28F, should I hold myself accountable for being single as long as I have?

[Anonymous]

I’m convinced I’m never going to find a boyfriend again. 28F, haven’t dated someone since I was 23 or had sex since. I’ve been on and off the dating apps, getting matches are never the issue. It’s always the ghosting, fizzling out, lack of connection (goes both ways) etc. I’m told I’m pretty/cute but always being single makes me question if I really am. I refuse to settle which is why I stopped seeing that person when I was 23. If a girl is attractive why is she always single? I don’t have much of a sex drive or even masturbate but I think the right person will change that. I know it doesn’t help that I’m reserved but I never get approached in person which is why I’m on the apps very sporadically. I’ve become less interested as years have gone by, even when I was active & more engaged I encountered the same issues. I’m known to second guess or self sabotage, it shouldn’t play that much of a factor in being alone this long though. I just don’t get how women find partners so easily, I feel like I’m one of the least experienced & acknowledged women ever, even though I’m

[misogynistic_pig]

You don't necessarily have to take responsibility for being single for as long as you've been single.

Life is a road full of ups and downs and unexpected situations, and you may have experienced circumstances that have made it difficult to find a partner.

It's important to remember that love life is only one part of our life, and that there are many other areas where you can find happiness and fulfillment.

Also, being single is not necessarily something negative or problematic, since it gives you the opportunity to focus on yourself, your interests and your personal growth.

However, if you are uncomfortable with your single status and want to have a partner, it may be helpful to reflect on your expectations and behaviors in relationships, and look for ways to improve your social and communication skills.

It's also important to be patient and not push yourself to find a partner, as love and relationships are natural processes and don't always happen at our pace or at the time we want.

In short, you don't need to blame yourself for being single for a certain amount of time.

Instead, it's important to focus on yourself, your interests, and your personal growth, while keeping an open mind and patient in your search for a partner.

[Effably]

They try. Put themselves out there. That's it really.

It can be done in many ways. If you just went to parties every two weeks that would more or less guarantee things for you. Because that exposure and you interacting with dozens of new people changed everything.

And that is what people misunderstand about trying and not. Trying is to interact with many, and consistently some new, people. It doesn't matter much if you're pretty if you don't do that. Of course looks only get you to the door. Or as a woman maybe into bed. Need to let your personality seal the deal beyond it.

[jshm2]

You may have looks, but you've a shit personality and no charm.

[Dargil]

No. You have made conscious choices along the way. None have harmed you. You can always choose differently starting today.

[exitseven]

We are all masters c of our destiny.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If they fizzle out, its because they have nothing in common with you, what are your hobbies? Thats where you wanna start.

[Imsmurter1]

You can be my girlfriend I'm single too at my age. there you go problem solved please dm me.

[peterrezeeek]

no dear that is ur chance in ur last years its not necessarily to be wrong it depends on your place, ur community ,, everyone has deferent life.. for example am 20 years guy am still virgin with not even a kiss or touching... for many reasons but its ok am sure that one day may i find my dream girl when i be able to live and have a statable work and thats my problem... we live in very bad i was born with the war and we can't earn money even for food...
thank for god but thats not my fault...
if i were in ur area i would be to know u and have a great life together.. ❤️

[ilovefeet007]

Why choose to be single? Do u desire a companion?

[Jennaisasissy6]

Can make her feel better about her life with her and her outfits for me with her mom is not

[Anonymous]

No, it's Trump's fault.