Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
I started messing around with girls when I was pretty young, I had sex for the first time in the 8th grade. I remember how unsure I was about touching a girl and I was so afraid of not being able to make her feel good. So here are the things that I have learned as well as some things I wish I realized when I was new.
Down there is really gentle
Something that took me a while to learn is just how easily you can be too rough with a girls pussy. Especially if she's never had sex before. I knew a girl who you put one finger all the way in and she was in too much pain to stay turned on and I had no clue for a while that she wasn't enjoying it.
You can think of it like the tip of your penis. You touch it the right way and it;s the best place to be touched but normally when a girl tries to interact with it, things don't work as well as they imagine.
you're best bet when fingering is to rub the top that's like the money spot. Too much attention there and no where else will make things dull so make sure you get you're finger in there too. Never just dive in. I like to sort of rock my finger in and her being wet lets me slide in. Finesse is key when you rub her clit, you're not trying to rub the fucking thing off. Extremely careful when you make direct contact. You can be a little faster and rougher if you are interacting with it from outside the skin.
You can also try watching lesbian porn. Girls who are lesbians always say that only a girl can really know how to touch another woman and that's very true. Learn from what they do.
Cut your fingernails, and file them too
This one seems obvious but you have to remember that the vagina is delicate. Even if your nails are a little long, her skin can get stuck in between your nails and I can't imagine that feels good to anyone. It's like pinching the inside of her pussy. If you cut your nails, it's best you do it the day before or at least file them down. Freshly cut nails can be sharp. You want your nails smooth.
Girls also find unkempt nails to be a turn off. Lots of girls are told from a young age that guys with long or dirty fingernails are dirty, trashy and you should stay away from them. That's just a parent looking out for their kids and I think it effects them psychologically later on in life. Either way, it's hygiene and you should just be careful to try and time it with when you may have your hand in a girl.
Learn the key places to have your hands:
Girls have these kind of hot spots where they like to be touched. Some girls are different but buy and large these are pretty common.
Putting your hands around her hips
Do it when you are standing in front of her just before having sex, do it when your fucking her doggystyle. Do it in a romantic situation and stare into her eyes. This is one I think every girl likes.
Around the side of her neck
I have a very particular way of doing it. It's centered around that fact that I think girls really like the idea that her man has big hands (which I do) so I like to have my palm on her neck, my pointer finger under the lobe of her ear, my pinky almost on her collarbone and my thumb lightly rubbing her chin or lower lip or her cheek. Girls usually seem to really like this and if she like things rough, sometimes I lightly squeeze just enough to make her feel some resistance. I've only done it with two girls and of course you do it gradually while making out, but both girls liked it a lot.
Pulling hair
Sometimes I like to lightly pull a girls hair while making out or if she's giving me a blow job. Just pull it back and have it in my hand. Pretty simple.
Her upper (inner) leg
Girls seem to like it when a guy who they like touches their leg. You can start out on the knee and work your way up and sometimes (in the right situation) how far you get up can tell you if she wants your hand inside her or not. You can also rub her upper inner leg maybe run your fingers down them.
Be a mind reader
This is an embarrassing story but it's gonna help some people out. When I was in 7th grade. I had a friend who was better with girls than me so he got me to a party where we played 7 minutes in heavan and I ended up with this girl in a closet and I kept asking her if she liked what I was doing or if it felt good and stuff.
Well my friend found out and maybe some other people too but he told me you never do that and ever since I actually understood why. When it comes to sex, there's a flow. When it comes to flow and "feeling things out" a girls mind is just better wired for that so they are more sensitive to it.
So how do you know if what your doing is right? You look at her in the eyes. Is she grabbing your hair and shirt with a closed fist and moaning or fighting back moans? Or does she seem like she's just droning on wondering when you will be done?
Girls don't want to explain shit, that's what you're there for. Be the strong, confidant man who takes what he wants from the woman who you are so much more powerful than and can protect her and whatever.
Enjoy the pursuit
Until you either grow a 7 and a half inch dick or you become amazing at fucking, chances are that your best bet at getting a girl to cum is foreplay. At the very least, it is much easier to get her to cum with your dick once you get her half way there with foreplay. I usually get her wet, have her blow me to get the easy one out and then I we make out or we get whatever foreplay stuff like eating her out, slapping her ass, making out definitely fingering her real intense until you are ready to start slow and fuck the shit out of her.
Dont skip right to the end. Have patience and you might even find you enjoy the foreplay more than the actual sex.
Be comfortable
A girl is like a physical, living ball of insecurities and the last thing you want to do is make that situation worse. You want to minimize her insecurities. I'm not sure I understand this one but don't stare at her vagina a lot. Especially if it looks like she shaves but it's growing back a little. Be very aware of what your doing because if you do anything that even hints that there's something about her you don't like. That can snowball real fast. Don't let her mind wander and keep moving. Never stop. Always be making out or fingering her or caressing her. Even if you have something to say to her. Keep the mood going and look comfortable. Nervousness is contagious.
Those are my sex tips for beginners! Yep, follow these rules and I think you'll truly be a guy that stands out to a girl in a way that makes her want more.
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