Would you quit porn for your GF/wife?

Guys, if you were in a loving relationship and your GF/wife asked you to quit watching porn(not quit masterbating) would you do it? You've explained to her that it's harmless and doesn't mean you want to cheat-and she understands this-but just says it bothers her and requests you to stop...
I would just explain to her it's impossible/refuse to stop
Vote A
Would quit- I love her and want her to be happy
Vote B
Would say I'd stop-but bring out the magazines while she's at the store
Vote C
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Most Helpful Girls

  • i didn't mind my boyfriend watchin porn but at times it affecting our sex life to be honest. I can be horny all day and realy wanting sex and he's like no I don't want it then at night he watches porn and wanks. I dn't mind him wanking as I do do myself yet the fact that he thinks I'm not attractive and watches other girls pisses me off especialy when I'm a v sexual person and need lots of sex.

    at times I think that if he truley loved me he'd not watch it I don't mind mags like fhm. he has said he'd stop yet he neva does . he believes that me pushing him to have sex all the time means that I don't love and respect him as a relationship is not just about sex. because of this I think a guy can watch porn yet still love their gf/wife. we should learn to respect that at times the do watch porn and its not cheating or wants to cheat as he probs gets turned on by what he sees but thinks of his girlfriend or wife in a simaler environment. only get pissed off if he says its cos your not attractive cos then I would worry that he may cheat or seak gratification else where.

    plus I hate to admit it but it has improved his technique and made him come out of his sexual shell.

    • This question was supossed to be for guys but thanks for your answer anyway. He thinks that you wanting to have sex means you don't love him (i'm sorry but that's BS) what kind of guy would complain about that, then turn around and watch porn it sounds hypocritical. I NEVER SAID IT WAS CHEATING I'm just asking the guys if they would stop if it would please their lover

  • WTH? I wouldn't even ask my man to do that. As long as he is not cheating on me, putting me down, or watching porn when he could be spending time on me it wouldn't matter to me. Basically as long as he does it when your not there, why does it matter? Guys like porn, that's not gonna make him stop, if anything I could see him resenting you if your trying to stop him from doing it. I wouldn't ask because he'll probably do it when your not around anyway

  • I never really asked my boyfriend to stop but he did because he knew I didn't like it. And I don't like it because its like taking away the attention and putting it on someone else. Like I'm not good enough for him that he has to go and look at something else to get off to.

    • Exactly my thoughts.

Most Helpful Guys

  • You might think there aren't many of those around, but there are. They are usually harder to spot, since they don't come on as strong, they are more likely to respect your feelings than just to rub themselves off on you. From my experience as a college student, chances are you won't find a guy like this in a bar/club.(There are always exceptions). Not because these places are necessarily bad, because they aren't. It is that this type of guy normally spends recreational time on activities that need intelligence, or builds a skill. All my male friends are guys of this type, not just because they respect women, but because they respect everybody. That's a big clue to recognizing one... They respect everybody, emotionally and empathetically. Some people might think these guys are "weak" or "nerdy", but I assure you, I'm talking about red hot blooded testosterone blown athletic guys, the only difference being, they think with the head on their shoulders, and their hearts.

    I sincerely hope you find the answers that you are looking for and the happiness, love and respect that you deserve.

    • Wow I love the fact that there are MANLY man out there that have good respect for the people around them..it means theyr confident. my boyfrend helps people carry bags up the stairs, or bigger stuff, he always opens doors for me, asks me questions about what I like and what I don't and has much respect for me,...and nobody thinks he's nerdy or geecy, people have the upmost respect for him and he's actually even gangster lol with a good heart

    • Don't let this guy make you believe this. A guy has to want to not look at it. There is NO type of guy to look for. Because the only reason I ever watch it is when my girl isn't around, and even then I have to want to masturbate to watch them. I used to be very into porn, but I lose the craving to watch anymore. I needed sex fast. Not because I'm that type of guy. What he's describing may exist, but in a very low percent of guys. Sex is natural for a man to want. Sincerely, A Loving Black Man

  • I will quickly give you my opinion on this situation. There are guys that are hard wired and have a need to experience as most females as possible, and there are other guys who need one woman who can fulfill all of their needs. This latter type of guy doesn't need to watch porn or look at other girls, simply because all his needs are met by his current woman. She is all that he needs in a sense. Thus if you have a boyfriend and you request him to stop watching porn, there really is no point, because quitting the porn doesn't change who he is inside, inside he will still be a porn watcher. So the whole point is, choose the type of guy that suits and reflects your own opinion about the pornography.

    • And how do you find one of these guys/know he is like that?

    • See above

    • See above... I disagree with this... Sincerely, A Loving Black Man

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  • None of your options promote a males reasoning, and thus is hard to answer your question with complete efficiency.

    I'll tell you this about watching porn...

    It has nothing to do with him not enjoying you.

    It has nothing to do with him wanting more females.

    Some guys just like sex. & to tell him that its okay to masturbate, but he can't watch porn, is like telling Lebron James to play basketball, but taking his shoes.

    He can play, but he would be unequiped. He would be able to go through with it without some type of major sacrifice.

    For most guys, its very hard to masturbate without the act of sex happening in front of them.

    It can happen, but it takes so much time and energy.

    Some guys really are addicted to porn. I happen to know some, and it has nothing to do with them wanting to be with more women.

    It seems some were made to really like sex.

    But since we can't have it as often as we'd like, we resort to watching it.

    If your guy is watching porn "to" masturbate instead of being with you, then you have a problem.

    I would tell you to watch it with me a few times, and see what I like so much about them.

    If you want to know more about the situation, do a up close and personal study.

    I mean really understand why he wants to watch it so much.

    There has to be a reason that he wants to watch it. & that's what you will want to find out.

    I also know watching porn and masturbating is easier sometimes, then getting you gals in the mode, and having sex, especially when you gals don't want a quickie.

    So just try to get his take on the situation.

    I really hope this helps.

    Good Luck.

    Sincerely,

    A Loving Black Man

    • My question is not about asking if porn's "wrong" it's about finding out to what extent a guy would go to make his Girlfriend happy, IF that's what she wanted. Personally, I've never said anything to my Boyfriend about it. He has told me himself that he watches it but I've never said anything to him nor shown disapproval. I have high self-esteem, know he's faithful etc I was just wondering if porn is somthing the modern man just CANNOT live without since it's so popular in our society and everywhere.

    • Its not so much that we can't live with out it, but its one of the best tools for masturbating. I never stated that porn was alright, or that you were insecure, or that he might have been cheating, or any thing you just wrote. I just tried to give you the idea of why many guys watch it. I'm not accusing him of nothing. & yes a guy would try to stop if it meant making his other happy. Sincerely, A Loving Black Man

    • I lovee ur answer!!!!!!!!!

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  • fufill his needs 24/7 then ask him to give it up a man is a man. whether he is doing it with you or not he's gotta find a way to do get his release

  • Porn is destructive to a healthy relationship. If the guy truly loves the gal he will work really hard to kick that habit. It is essentially mental infidelity which is, by the way, also correlated with higher rates of actual infidelity.

    • Why is it destructive to a healthy relationship? You, I think are the only guy who says this could lead to infedelity.

    • If you run the stats, positive attitudes towards and porn use are positively correlated higher rates of infidelity, divorce and separation. Look it up or run the stats yourself on any year of the General Social Survey.

  • I don't think we should try to change people and what they enjoy doing. If you don't like something that much about a person, it's a deal breaker and the person should move on. Porn is not a big deal to me.

  • I can to thoughts of her lol

    if she asked yeah I would

    I would ask her though can she help me though

    I always help her lol

  • LOL I would tell you whatever you wanted to hear, so if that meant me lying to you to make you happy then so be it. I would say sure honey I won't look at porn anymore and well once your happy and I think that I won't I will just be sure to delete the history every time.

    • Haha...pretty sneaky! Why you just can't resist the temptation of instant access to porn?

  • If you want him to stop, wifey better be willing to put in work for him. a lot of guys jack off every day, or even more... if you want him to stop, you've gotta be willing to satisfy him, whether that means sex or oral or w/e

  • Its quite easy to masturbate without porn, people just become dependent upon the aid it offers. The longer you go using porn as an aid the harder it seems to get to achieve the same result without it.

    • Good point

  • I'd say I'd quit, but then I'd still do it.

    See ... porn is a bit of an outlet sometimes. If I was married, I'd probably NEED it (not daily, but every so often). It's either that or cheating.

    On a side note, there's nothing like a girl who you can sit and watch porn with, and if she gets turned on too, even better.

    • Well why lie then? Why not just tell her what you just typed?

    • Well, if I had a girl like you who despite me explaining to her it's "harmless", insists I stop, then I'd be forced to lie wouldn't I. I do think too much porn is bad, sex isn't like that (most of the time). I just don't think it's within a woman's right to ask a man not to watch it ever (and vice versa). So long as it's done respectfully, it shouldn't be a problem (meaning not in their face)

    • A girl "like you"? You don't know me, don't make assumptions about me. I was just giving a hypothetical scenario. Thanks for the response

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  • I'd dump the girl: a. women with hangups are a pain in the *ss, and b. it won't be the last thing she asks you to drop.

    • Wow that sounds a little harsh-but thanks for your honesty. but I'm not really talking about a casual girlfriend that it wouldn't be a big deal to dump her-I'm talking about someone you love. Is your answer still the same in that situation?

    • Yes; it's MORE urgent to dump her if the relationship is serious. The sane girl, if she dislikes porn, at least has the sense to pretend I'm don't watch it, while I, in turn, have good sense not to rub it in her face, for sake of the relationship. Once you establish the dynamic that *YOU* have to change because *SHE* has a problem, she will always have a problem and you will always be changing, until the relationship ends. Better to dump her at the outset, until she grows up.

    • Um...let me guess...you're single LOL you have to be. You sounds kinda like a macho. This is more of the response I expected out of the guys-but I have more "B" answerers so far-which surprises me.

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  • why not watch it together as a couple...that can be as much fun...both get turned on and have some fun. it doesn't have to be a naughty or dirty thing...just another thing to use during sex...

    • Good answer- but if she made this request would you comply?

    • Yeah I wouldn;t have a big problem with it...but first I would ask her to watch some with me and try and see if she would like it....if we have not done it together how do we both know we don't like it....

    • Good point

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  • I don't know about you but I can masturbate without porn but it's much harder than with porn. I wouldn't be able to quit but if I'm horny I'll look at her and say you or the porn? (as in I'm ready for sex so If you don't want it my laptop is always ready) if she isn't in the mood for sex I'll take the laptop and go into the master bathroom for a while.

    I would let her do the same if for what ever reasion I am not in the mood for sex and she is I'll say you can take my laptop and go to the bathroom I got work early the next morening.

  • I don't think I would date a girl who was so insecure she couldn't handle me watching porn occasionally. And I wouldn't marry a girl who was so distant to the point where I would have to actually masturbate.

  • masturbate without porn?

    • Is that impossible for a guy or something?

    • No it isn't, maybe for some that are used to porn. There's a thing guys used to masturbate with before porn, it was called imagination.

    • Yah pretty much

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  • i'd def quit for my significant other

    no doubt in my mind

  • I'll watch my god damn porn if I want to.

  • Define porn. If she wanted me to stop watching hard core, I'd say ok. But if she can't stand me seeing a naked woman, like in a playboy, then I would think she was severely insecure and jealous.

    • I voted A, assuming you call playboy porn. I didn't like the choices you offered, what I really wanted to say was, "No, I can stop but I'm really troubled by your jealousy and insecurity, and I don't think throwing away my playboys is going to get to the root of that proble. So I'm not gonna do it."

    • Thanks for your honesty- I tried to guess what a guy would say for A. Now I have a better idea.

    • Good answer and better comment. Well stated.

  • I could live without porn as long as I can continue masturbating.

  • Problem it isn't harmless...The more you look the more you want, it can become an addiction without knowing it. Your relationship should be build around her and her feelings, her body and her smile. The porn shouldn't get you what you what, she should be giving that to you and if your not getting that from her then you should talk. Healthy relationships should need porn or if they do maybe very little. There is no substitute for the intimacy you will get with a partner. You should stop, she's right.

  • I would just have her make some with me...;)

    And she would have the starring role.

    Does not get any better than that I can say!

    • Are you a guy?

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