anonymous]

It would be the start of major fight between us, one which would likely lead to divorce. I have no interest in any type of group sex, as it's against my own personal morals as well as my religion. The fact that she could even think about having sex with another man while we were still married would tell me that she doesn't love me enough anymore.

[Anonymous]

GF maybe, wife no way. I'd hope that we both got our sexual experimentation out of the way before getting married. Ill be honest id be weird'd out if our balls touched during some DP action lol. Something about the mother of children getting pounded just doesn't sit right with me. I wouldn't be even be OK with MFF type threesome either. Id be afraid our marriage would sour because of it.

[Anonymous]

Already have

[Anonymous]

Hmmm NO

[Opinion Owner]

Ewww

[Anonymous]

I would reject that. I just can't imagine sharing my girl with another guy. Plus, what if she likes his... you know better than mine and ends up leaving me later? I don't want to risk that.

If she gets mad at me for rejecting it, I would leave her.

[Betwyn]

FYI.. She is dating you, not your penis.

[Opinion Owner]

I know. But a guys sex skills and features are really important to some girls. And that one thing can make them change their minds on which guy she wants to be with.

[Betwyn]

Well, if she changes her mind that easily about you, you probably don't want to be with her anyways..

[Anonymous]

No way. I don't mind her having that fantasy (I also have FFM fantasies, honestly), but I think it's adultery to live it out. We're committed to each other and take that very seriously.

Fantasy: fine, we all do fantasize a lot... Carrying it out: never.

[Anonymous]

Yes, definitely!

[Anonymous]

Everyone has a fantasy, so why not?

[Opinion Owner]

This site is so prude

[Cottoncandydreams]

LOL