
10 Things That Aren't So Prideful If U Think Hard:
Feminism alert.
No hate speech would be tolerated. Because you've been warned, duh.
1. Real men marry virgins
This is even worse than : "smart men don't believe in marriage". Cause if sex is a choice, marriage too ain't compulsory.
For instance, my parents were each other's first. Mom's very attractive, still she saved herself for marriage. My daddy lost it to the first woman he ever laid eyes on. Yep, that's some romantic crap that I respect. He stayed virgin until he found the one, it won't be wrong of him for wishing to be somebody's first (although my dad and I try not to care about such matters).
Of coarse the society and your parents would approve of such arrangement - its only natural. BUT, the factor of sexual satisfaction still has the power to break people apart. Sex is a important part of life, don't be tied down before you're perfectly ready, before you've taken your would be life partner on test drive.
Speaking as a virgin, I would flatly reject a guy who's inexperienced in that department, and, he too has the right to. You and your partner should click everywhere, there's a large portion of life ahead.
Or alternative : if you want virgins, be one yourself to begin with.
2. Real men can cook
Tumblr quote :
If a man writes woman a few sonnets, he loves her.
If a man writes a woman 300 sonnets, he loves sonnets!
Some doctor offered me a salesperson job for I was charming and my oblivious mum gladly took it up. Being sincere is one thing, playing with words might still be related to that one thing (I'm a writer for fuck's sake), however people try to link up everything. Literally. Sales and novels/poetries don't have much in common. Don't know how he envisioned me there.
Truthfully, Human beings are complex, not perfect. Sooner you realise that, better for you.
So your future partner did a couple of nice things? That doesn't automatically qualify them for a good lover! One of my friends got engaged to somebody for he knew basic manners and had seen the kitchen of the house. She said she'd never seen a guy so keenly stay behind to serve others at the table first! Again. Bam, rejected by me.
Why? Do I like bad boys and such? Not really, just hate the welfare-doers like him. Proving themselves worthy by "being nice". My male cousins too help my aunt in the kitchen, both are arrogant jerks. Speaking with experiences, she pimps - hold you in the air & swing you in front of your folks - either expect something in return or torture you in private.
One more example is my tutor's brother. Excellent in maths and computer, a good friend to almost everyone, even I might've opened to him twice. My mom that year talked my year off of how he'd the "right one". Irritating, yeah?
As for chivalry some of you might be perplexed about, I appreciate doors being opened and boxes being carried for me, thanks but unnecessary. I'd still see you as any other guy.
3. Family comes first
Just no. Humans are selfish creatures. Sooner you accept, at ease would be your connections.
I admire somebody just as selfish as me. Please drop your three dollar act of nobility. Show it to your elders, maybe they'd slap your back approvingly.
Charity is great. Saving the last cookie (because I'm a slow eater) is sweet. Putting your primary group above me as I wave detach myself from my own? Not quite.
For instance, one of my mom's youngest friends is facing problems with her marriage. She felt it was kind of him to always put his family first, the first priority for him over everything.
Now that she's married she's finally able to see it. His folks come first, then his little daughter, then his sisters, then their children (lol), finally her. Even when he brings something from his foreign trips, this family dude keeps her on waiting list. She's educated woman, of coarse she isn't the best homemaker, Mr Benevolent finds it difficult to accept.
One tip for people like him :
Why don't you get a good housekeeper instead? That'd save you a lot of hassle.
Any of you who might've queries regarding my obsession with bad boys...
My brother is one. Causes trouble at school, gets lectured nearly everyday, lies, one of the naughtiest kids in my opinion...
Still a sweetheart. Offers me a bite of his chocolate (sharing = caring), always. Takes care of me after quarrels (even when I'm at fault), helps people whenever he can with gratitude his only motivation, surprises me with candy on period days and isn't an outright jerk most of the time like me. Yet, I'm the image of golden for everyone.
So let's not form opinions too quick of someone? You never know.
(part two on its way, stay cool).
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