Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
Before I begin, let me remind everyone that this is specifically myTake, it's mine. I cannot speak for every single person. I cannot. I cannot say how well this applies to other demographics, like men for instance, because I do not live my life as a male. I have, however, spoken to other fellow victims/survivors. I will keep everything confidential and try to keep identifying details out as much as possible. These people do come from different walks of life. From cousins, daughters, sons, students, employees, etc.
This list is, obviously, not exhaustive nor complete. There are other things (if you have been through sexual abuse, feel free to comment what you do not like reading/hearing). Also, this list is in no particular order of importance.
I am anonymous now, but might change it. Many of you have probably heard these stories or recognize my writing style, my lingo, and will be able to identify me from the get go.
These are common things I read here on GaG, all over the internet, and even in everday life. I will admit, they used to infuriate me yet leave me disheartened and depressed me. But it is not completely people's faults because not much is spoken about with victims of sexual assault/violence. This isn't a cry for help, we're not looking for sympathy 24/7, we just want people to understand a few things. I know it's hard to understand when we try our best to not speak of it, only to very trusted friends and family or our therapists, or even for many, to ourselves. So I want to speak about the elephant in the (chat)room. What exactly do we get frustrated to read/hear?
1. "if s/he dresses a certain way, she was asking for it. What did s/he expect?"
Yes, I'm starting with the classic. I know it will cause a shitsorm in the comments because many of you are adamant to repeat this.
This mostly applies to female victims. Especially females ages 12 (if she's physically developed)- 50s. What was she thinking wearing that bikini to the beach? What was she expecting? I'll answer that. Maybe sand to get everywhere. Perhaps a nice tan, at worst, some unsightly tan lines. Not to be groped, not to wake up with a stranger's fingers inside her, not to be raped.
I cannot even count how many people believe that clothing is an excuse for sexual assault.
I actually had a talk with someone who believed this to be true. I then asked "Well, what of the women in the middle east who are covered head to toe in burkas?"
"Aw but that's different because they don't even respect women."
"Ok, what about the little boys who were molested by priests? Should they have expected it because of their clothing?"
"That's different because they were sick fucks."
"What about elder abuse? There are people who have raped the elderly."
"Again, that's different because they are just crazy sickos."
"How is it different? So you really think that those who rape 'attractive women' are not sick fucks too? Do you not see a pattern here? No, the pattern isn't the victims' clothing. Not their mannerisms if they were 'flirting too much', it's obviously not their age nor gender. The pattern is in the perpetrators. They all do not respect people and think it's ok for whatever reason. They are the ones who's actions should be controlled. Not the victims."
I know many of you will disagree with this picture, but it is true. Not any of these women are asking for it. Not a single one.
2. "Why did s/he wait so long to report it? I don't believe it's real, they're just looking for money."
This one is very difficult for those who've not experienced it to understand. Sexual Assault is not always stranger danger. Many times, it's done by those you once loved, trusted, respected, even looked up to. Also, many times, they threaten to hurt you. They threaten to kill you or your family, and you are left feeling even more helpless because you see they are capable of doing this act, they surely would take it further.
Especially with celebrities or rich people, the victims are afraid that they will have good enough lawyers to just sweep it under the rug. See the Dupont heir case.
It is not always easy to just speak up. There are many factors that keeps victims scared, especially minors, because we do not know what that person will do next. With known pedophiles and rapists getting slap on the wrist, lax sentencing, it is disheartening and frankly discouraging because we know they will be out faster (if they even serve time) than we can heal and regain our sanity and strength. This is why I don't think there should be a statute of limitations for cases of sexual assault.
3. "Damn, that teacher was so hot. Why did he report it? He should be grateful. Any guy who says they wouldn't have sex with her are either lying or fags."
This is such a common and infuriating thing to read. I cannot count how many supposedly grown men posts these comments when a "hot" teacher rapes a teen boy.
Then these are the exact same who will go on and on about how "no one takes male rape seriously!" Hmmm. I wonder why not you fucking hypocrite?
Men have a really hard time reporting their sexual abuse for fear of being seen as weak or gay. So comments like "that fag kid should be grateful" are what helps keep men silent about their abuse. Especially teens and young boys because their reputation affects them more.
And when other guys do speak out against it, "you must be a homo too." Like really? Heavens forbid that a man has self control and not want to be raped by any desperate pedophile, no matter how hot she is, without his sexuality being questioned.
I personally know a man was raped by a woman as a boy. Unfortunately, he was extremely suicidal. He confessed to me that he had told his uncles and they congratulated him and when he said he did not enjoy it, they called him gay, fag, and even hit him. "No brother of mine is raising a fucking sissy boy. You are a real man now, enjoy it." Ugh, this is another reason I do not like machista attitudes.
4. "It happened how long ago? Seriously, you need to get over it. Not every person is going to hurt you."
This is a complicated one because it is very hard to regain trust in people. It is even harder if the abuse happened to you as a child, especially by a relative or someone you once loved/trusted. Is it healthy to not trust people? No of course not. It leads to paranoia and isolation. But do not expect them to give strangers high fives. It is hard to regain trust, it's one of the hardest things to mend once broken. And it is insensitive for others to say "oh get over it already." Yes, people do say this a lot more than they should to victims.
5. "Why is s/he cutting herself? S/he wants to inflict more pain than s/he's been through?"
Personally, I have never cut myself. My dad did enough that lol Sorry, I had to throw in a joke to lighten the mood a bit. No, but he seriously did used to beat me enough to not want to inflict pain on myself.
Other victims, sometimes do. And it all stems down to self hate. Though I did not cut or go through anorexia or bulimia, drug addiction, or other typical methods of pain numbing, I was suicidal. For a very long time. This was back when I was religious, I used to pray every night that I just would not wake up. I would be afraid of the dark not because of monsters like your typical child but because of people, I would cry knowing that I would wake up with my underwear off and someone towering over me in my sleep. Touching me, causing me nightmares for so long that weren't actually nightmares.
I am not suicidal anymore. I have not been for years. But I do still not fully love myself. It is a battle everyday. Not only do you hate people, but you learn to hate yourself. I remember reading in biology books how our body has all these mechanisms to protect us. The body is a wonderful machine that knows how to fend off unwanted threats. Then I remember thinking why the fuck did it not defend me? How could this fleshy meat bag just shut down as this happened to me? How could my brain freeze when my fight or flight response should have kicked in? Where was my burst of adrenaline? Did my body fail me or did I fail it?
I hated myself everyday. I hated how much of a coward I was. I looked for any imperfections I had and just kept adding them up and my self hate grew so much, I even wanted surgery so badly to fix myself. I wanted to be someone else so badly to forget who I was, what had happened to me years ago. I don't hate my small boobs like many would believe. I just hated my body that I was lookig for any scapegoat, anything even surgery to change it.
This is a reason why I think the prison sentences we have now are bullshit. Bullshit. Because "20 minutes of action" or whatever amount lead to so much pain. I have been through therapy and Im still not fully over it. It's been years, over a decade and I still don't have my full sanity back. So while these pedophiles and rapists get 1 month, 6 months, 3 years, even 10 years I don't think it's enough. Many of us struggle daily for so many years. It's not always on our conscious minds, but it is lingering there like a dark cloud just waiting to pour on us when we least expect it.
6. "She slept with 20 boys in the bathroom? What a disgusting whore."
I am in no way shape or form saying that ALL promiscuous people are victims of sexual abuse. I am not saying victims should be promiscuous or whatever. But many who were, do become promiscuous.
With that case of that girl who had sex with all those boys in the bathroom, I was extremely disappointed and disgusted by the comments from ADULTS. Calling her a slut, whore, skank, dirty, every name in the book. But did they know what happened to her prior? She was a victim of forced prostitution since age 13. Her body was used for the pleasure of grown men daily for more than a year. I'm not saying that the boys in the bathroom raped her. But this poor young girl was taught that her body did not belong to her. She was taught that when her legs were open and a person wanted in, she was to oblige. She was taught that "no" was not on option to her anymore because her body did not belong to her anymore.
I have had friends who were not forced into prostitution but raped or molested as children. They grew up to be promiscuous. Is this merely a coincidence? Probably, probably not.
As I have stated, it is very hard to unlearn some things, especially when you were taught them from such a young age.
Not every victim goes through promiscuity, however. Others, like myself, become super reserved. I did not even have my first kiss until I was an adult out of high school. Did not hold a boy's hand, did not even hug. I still do not like to be touched. I do not like pda. I am not a fan of physical contact. I once made a joke that I actually would prefer to be punched than hugged by a stranger. And it holds truth. I remember someone on here asking if we'd rather get beaten or raped, I would take a million beatings before a rape. I have been beaten before. And the blood dries up, bruises heal, bones even heal, scars and scabs are pretty cool tbh, and wounds close up. With rape or sexual assault? It's not that easy.
Regardless of our methods of coping with our bodies, we are learning. Some of us are learning that we can say no and choose who gets to touch us. Some of us, like myself, get overzealous with that and decide to not let anyone touch us ever and even require our significant other to ask for permission because it's a bit strange that they do that instead of just going ahead in your sleep or by force. Others, like the fact that we can say yes to whoever. And that leads to them just being happy being able to say yes and enjoying sexual encounters on their terms, with whatever partners they please.
Whether s/he learns to say yes to everybody or no to everybody is up to him/her. Your judgements only make it harder for him/her, so please keep them to a minimum.
7. "Woah, you are really angry hearing Turner's sentence."
Many of us actually get even angrier to read the injustices others have faced over our own. I spoke to a user here who was also a victim of pedophilia. And he was more bothered to hear the shit I've been through then his own. And I know I can relate to this. It is incredibly infuriating when I read these stories of rapists, pedophiles, etc just get away like nothing. It is so painful to read like the letter of the victim to their rapists, their suicide letters, etc. I cannot fully explain why, but it just bothers some of us more than recounting our own experiences.
8. "Anyone else has rape fantasies?"
You cannot want to be raped. You cannot, that simply goes agaisnt the definition of rape. You want rough sex maybe, you want to be dominated, but you cannot want rape. I know many of you think it is just easier to say it because writing "I have rough, dominated sex fantasies" is a bit longer, but it subconsciously imprints into the minds of people that there are people out there that *want* rape and that it's ok to do so. There is no such thing as "consenting rape", nobody asks for it, see #1.
9. "I was a victim and I still think s/he deserved to be raped."
This one is for you my fellow victims. I will admit that I have been one to say something like "that skirt was so short and she should not have drank that much and be surprised she got felt up."
Again, I know many of us are self hating. I know we are. I can see it even when we claim to have "moved on". But please, do not extend that self hate on to others. Don't make him/her feel as terrible as you do. I get it, misery loves company. And I personally am one to do this.
But we have to support each other. Sometimes other people just do not understand. But we do, we should know better. Remember all those condescending questions you received? Remember how your actions were scrutinized leading to the event, leaving you feeling like the guilty one, leaving you feeling like it was your fault? Remember how it led you to hate yourself even more? Please do not continue this horrible cycle that just ultimately makes it tougher for your fellow victims to overcome this.
10. "At least that pedophile is going to be raped in jail."
This one is a split one. Personally, I do not like to hear it. Because, as I said, nobody asks for rape and no one deserves it. Does that mean that I think s/he should get a pat on the back for hurting a child? No. Of course not, I know this sounds fucked up, but torture that fucker for all I care. But I still don't condone rape in any form. I know these are twisted ethics, but I did mention that I am not fully sane, probably.
This one is split and I know many victims who feel some form of "relief" that they will be put in the same shoes they put us through (I completely understand them as I used to feel this way too), I know others who are indifferent, and others who, like me, do not condone it to anynone (anymore).
11. "Men get raped too!"
I am not bothered that people are concerned about sexual assault against males. I am very glad when people are enthusiastic about it because it raises awareness. I am, however, bothered when alleged activists all of a sudden care when female rape and sexual abuse is being discussed.
I get it, there aren't many articles that discuss male rape, and I agree there should be more that do. Personally, I cannot as I'm not a man. Again, I can tell you experience based on what certain men have told me of their rapists or pedophiles. But it's a very limited perspective. I do encourage it because it's a very necessary discussion.
I do fully agree, support and applaud any genuine efforts to shed light on male rape and sexual abuse. I do not, however, support people interrupting one conversation of trauma with the intent to detract from it. By this I mean, people would have otherwise never mentioned nor cared about it until it's convenient in that it detracts from other conversations. Just like with the all of a sudden worried people about homelessness when speaking of immigration. Stop bringing them up when it's convenient to you. It makes it seem like you're not actually worried about them, just using their misery (that you otherwise would not think about) to silence others.
Unless the author states it or the article is open to it, it is not helpful to bring it up out of spite. I actually had a friend who one week posted about the "hot teacher" who raped a boy and then the next week had the audacity to post a pic about how male rape is not taken seriously. I was just like "wtf? oh hell no. Last week you captioned her photo and said 'these kids should learn to keep their mouths shut. She can rape me anyday.' Yet now you care for male rape? Gtfo with your non genuine concern."
I am open to comments on male rape and pedophilia, I am not a male so I would like to know more about it. Unfortunately I did not state much because I cannot speak as a male.
Again, this list is not exhaustive nor listed by importance. This doesn't even apply to all victims/survivors. But it should help some of you understand why it's so hard for us to speak up (this take was something I wanted to make for a while but a certain users comment helped ignite the gasoline), why many of us are self hating, how we cope, how we feel when we see other victims.
I want to thank y'all for reading this, I hope it was at least a bit helpful, I'm sorry it's so lengthy, please feel free to comment but please be respecfful.
Thank you and #SeeMyWork
What Girls & Guys Said
18 19Another hateful bullshit, yay! Did we asked for this? No!
If you want to help the victims, this is the most pointless and disgusting you can do it, here on internet at least.
And by sharing hate and disrespect you will help no one.
Also, as i can see about half of editors on this site needs to be fired, at least those under 18.. How can someone under legal age even can be an editor on such important site?
When you are a boy and you get raped people don't understand why you don't want to be touched by girls they think you are gay. I was raped by older girl. I've had girls touch my belly when my shirt went up or rub my belly and when I said stop they assume I'm gay. Now I agree no one should be raped but if I was a girl people would be like oh honey that's terrible. This is a great mytake by the way.
I still don't get why people get so upset when you tell a person to make smart decisions in order to reduce your chances of getting raped. A person shouldn't get drunk at a frat party because something bad will likely happen. However, people seem to claim that as blaming the person who got raped. That person has to put themselves in a good situation since being smart and controlling what we can is the best defense.
So what about the children who get raped? And the elderly? And men? Do you have any wisdom to pass on how they could have prevented their rapes too?
Most of the rapes I hear about that occur is due to being heavily intoxicated to where they are unconscious of ther surroundings or make very poor decisions. Other rapes there sometimes is nothing anyone can do which is unfortunate.
Yes but pedophilia is still a huge problem. Prison rape is still a huge problem. So interesting, only women can prevent their rapes, but everyone else is just "unfortunate".
There's nothing really a kid can do. They can't over power somebody and run away. They might not scream because they don't know how to act. They could tell somebody but they might be scared to. It's unfortunate but if there was a way to guarantee it wouldn't happen somebody would have done that by now.
Same with women. Why is that female rape doesn't get an "that's unfortunate if there was a way to prevent it, it would be done by now" too? There are women literally covered head to toe and they still get raped. I used to think it was up to the victim. But literally, you're not preventing rape on a mass scale. If a completely modest and conservative girl covered head to toe, not even kiss a boy before marriage or whatever because of her religion can get raped, and many do. I'm starting to think clothing and actions of the victim have very little to do with it.
I'm sure clothing has a tiny bit to do with it in some situations but there's no reason for a person to change their clothes for the purpose of reducing their chance of being raped. I'm sure clothing has almost nothing to do with it. Making smart decisions and knowing your surrounding are the only ways to greatly reduce ones chance of it happening to them.
So I guess those dumb women who are covered head to toe should just have avoided eye contact with all men because their actions do provoke much rape.
I don't see the points to your comments. All you do is throw words into other's mouths to make them look bad even though your comments have no basis.
You're the one who said that their actions could prevent it. But I'm telling you some women do exactly everything y'all claim that would prevent it, dressing modestly and not being "flirty/provocative" yet they still get raped. So why do you keep repeating it if it doesn't work as well as y'all claim?
Not everything can be prevented. If it could nobody would go broke, get murdered, etc.
Yet the girl at the party could... Interesting.
Clothing has NOTHING to do with it! Why are yo all so stuck on what people wear? Nudist resorts report less rapes than the average town or city. Places where you literally wear nothing, has less sex crimes than where people are required by law to cover up. So how can wearing less have anything to do with the rapists fucked up choice?
@BaileyisDarcy thank you!
@BaileyisDarcy omg preach yes
It's pretty ignorant to think clothing has zero to do with it. I'm not saying any one should alter the way they dress. That doesn't really matter. Wether clothing has a 1/10 of a percent to do with it or a 5 percent chance to do with it there is a possible impact it can have. It's like walking down a horrible street where gangs are. Chances are the person is going to get robbed but the person wearing a nice suit is certainly at a higher chance of being robbed than the guy who is wearing ripped up clothes and looks like a hobo.
I've said this once, and I'll say it again. I live in the hood, live in the ghetto. I was born and raised here. And you are actually less likely to get robbed if you look all nice and fancy. Why? Because we assume your ass has a good lawyer and the cops will definitely handle your shit on the quicks. Sadly, poor people tend to rob other poor people because we know your just as shitty as me, probably hate cops like we do, and you won't be able to afford a lawyer. So not only are you wrong about how rapists work. But you don't know shit about how petty criminals work. I was born and raised in Chicago, with gangs everywhere. They don't go after suited people, they actually rob more from crackheads.
Ok. Since you're such an expert on prevention, how should children avoid getting raped? Does their clothing factor into it too? What about men in prison? And the elderly who have gotten raped? And what about the women in the middle east covered head to toe? They can't even be out in public without a man. How much does their burkas factor into their rape? What safety precautions can they take? I literally want to know because I'm having a hard time deciphering what they're "doing wrong", I want to know exactly why they get raped, how much their clothing and behaviour factored into it, and what they can do to prevent it. So please, enlighten me.
What do robbery crimes have to do with rape? Robbery is cold and calculated. They wait for the right person, watch them, decipher their behaviour, get close, then strike with fingers in pockets and walking off with wallets that aren't theirs. Rapists? No. Most rapes occur with the perpetrator being somebody the victim knows. Somebody they trust. An uncle. An aunt. A cousin. A parent. These people dont give a shit what their victim is wearing. Only about how likely it is they are going to talk. So shut the fuck up about clothing!
I can see you aren't going to be reasonable in this debate. Goodbye.
How? Am I asking legitimate questions. I am willing to see it your way provided you explain yourself. I already told you I'm familiar with gangs and ghettos and I'm not sure why people assume rich guys get robbed here. They are less likely than your average crackhead. So give me responses to the other questions and I'll fully agree with your premise that drunk party girls can prevent rape, provided their reasonable responses of course.
There's no point. When I make a point all you do is throw words in my mouth I didn't say and twist my reasoning. This is my last reply. Goodbye.
You have no rebuttal. You know pretty much know you have no responses to my questions.
You made a weak point. As I said, plenty of rapes occur when women are literally covered head to toe. You clothes has even a 5% chance or whatever. But what about the women in burqas? What about the children? You said that a rich man in a suit would have a higher chance getting robbed in a bad neighborhood. Also false. Because I'm from here. I was raised here. They're less likely because we know they got cops and lawyers on their side. You just want to ignore my rebuttals.
The thing is myTake Owner, is that there are a big difference between a child thats innocent to the going on with the world and a person who fully understand the risk and accepts it. For example, driving. Say Car A is like the girl- another driver on the road, and Car B is like the rapist- a hooligan/streetracer who can't control himself and drives fast on public roads instead of racetracks. A crash occurs, the sentence or compensation would be different if Car A is drunk whilst driving vs Car A being a defensive driver In a state of drunkness, Car A has contributed to their own crash by failing to employ defensive driving tactics such as stopping at the side of the road when they saw the car behind them is clearly going way too fast for it to be controllable. Meanwhile, if she was not drunk and was defensive to start with, the whole fault would be on the hooligan for crashing on a car that clearly tried its best to avoid it. Search "Comparative Negligence".
@123cheesecake and what difference is there between a grown woman in a burqa and a grown woman in a mini skirt?
My main point is not about her clothing- I am with you in that attacking someone simply on the way they dress is completely animal like. However, what I am after is the choices of circumstances like being drunk. You can dress like a party girl but have a safety of a group to look after you- minimising the risk of "animals" which sadly exists in our society.
@123cheesecake yes, but these women are literally taught to not flirt with them. No drinks, no acting flirty. Still getting raped. The very thing we tell party girls that is supposed to prevent rape is not working.
If they have done everything within their power to minimise such risk then I am with you, however, anything less is comparative negligent.
@123cheesecake no woman is to blame dammit.
This literally brought tears to my eyes I wasn't raped but I was molested when I was four years old. The worst is trying to laugh along and act like it doesn't hurt when friends or class mates joke about it only to fit in. I don't even remember the actual occurrence it was also more than a decade ago but I still have the pain from it. I remember phycologists appointments and that one appointment with a doctor to check if anything was damaged. My mom took him to court and won he was placed under house arrest.
The only one I disagree with at all is 11. Yes, some people use it as a smokescreen. But it's -also- true that there's apparently never a time to bring up male rape. Things are occasionally written about it, and nobody cares or pays attention. It gets swept under the rug. So complaining that when rape is being discussed, male rape is brought up... is quite insulting. In general, men might have privileges in our society, but -as victims of sexual violence- they have -less- support than women do. So telling them and their advocates to be quiet and bring their problems up another time is really a big problem.
If it's with genuine intent, yes. But I specified that if this is the only time they mention it, then it's a shitty move. Tbh, most just do it with the intention to silence female victims and that's what I don't tolerate. Do I think more articles should address male rape? Yes a million times. And I hope at least one man reads this and decides to make one.
I've seen articles that made my skin crawl. Nobody cares. The -only- time male rape is ever brought up is after female rape is.
OK, maybe you’re aware that around 70% of divorces are initiated by women, that obesity is a huge problem, that game is a necessary component of successfully dating in 2016, and you’re aware that society is training toddlers to become trannies. But if you don’t immediately discount every thing that comes out of the mouth of the girl you are gaming, you’re purple pill (at best). Always, always always look at her actions, and ignore her speech.
This past weekend, I met a Chinese student who had just graduated college in the states. She said she hadn’t been in a relationship for over a year, and only had two real boyfriends since coming to the U. S. as a teenager. She told me her friends are pushing her to find someone, but she doesn’t date because she “doesn’t want to be with a guy who’s only looking for fun” and wants something serious. For a moment, I believed her. After all, she was raised in a traditional Asian household, was not a party girl, and stayed out of mainstream American life, socializing mostly with other Asians (her English was broken and bad, even after living here for 6 years).
Two hours later, as I’m banging her in her shower, I reflected on how this was only happening because I completely ignored everything that came out of her mouth and proceeded gaming her. Purple pill Max would have taken her at her word, been friendzoned, and given up, hoping for an easier target. But this experience reinforced how everywhere and always, one must ignore a female’s words and observe only her actions.
What does this have to do with rape and sexual assault?
So you're a predator and you found her weak spot and exploited it? Let's hope she doesn't seek revenge. This is not something to be proud of. Some women are stronger willed and not so easily taken for a ride.
@ObscuredBeyond this guy is disgusting, honestly
@FallOutBoy2001 In 2016, the proper way to demonstrate to your date that you enjoy spending time with her is not by giving her a small kiss as you part ways, but instead to violently choke, slap, spit on, and say demeaning things to her as you pound away at her genitals. This is the proper first date behavior in most cases, if you wish to see the young woman again. I have only recently discovered this truth, and experimented last weekend with said Chinese student. Every violent and aggressive act I initiated was welcomed and encouraged. I took advantage of the Father’s Day holiday by instructing her to say filthy things about what her “daddy” was doing to her (daddy being a stranger she did not know several hours earlier), and she happily obliged. Sadly, I do not yet possess the masochism to spit on or port-o-potty a stranger, but we are moving in that direction, and I feel I must learn this skill in order to remain competitive in the dating market.
There's #NO_EXCUSE_for_RAPE
90% of the guys here are focusing on the SMALL part of this that discusses female promiscuity. I swear the guys on this site make me wish I was a lesbian. We're talking about the long-lasting effects of being the victim of sexual assault (including pedophilia) and all they care about is that girls having a lot of sexual partners. Ugh.
Thanks for this take. I wish more would take it to heart.
Thank you and yes I agree. And then they constantly say "men don't slut shame. It's women who do it!" Yet they can't even empathize with a 15yr old girl who was formerly forced into prostitution smh
I know. Like have some compassion. 😤 Forced prostitution? At 13? Yet the fact she was promiscuous afterwards is clearly the bigger issue! Lol
Exactly. They are stuck in their ways. This take was for them to see how fucking hard it is for us to be aware that our bodies our ours again after so much sexual abuse. It's not easy to just be like "he wants sex but I don't. Ok, let me say no" when she was forced, I bet even beaten, to say yes to everyone since she was 13. But nope. They think her being promiscuous is the *real* wrong thing. Ugh. I really wish they would just for one second take time away from hating women and learn to emphasize with a fucking 13yr old rape victim. Is that really so much to ask?
Couldn't have said it better myself.
the girls in the bathroom is surely a whore. And when you go out in such slutty clothes what do you except? Men who tell you you dress classy and respect you? No you except them to think your sexy and arouse them? Just be honest.
Did you not read she was forced into prostitution at such a young age? It is difficult to love your body and to regain control of it after that. It takes years. I'm not talking about men's stares or comments. They can look and stare all they want. But cleavage is not an invitation to touch. "Too much leg" is not a "yes" for sex. Look all you want but keep your hands and all body parts to yourself.
I read all and nobody force her to sleep with all this men in the bathroom it's her desicion you can't blam your past for all the things you do today. When you dress like a whore it's because you want it. Why do you do it then if it's not for that?
Lol yea she's slut because eberu guy fucked her in bathroom and she was ok with it
Alll I see on here is bitter women, women in real lifr are far more happier and calm lol Thank god only women like this exist on here
"With that case of that girl who had sex with all those boys in the bathroom, I was extremely disappointed and disgusted by the comments from ADULTS. Calling her a slut, whore, skank, dirty, every name in the book"
What else are people supposed to call her?
Sloots gonna sloot
Did you read the rest of it? She was a victim of forced prostitution at 13.
Idgaf. Did anyone force her to have sex with 25 guys in a bathroom? Sloots gonna fuking sloot
So the bigger issue to you is her having sex on her terms than her being raped by numerous grown, disgusting men daily since she was 13? Ok then. There's no point talking to you.
What?
No one ever deserves to be raped or murdered... However, the best way to deal with rape is to prevent it. And to prevent it, women need to be aware of their surroundings and always know how to defend themselves.
And the men and children who get raped?
Same with them.
No one ever asks to be raped. I would however urge people to be careful with alcohol. Know your limit. And generally dont exceed that limit on a night out. As a guy I know not to do this as you can get mugged or taken advantage of. Same applies to women.
And of the men, elderly, and children who get raped? What should they do to prevent it?
Same applies to them.
Lol make sure children watch their alcohol intake.
Not every rape or sexual assault victim has alcohol. I was still a child and did not drink at all.
I was assaulted by my brother 5 years ago. I still haven't told anyone, I just act like it never happened. Why? because it will destroy the family. it will ruin my mother, who's already in great sorrow. it will ruin my brother, even if he did assault me, I don't want to ruin his life, I don't want him to go to jail. 5 years and I'm still keeping it to myself, no one knows about what happened and it hunts me to this day.
don't act like telling someone you got raped or assaulted is an easy thing. it's not. stop putting so much pressure on sexual assault victims.
I am sad on what you lived girl. And I am % 100 sure your brother isn't a non believer. Either he is a muslim or a christian. Probably from USA or Middle east.
@Proof_Striker55 okay, but those racist remarks are totally unnecessary. fyi, he's an atheist, and we're from australia. your post could have been so much better and comforting if you didn't use these absurd remarks.
What did he do to you? Assaulted? Did he beat you or raped you? "your post could have been so much better and comforting if you didn't use these absurd remarks." Sorry but this is not absurd remarks. I live in Turkey , Here rape and sexually assault happen by radical muslims to their sisters. Atheists and communists strongly condemn and criticize this. İt happened many time in Turkey. I don't know your brother , and what you faced with him 5 years ago. I just said my opinion.
And I am really sad on your situation.
I didn't say it's easy and similar thing happened to me. I'm just saying it's necessary
Awesome take! I agree with pretty much everything here! The part about male rape also hits close for me. I am always so sick about the female teachers with young boy and how guys react to this. As a teacher myself, the position alone makes that kind of relationship rape- I don't care how old/ hot they look (and I admit some of my seniors are eye catching) you are a in a position of authority to these kids, and they are not developed yet like you are.
I say this issue hits hard for me because I was taken advantage of by sisters friend, who was 14 at the time and I was 20. I woke up to her blowing me and I have bad allergies so I take lots of benadryl at night and I was just so out of it that I did not really know what was going on until after I came.
I still to this day have never told anyone because A. I know for a fact I would be found guilty of pedophilia because as you said, society and thus laws make it hard on men in this way. B. I still can't even call it rape because our society has instilled in me that what happened to me, can not be as bad as what men do to woman. Men always want it, I got hard and came from it too, so how could it be rape?
Now I don't consider myself traumatized, but I will never ever forget the feeling of having someone do something to me that I never asked for or wanted, and was powerless to stop it or do anything about it after the fact. And this is why I will always stand up against any form of rape for men or woman.
Thanks for sharing your story. I'm sorry that happened to you.
Thank you for sharing. I do think you should speak to someone about it. I'm sorry this happened to you and I hope you're ok.
Another one? I thought I saw one about misconceptions about rape a little while ago.
Anyway, I will say the same thing as I said last time. There is a better way to handle a person's immodest dress. If a young lady is dressing herself immodestly, this does not mean you can rape her. Instead, just give her a look and tell her to dress modestly next time. Immodest dress is unprofessional, indecent, school and work-inappropriate. See what you've done here? You've used words to admonish the woman instead of breaking the law by raping her.
good words