Wow I'm afraid to hook up...

idk why but whenever I get myself into a position to hook up I get so nervous. I know I'm pretty, but I think I'm a bad kisser. I've ruined a relationship because I was being so weird about just kissing. I feel SO lame. how do I get over this? is it normal to be weird about it the first few times?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Yeah, it's normal to be weird about anythikng the first few times. Hooking up isn't the best thing to be doing anyhow because you don't really know the guys all that well. Usually, couples do more than kiss when they hook up so I don't know what exactly you have in mind. If you're worried more about kissing than the other things that can happen on a hook up I'd not hook up yet if I were you because all sorts of things might not work out right and kissing is the least of them. But as far as just kissing is concerned, it's no easy and natural because people start kissing from a very early age. There's no special technique needed and the only requirement necessary is that you like the person you're kissing so that you don't have to pretend. Start practicing right now on anything you can kiss, like your hands, arms, then go on to like a picture, an apple or peach, whatever you can kiss that you like and can show some kind of affection towards. Try to make a little suck with each kiss so that you make a suction noise when you release your lips and kiss for a half a second to start out and then up to a few seconds or so. Open your lips a bit so that your tongue lightly touches the object you're kissing and then give a little sucking kiss that ends with a little peck or whatever you want to call it. lol! That's all there's to it. When you kiss a guy just give a very short light kiss the first time on the lips at the same time he's starting to kiss you and then go back with another kiss and then again but maybe longer this time as you tighten your arms around him slightly while holding a kiss. I can't imagine that with very little practice you should become a good kisser. It's just mouth touching object - open lips slightly - tongue barely touching what you're kissing - a little suck-- and then release with a litttle suction noise and look into his eyes before and after you kiss but you can shut your eyes while kissing. Ok, now go for it! Kissing that is. lol! But do take your time about hooking up and don't be afraid to start kissing even if you're not so good the first time or so. Also, pay attention to how you're being kissed and if you like it, then do the same back. like a copy cat. :-)

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Most Helpful Girls

  • This is normal, especially if you're young. When I had my first boyfriend, when I was 13, I was so nervous about kissing him but partially because I didn't really find him attractive. It's possible that you're nervous so you're aiming for less attractive guys, and then you're not attracted to them. Also, in order to be a good kisser, just kiss normally, trying to alternate between tongue and teeth. It's not too hard!

  • I had the same sort of fear once too. But its totally normal. If you want kissing someone to be a comfortable thing for you, just find someone you can comfortably share your fear with. I did exactly that recently and it worked fine with me. He was an "experienced" kisser and he knew that I wasn't. He said he understood and I knew he meant it. for me that was enough to be able to relax and just ease into it.

  • It is completely normal just relax. You probley don't feel right because the right guy has not come along but watch cause someday you'll find a guy that is the right one and you'll feel so comfortable that being a bad kisser doesn't matter and remember practice makes perfect

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  • your never gonna

    be a better kisser

    if you never kiss

    for a first time

  • You need to find a guy you really like, who really likes you, and try and have a relationship with you. If he's a good guy you'll be comfortable with him and you shouldn't be as worried about kissing and whatnot then.