42 YEARS OLD & NEVER MARRIED?

[mrdimples78]

No point... just turned 42 & no kids/wife/ex-wife... is that odd? Am I secretly gay? ALSO I had a bad accident in 2018 wherein they amputated both of my legs from the knees down... And I have questioned whether any woman will still want me in this condition... feedback? p. s. everything still works... And I'm still voraciously handsome... just kidding!! I'm not conceited... what I typically would do is run around telling everybody how handsome I am and of my fantastic skills in bed.. and I think I was trying to convince myself not so much them... feedback? please be honest but kind...

[standingUP]

Well your issue has nothing to do with the list you made for yourself. The issue is you are comparing yourself to others that should never have any influence on your topics you are assuming for yourself.

You are unique no matter what the circumstances are. Hey nobody else do the things you can do so be grateful for what your qualities are.
Lack of marriage doesn't equal being gay so that is the only confusing part only you can figure out. Hell you're 42 and still have over half your stuff.
I had lost everything far a possessions twice by your age. Another thing to be thankful for.
If you want a woman then ask God to prepare her for you. He most likely already is since this is on your mind. You are putting the energy out there for that to manifest. However with your doubt and confusion your mind is stomping on the planted seed ready to sprout.
So if you have an idea whatever you want , KNOW it is coming to you and believe without a doubt and it WILL MANIFEST. So be careful what you ask for.

[lightbulb27]

There are women out there who are more caregiving and feel good when they are caring for someone. I think if you can make an emotional connection, you have a good chance.

It's not easy for most I would say. I was in same spot at that age minus the accident. I've had more relationship experience and growth since that age than all time before. It is a matter of working on yourself, developing dating skills, social skills and loving yourself. There are women in wheel chairs... that might not be ideal, but they think the same. There are women who can't see, etc.. It does narrow the field some, but not to zero.

And there are international women who would love to leave their country and maybe they'd make that tradeoff. That's not easy to achieve, there can be risks, fraud, etc..

I think #1 is figure out what happened the prior 42 years... that's probably your childhood that needs worked out. That's what I found.

Good luck to you.

[mrdimples78]

Wow you seem really deeply insightful like Bob 27 LOL but yes I agree with you wholeheartedly it's about growth reflection and introspection learning from our mistakes I've spent much of the past 16 months and drug rehabilitation centers I've learned a lot about myself

[mrdimples78]

I'm sorry but I can't quite decipher with a nickname like light bulb 27 are you a sir or a maam?

[lightbulb27]

Blue is male, I'm accurate profile. many are not... can't trust anything out here, that is wise. Trauma therapy be essential... the answer to "why" is located in your past, I'm confident of that. Addressing the emotional traumas and getting past the lies is your power to transform to the next phase of life. As you know... life changes like... every 10 years.

[mrdimples78]

But I guess you still never did really answer my question as two male or female and who is"blue"?

[lightbulb27]

I'm confused what you are asking. maybe you are very new to this site or I don't understand. your name comes up in blue color, that means "male". It could be anyone though who selected a male profile. A pink name is female. I'm a male.

[mrdimples78]

Yes thank you I'm sorry I see it now.. I guess I wasn't making the connection to the color for whatever reason although I think I already knew that boys were blue girls were pink,... brain fart!!!

[Iwjwmsmsnsjsns22]

Hello sweetie

Yes i think a woman would marry you if you are disabled. I'm so sorry that happened to you dear. But I am so glad to hear you seem to be doing so well now.

How are you doing?

[mrdimples78]

Hello my dear. To whom do I have the pleasure of speaking with? Also I am quite well thank you yes I suffered a terrible accident in 2018 but I'm a survivor there's a light at the end of the tunnel I'm going to be a motivational speaker and tell my story kids.. to hopefully persuade them to make different and better choices than what I made that resulted in my being in this chair

[Iwjwmsmsnsjsns22]

We were talking on the 'why no guy likes me' question. That is very cool of you to do for them. You have a good personality so you have a lot going for you compared to other people who don't think much about others or tall down to everyone they meet. I don't see why you wouldn't get married!

[mrdimples78]

I used to play that I was this tough hard-ass indestructible type character tough guy then I realized that not only am I not that but I have to let the rest of the world now that I am not that... Ultimately I love people I care for people they piss me off and get on my nerves and I have trouble getting along with them that's because my own dysfunctions for someone learning... One day at a time... One day at a time...

[mrdimples78]

Never in my life I thought I've been the sort of person that would seek pity or empathy... Where do I want to be pitied I only want to be an inspiration for folks to be the best version of themselves they can be..

[Iwjwmsmsnsjsns22]

You are seeking empathy? I like a strong man :-)

[mrdimples78]

EMPATHY? WHERE DID U GET THAT? HELLS NO... LOL

[mrdimples78]

I was saying "NO" to it...

[Iwjwmsmsnsjsns22]

Oh, so what do you seek, sweety?

[mrdimples78]

Respect, admiration, xhilaration,.. why you will marry me?

[Iwjwmsmsnsjsns22]

That is nice... And exhilaration from a woman? How? Are you proposing to me? Lol

[Iwjwmsmsnsjsns22]

Thanks for MHO :)

[Nikki1989]

Hey, confidence is a turn-on.

[mrdimples78]

Being confident Wheeling my crippled ass ur way?

[Anonymous]

Same here, because it makes for a simple, stress free, meditative life and I wouldn't have it any other way. I love most women, and most women love me... but I love my freedom, hobbies, strength training and peace of mind more. My advice to you, is to do you, live live as you want to, not how others expect you to.

I'm also very handsome. The other week this temp at work asked me if I was married, i said no. Then she asked me if I had a girlfriend, I said nope... then she said ''I don't believe you'' LOL. I couldn't convince her that I was single.

Concerning the amputated legs, I'd day that a lot of women would judge you for it. Only if you happen to find one that has gone beyond her ego, and raised her level of consciousness would this not matter to her.

[mrdimples78]

I like you already, Mr. "Anonymous"...

[mrdimples78]

Actually I may be falling in a type of love with you... a "bromance" if you will... LMFAO

[Opinion Owner]

Ha! Well that's the beauty and interest of the world is it not? everyone can be different! Recently someone told me that I should be married. When I replied how boring the world would be if every single person did the same thing... he had to agree. I also had this really cute married woman tell me of all of the benefits of being married... but she then asked me for my phone number. I guess she didn't realize by doing so, she undid all of her hard work!