Hey Girl, Your Ideal Body Type Is Not What Your Guy Wants

Women now make up roughly half the labor force and have higher college graduation rates than men. Whether they're CEOs, soldiers, or senators, women are increasingly well represented even in traditionally male jobs.

They're also overwhelmingly more likely than men to be plastic surgery recipients. According to the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, more than 13.8 million people sought cosmetic surgery in 2011, and fewer than 10 percent of those patients were men.

This shows that there is an increasing acceptance of plastic surgery among society. Before, plastic surgery cost was the biggest issue that divided celebrities and ordinary people, but now surgical enhancements are for everyone (except kids and teenagers who don’t really need it).
"Your idea of beauty and your man's might be farther apart than you think."


If you've ever looked in the mirror and wished you could change just that one little -- or maybe that not-so-little -- body part, you may understand this drive to achieve ideal beauty. However, your idea of beauty and your man's might be farther apart than you think. If you're considering surgery to look better to him, first find out what he really thinks is beautiful.


Big Breasts and Barbie Waists

The single most popular surgical procedure is breast augmentation. Almost 310,000 women got breast implants through augmentation last year, and it's a fair bet that many of them who chose to go under the knife were doing so to look more appealing to men. Even the most cursory glance through a men's magazine will show you just how much men prize a nice pair. If the lad mags were a true indication of men's interest in cleavage, the only creatures more breast-obsessed than men would be hungry babies, and they care more about function than size.

Fortunately, magazine sales are only part of the story. Men may admire an artfully airbrushed and arranged body, but wanting to be close to that body is another matter. It's no secret that men are visually oriented; a PET scan readily shows the difference between how men and women react to visually appealing stimuli. An improbably perky pair of double D-cups does attract his attention. However, they don't hold his attention for any longer than it takes to glance at a magazine cover. He'll notice them, but he'll only buy the magazine if the articles look interesting.



What you see on his magazine covers has very little to do with what he loves about your body. He admires sleek cars too, but he doesn't think you should tattoo yourself with pin-striping and buff yourself to a high gloss. Surgically augmented breasts are worth a fleeting glance; he could admire your beautiful, natural body for hours if you let him.

What Men Really Like

The British magazine, Fabulous, asked its readers to define the ideally beautiful body size. Men chose a size 12, and women chose a size 8. In North America, those sizes work out to a size 10 and a size 6, so the message is equally clear on both sides of the pond: men like a more robust body type. These are only averages, so if you're naturally sylph-like and slim, it doesn't mean you need to eat extra helpings to impress your man. If you're voluptuous, though, it could mean that you're worrying about perceived fat that your man doesn't even see.

What men find sexy are the things that make women look different from men. Yes, boobs are on that list, but so are a lot of other feminine attributes that have little to do with plastic surgery. Your expressive eyes, your smooth skin, your scent, your curvy legs, your hair and even your hands and feet are beautiful to him because they're uniquely female. Emphasize what makes you different from him, and you'll have his attention.

Surgery might give you a shapelier caboose or a bigger bust-line, but these things don't enhance your femininity in his eyes. As far as he's concerned, you don't become more female by having these parts artificially enhanced any more than he would become more male by sprouting extra back hair.

Why Loving Your Looks Matters

Whether you currently have a man in your life or are actively shopping, you have an interest in looking your best. If you alter who you are through extensive plastic surgery, you're no longer looking your best; you're looking someone else's best. That someone probably isn't your man, but an advertiser's concept art of what a woman should look like.
"You don't become more female by having these parts artificially enhanced!"


You're proceeding on false premises when you assume that the airbrushed magazine images of size 6 waists and hips with prodigious racks are your guy's vision of feminine beauty. These carefully cropped and composed pictures are just window dressing to him; they're there to lure him to buy as surely as a clearance sale sign entices you into a shop.


Embrace who you are and show him your real self fearlessly. One thing all men agree on: confidence is supremely sexy.

About the Author:

Lisa Moore is a senior writer of Interactive Service Group. Her articles have appeared on sites like Nooz Hawk, Herald Extra-Mom Click and other women and parenting websites. Her recent works include "Hourglass Bodyfigure is Not What Men Really Want", "Pregnancy & Motherhood: Breastfeedingafter Breast Augmentation Surgery" and Affordable Plastic Surgery vs. Cheap Plastic Surgery. Contact her at lisa_moore80@ymail.com.
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  • No guy in his right mind honestly believes that he is going to end up with a woman that looks like the actresses in these movies and we as men should be ashamed of ourselves for holding the women of this country to those standards. To be honest I wouldn't want to be with any of those actresses. I simply could not be intimate with a woman whose equipment looks like those in those types of movies.

  • Studies also show a rise (a spike actually) in vaginoplasty surgeries amongst American women. This not only appalling, but sad. As a country we watch way too much p*rn and place way too much stock in the the value of appearance; namely of said p*rn actors and actresses.

  • This is 110% true! While guys are undoubtedly attracted to curves, a girl who has obviously had several plastic surgeries often comes off as high maintenance (not in a good way but, more so she is so obsessed with her appearance I doubt I could ever have fun with or truly be myself with her), which no man in his right mind wants to settle down with.

  • Different men like different things, nothing unusual.

  • This is very true- I have heard from a great deal of my male friends that they do enjoy looking at the Playboy Bunny on G4, but at the end of the day the woman that makes him laugh, watches movies with him, enjoys his company, and may only have B boobs is who he truly wants to be with.

    On the same note, some women just want to have things done surgically to make them feel good. I'd personally like a cup size bigger <3 SOs should also be able to understand this

  • i don't care what he wants