Sexually active men are considered "winners" and women "experienced," while someone who saves him or herself in chastity is taken to be a prude, sexually incapable, or repressed by the Church. Despite what you see on TV or in movies, sex is a big deal. When you have sex with someone, you are physically and emotionally saying there is no one else you would rather be with in that moment. This goes back to patience. The saying is that love is patient and kind, not quick and convenient.
2. You are desirable
The girl or boy you are dating or talking to should want to have sex with you. They should have to work for it. What makes them so deserving of your big night? There is nothing sexier to your partner than saying that you waited to have sex with the right person and that person is them.One of the reasons to remain a virgin for as long as you can is so that when you are ready to have sex you can be proud of your decision and know that you are making the choice because it is what you want, not because of peer pressure, guilt, nervousness or uncertainty.
3. A self-gratifying feeling for yourself
Being able to say that I’m still a virgin for my own personal reasons and being able to stick to them makes me feel so good about myself. With all of the temptation, persuading and weak moments that I may have had, I didn’t give in.
4. It increases the repertoire of ways to show affection
The couple who practices abstinence finds new ways to show affection; they must use inventiveness and ingenuity to have a good time and to demonstrate their interest in each other. The relationship becomes stronger as they have more opportunities to get to know each other’s character and habits, and learn the ways to maintain the relationship.
5. My first experience will be with my husband!!!
The truth is, sex is binding. Within a few short moments of sexual contact, our bodies release a powerful neurochemical that facilitates emotional bonding with another human being. There’s something physiologically intimate about that, but more so, there’s something emotionally intimate when two people connect as one. Anyone who is really interested in you in the long-term is going to be perfectly happy with waiting a little longer. If it’s a dealbreaker for them not to do it in the first few dates, they weren’t someone you should be seeing in the first place.
Psychologists found that couples who waited until after their wedding night rated the stability of their relationships 22 per cent higher than those whose physical relationships developed earlier. Those who practised abstinence were also found to have 20 per cent increased levels of relationship satisfaction, 12 per cent better communication and 15 per cent improved "sexual quality".
Have you ever had a boyfriend? Have you ever had your first love yet?
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sparkly-crystal
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Yes, I'm currently in a relationship.
TimeKeepsSlippin
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Understand this. Your first love is more valuable than your first sex. Virginity is just a concept. I used to be so adament that my first time had to be with another virgin. Once i lost my virginity to another virgin, I soon came to realize it is first love that matters most. I rather have a girl who has never been in love and had sex before THAN a girl who is a virgin and has been in love
sparkly-crystal
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weird lol
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TimeKeepsSlippin
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How so?
Deconstruction
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Because she can't grasp complex ideas.
Anonymous
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That's coming from a woman. Doesn't play out the same way for guys, sorry.
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Anonymous
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Good point, and an excellent mytake.
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Anonymous
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I get ya. Most people don't understand and their flesh rules. But I get ya 👍🏻
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Anonymous
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Nothing in favor of staying a virgin was correct. Starting with five, no definition of "sexual contact" was made. Does that refer to orgasm? What is sexual contact? How is that defined? Number four – finding new ways to show affection! That sentence presents something so vague as to mean nothing. I asked, what does that mean name some new ways. Thousands of years of modern civilization, not tell me about finding new ways. Platitudes, they sound great they mean nothing. Number three a "self gratifying feeling." After all the garbage all the baloney the the meaning of self gratifying feeling means everybody masturbates. Why don't you just come out and say it? Number two – "you are desirable." And this is exactly what is written down – "they should have to work for it." It is unbelievable that somebody would write that and in a loving relationship you should have to work for it. What what is this an episode of the bachelorette? That is very insulting to either party and finally number one – "there is no one you would rather be with in that moment." Your damn straight what about another moment? Sex is a big deal and love is a big deal to but to equate the two without any definition of why they must be associated is analogous to saying gasoline can run cars but so can diesel fuel therefore gasoline is the same as diesel fuel. This take only makes sense if you realize that someone is trying to pull the wool over your eyes. That they have an agenda, that with no backing of proof they make assumptions that are incorrect and have no justification but they do it with a flare that is meant to disguise that agenda
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Anonymous
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17 and giving lessons on virginity? Try later perhaps
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Anonymous
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that's it?
girl everything about being a virgin AND waiting for marriage is awesome and empowering... npt just 5 reasons lol
would. not. have it any other way
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Opinion Owner
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hahahaha i love how all the guys are hating on this... for obvious reasons lol
Anonymous
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It sucks if you're a virgin not by choice. And if I were desirable I'd be throwing my dick all over the place.
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Anonymous
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1. "Love is patient; Love is kind." That is from Paul's first letter to the Corinthians. Though, he was actually talking about God's love and the reciprocal human "love" that humans owe to God. Humans should "love" other humans in the same way they love God, because other humans are created by/given life by God. It'd be nice if you had included the originator of the adage. Like many things in pop culture, so many biblical quotes are misquoted.
2. I agree with your other points, though. :)
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sparkly-crystal
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I'm talking about human love and God's love
Anonymous
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I like this, but it sounds like you're saying that non virgins always rush into sex. I didn't I took my time, with my best friend and boyfriend since I was twelve. And it was anything but rushed.
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Anonymous
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Proud virgin here. Loved your MyTake :) Like you, I only masturbate like everyday ;)
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sparkly-crystal
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who said i masturbate everyday lol?
Opinion Owner
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Ok, every other day
Opinion Owner
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Why can't guys understand that just because we are virgins it doesn't mean we are prudes!
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Opinion Owner
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We are proud masterbaters!!! 🙌🏻
Opinion Owner
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Amen we love putting dildos in our v'jay and ass !
Anonymous
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Other reasons why it's better to stay virgin:
1. You don't need to freak out and think you're pregnant just because your period is a few days late.
2. No STDs. Even if it's not AIDS, Chlamydia can turn into full blown sepsis which can kill you if not treated.
3. You can know which guy is right for you and is patient enough to wait. (if he's pressuring you into sex then he isn't worth your time.)
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Anonymous
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Nice Take! You did a great job!
I'm not a virgin by choice. But I'm not in a hurry to lose my virginity. And I also don't feel bad with myself. I don't understand why being virgin is a such a big deal for some people. It doesn't make you better or worse than anyone else.
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Anonymous
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Sex is fun (and good for you).
Brainwashing is not.
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Anonymous
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I'm still a virgin. It's just a choice I've made because like you said, for some of us, sex is a big deal. I'm not a prude and I'm not religious. Among the reasons you listed, I agree with #1.
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Anonymous
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Thanks for handing us a tissue to wipe our tears with. Now let's continue crying.
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Anonymous
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This is bullshit. This information only applies to people who are virgins by choice. Any virgin who simply can't find anybody to fuck will find this useless.
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Anonymous
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guyd marry virgins. My husband knew he wasnted to marry me when he met me at a friends wedding.
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Anonymous
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Gotta do what's right for you.
If I was living my life over, i'd make much more of an effort to have sex sooner, and understand that sexual compatibility is much more of an issue then i'd been raised to believe it was.
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Have you ever had a boyfriend? Have you ever had your first love yet?
Yes, I'm currently in a relationship.
Understand this. Your first love is more valuable than your first sex. Virginity is just a concept. I used to be so adament that my first time had to be with another virgin. Once i lost my virginity to another virgin, I soon came to realize it is first love that matters most. I rather have a girl who has never been in love and had sex before THAN a girl who is a virgin and has been in love
weird lol
How so?
Because she can't grasp complex ideas.
That's coming from a woman.
Doesn't play out the same way for guys, sorry.
Good point, and an excellent mytake.
I get ya. Most people don't understand and their flesh rules. But I get ya 👍🏻
Nothing in favor of staying a virgin was correct. Starting with five, no definition of "sexual contact" was made. Does that refer to orgasm? What is sexual contact? How is that defined? Number four – finding new ways to show affection! That sentence presents something so vague as to mean nothing. I asked, what does that mean name some new ways. Thousands of years of modern civilization, not tell me about finding new ways. Platitudes, they sound great they mean nothing. Number three a "self gratifying feeling." After all the garbage all the baloney the the meaning of self gratifying feeling means everybody masturbates. Why don't you just come out and say it?
Number two – "you are desirable." And this is exactly what is written down – "they should have to work for it." It is unbelievable that somebody would write that and in a loving relationship you should have to work for it. What what is this an episode of the bachelorette? That is very insulting to either party
and finally number one – "there is no one you would rather be with in that moment." Your damn straight what about another moment? Sex is a big deal and love is a big deal to but to equate the two without any definition of why they must be associated is analogous to saying gasoline can run cars but so can diesel fuel therefore gasoline is the same as diesel fuel.
This take only makes sense if you realize that someone is trying to pull the wool over your eyes. That they have an agenda, that with no backing of proof they make assumptions that are incorrect and have no justification but they do it with a flare that is meant to disguise that agenda
17 and giving lessons on virginity?
Try later perhaps
that's it?
girl everything about being a virgin AND waiting for marriage is awesome and empowering... npt just 5 reasons lol
would. not. have it any other way
hahahaha i love how all the guys are hating on this... for obvious reasons lol
It sucks if you're a virgin not by choice. And if I were desirable I'd be throwing my dick all over the place.
1. "Love is patient; Love is kind." That is from Paul's first letter to the Corinthians. Though, he was actually talking about God's love and the reciprocal human "love" that humans owe to God. Humans should "love" other humans in the same way they love God, because other humans are created by/given life by God. It'd be nice if you had included the originator of the adage. Like many things in pop culture, so many biblical quotes are misquoted.
2. I agree with your other points, though. :)
I'm talking about human love and God's love
I like this, but it sounds like you're saying that non virgins always rush into sex. I didn't I took my time, with my best friend and boyfriend since I was twelve. And it was anything but rushed.
Proud virgin here. Loved your MyTake :) Like you, I only masturbate like everyday ;)
who said i masturbate everyday lol?
Ok, every other day
Why can't guys understand that just because we are virgins it doesn't mean we are prudes!
We are proud masterbaters!!! 🙌🏻
Amen we love putting dildos in our v'jay and ass !
Other reasons why it's better to stay virgin:
1. You don't need to freak out and think you're pregnant just because your period is a few days late.
2. No STDs. Even if it's not AIDS, Chlamydia can turn into full blown sepsis which can kill you if not treated.
3. You can know which guy is right for you and is patient enough to wait. (if he's pressuring you into sex then he isn't worth your time.)
Nice Take! You did a great job!
I'm not a virgin by choice. But I'm not in a hurry to lose my virginity. And I also don't feel bad with myself.
I don't understand why being virgin is a such a big deal for some people. It doesn't make you better or worse than anyone else.
Sex is fun (and good for you).
Brainwashing is not.
I'm still a virgin. It's just a choice I've made because like you said, for some of us, sex is a big deal. I'm not a prude and I'm not religious. Among the reasons you listed, I agree with #1.
Thanks for handing us a tissue to wipe our tears with. Now let's continue crying.
This is bullshit. This information only applies to people who are virgins by choice. Any virgin who simply can't find anybody to fuck will find this useless.
guyd marry virgins. My husband knew he wasnted to marry me when he met me at a friends wedding.
Gotta do what's right for you.
If I was living my life over, i'd make much more of an effort to have sex sooner, and understand that sexual compatibility is much more of an issue then i'd been raised to believe it was.