28 and still no action…?
Tell me what to do, I’m all ears and I’m kinda getting desperate here… I just don’t want to end up like that “40 year old virgin” guy…
Thats a massive topic to cover not knowing anything about you. What things do you currently do to meet new people or women? What is your appearance like? What things are you into? Are you shy? What is your job? Why do you think you haven't had any luck?
Exactly what this says! Factors are important and improving those deterrant (or something that doesn't attract much women in general) would likely be the cause of it. First of all, I dont think it has to do with shyness because he seems upfront and confident so scratch, but he chose anonymous so, could be looks, could be embarassment, could be financially instable... Tell us asker!
@BeccaKendell ok, I’m living with my grandma, unemployed, I’m a student finishing my MS thesis, I’m epileptic, I have a small, really small belly, no muscles, I don’t drink, don’t smoke, just do anti epileptic drugs, I don’t get out much, my mum and my grandparents really put me under the glass bell since I was 11 because of my epilepsy so I don’t think I’m a person who knows how to “deal” with meeting new people or how to be around them… Is this of any help?
Absolutely yes, for the most part it's just your social-lessness and underlying conditions that stops you. I think there's really no rush, you're 25 and shockingly in Asian countries men are virgins until in their 30s and it's completely normal. My advice is, just try elevating your social experience, talk to a lot of people irl and touch some grass, see some daylight, and hopefully it'll just come your way. One thing, you should initiate conversations bc they might be shy just as you would, but inaction leads to nothing so.
Well since you want to fix the "problem" then that means we have to figure out what other problems you have that are causing this one.
Do you have more than one struggle most women aren't checking for? Like, short and fat? Unemployed and no money? Living with parents and no car? You can mix these up or come up with other pairings but if the answer is yes, that's a start as to why you're having this "problem".
Actually, I’m very tall, 6,2/185cm, I have a small belly, I’m a student finishing my MS thesis, I’m unemployed, living with my grandma, I’m epileptic, don’t have a car and I’m not very socialised. I don’t drink, don’t smoke and I don’t go out because I don’t have friends…
You do have more than one struggle though. You're unemployed and you don't have a car. At your age, you have time to get those things but the women your age probably aren't going to like that you're unemployed and you have no car. You also live with your grandma, do you have a plan to soon moveout? That's great that you're in school but why are you unemployed? How long will it take you to finish your degree? What are you going to do with your degree and why aren't you dating the girls who are also in school with you?
No, I’m not planning to move out, I’m going to inherit my grandma’s apartment and all her estate, a long of it after she passes, not long from now… I’m not employed because I’m doing my research for my MS thesis and I hope to finish it by the end of this year, if not, to hell with it, I’m gonna go get myself a job, any kind of a job, I’m just tired of being unemployed. But if I do finish my degree, I have some connections and plans to work in the government, something like police agencies, security agencies and stuff. It’s good money and I hope I’ll like the job…
I'm not sure what "categories" there are, but it isn't an issue. Just sounds like you aren't meeting the right girls. Where do you tend to meet women?
The thing is, I’m not meeting any girls! Here, where I live, things are complicated, always have been, always will be… if you don’t share the exact same religious and political views, if you don’t have money and a good car, if you don’t drink and/or smoke, then you aren’t a match for her! And the thing is, I’m none of these things above, I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, I’m epileptic, I’m unemployed, I’m a student finishing my MS thesis, I live with my grandma, I don’t have a car and to make things worse, I've got a belly…😔
I can see how it would be tough then. Let's look at it this way though, you are focusing on what is important, your schooling. Once you have that diploma in hand, then comes the job. Then comes the money for the car, house and other niceties. Then you have a lot to offer! Maybe your time is just not right now. Once you have that all sorted, then you can focus on girls. As far as "I've got a belly". Well, that is something you can work on too. Let me tell you something. I would not care if you were 32 and a virgin. Would not bother me one bit. Here is why. Girls tend to look at that as a special moment when you lose it. Same goes for how we view a guy. The fact that we are the ones to share that experience with you is exciting. If it were me, I'd put extra effort into making it special and memorable, not mock because you were still a virgin. Any girl that does mock, doesn't deserve to be your first time.
Well, there you have it: Join a gym to get rid of the belly and coincidentally meet women there! Bam! :-P
Maslow addresses being "Self- Actualized" That includes not seeking fulfillment, but seeking circumstances that will provide it. Shut off the TV, internet porn and video games. Seek out interests that will place you in the public eye such that a female can come along and be attracted to you from shared common interest.
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shut up obsessing over it, you'll lose it quicker.
Actually, I’ve never told anyone about this before or even talked about this… it’s just, I’m just waiting all these years, I’m almost 30, I just don’t know what to do… it kinda gets depressing from my point of view if you ask me…
exactly. you don't "have" to tell anyone, you're already obsessing over it it will be projected clear as anything.
Hard to know without knowing you or why
There can be many reasons and it's hard to tell with the information you've given
Well if you wanna have sex, go have sex with a girl XD you do that by asking, in case you're wondering.
You're just 28 man. Why don't you now find a girl a bang
I'm in the same boat for socio-economical reasons, and my fucking "father", who did nothing more than screw up my mother's and siblings life; beside mine.
What girlfriend should any man expect to have when you are jobless?
The closes thing I had to a face to face relation, was a 3 years LD relation that failed. I truly don't wanna hate my father, but is tough; nearly impossible to not hate him.
Have you asked a girl out?
The category is Virgin. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin---indeed, if you're not married and don't intend to get married, it is the wisest course to remain a virgin, especially these days---just like there's nothing wrong with marrying and losing your virginity. I'm a 40+ year old virgin guy, and I don't think that there's anything to be ashamed of. Virginity at any age is, if anything, a source of pride, not of shame.
Try to find a relationship and don't make the goal getting laid. Sex is fun and all but it really is pointless without emotion.
Do you go out and socialize? I mean without knowing you, it's hard to tell.
Sex isn’t your problem. Meeting people is. Sex is a side effect of a romantic relationship. So focus on that.
I’m 26 and I’ll be 27 in 3 months. All I can say is don’t rush it
Ok buddy but have you ever had sex? Have you been in my shoes? Have you ever had a girlfriend?
No buddy I’m a virgin, never been on a date, never kissed a girl. Yeah it was a long distance relationship.
Sex workers exist for reason. This is very common so most guys lie about sleeping around a lot and act like player which actually works for finally getting laid because women insult virgins all the time
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