5 Reasons Why I Don't Feel The Need To Lose My Virginity Anytime Soon
Anonymous
1) It Doesn't Make Me Any More Or Less Of An Adult
I hear it all the time from other teenage girls:
"Oh my God, you haven't done it? You're such a baby!"
"Guys will think you aren't mature enough for them."
"If you haven't had sex then you don't know what a real relationship is like."
But how does having sex make you more mature? Does it change your opinions on politics? Or knowledge of world issues? Or make you more a responsible person?
Probably no.
2) It Won't Make A Guy Want To Be With Me More
I've heard this one more than once.
"If you don't give him what he wants, he's going to leave you."
Well honestly, if he leaves me because I didn't sleep with him then he didn't really like me that much anyway.
3) It Won't Make Me Feel Any Better About Myself
I truly believe that I don't need to have sex to know that it won't make me happier. It won't be a magical moment that changes my life and fixes all my insecurities. It won't assure me that I'm pretty and guys find me attractive and it won't assure me that someone cares about me either.
Because someone wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean you're perfect or cared for and I know that.
4) I Feel Really Confident Saying "No. Nobody's Had Me Yet."
It gives me a sort of rush of empowerment when people ask me. It's cool telling people that I've never been pressured into doing it and no guy has ever weakened me enough to have me give in. It makes me feel strong.
5) It's An Example To Other Young Girls
I like that other girls can look at me and think "Hey, she's confident, accomplished, and happy. And hasn't needed to give in to sex in order to be that way."
Now at some point it will happen, it could be two years from now or two weeks from now, but until then I am so content with myself.
1. It kind of does. Adults have sex. It's a normal thing they do.
2. Again, sex is a normal part of adult relationships. It doesn't matter how much I might like a girl, if she doesn't want there to be a sexual part to our relationship then there won't be a relationship.
3. Sex should make you feel hot and sexy and desirable! "You truly believe" something you don't have all the evidence to prove one way or the other.
4. You shouldn't feel 'pressured' or that you were 'weakened' into having sex. It should happen because you both want to. You have a warped view of sex.
5. You might not be an anal virgin because you really do have your head up your ass. Oh, you saint, you're such a great example to other people! Stop caring what they think!
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Ghassan
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For a guy that is 36 years old, I have got to say that you are NOT a good example.
meatballs21
+1 y
@Ghassan For a guy that is 20 years old, I have got to wonder what frame of reference you have for such an assertion. (my strawman can beat up your strawman!)
Ghassan
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Let's just say that I know and I honestly hate not tell people what I think is right for their own good, but something is telling me to just ignore you, and most likely because most of older people (30+ year olds) can't take an advise from younger people or at least accept a fact. I'm saying this from experience.
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meatballs21
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@Ghassan I'll take advice or insight from someone who has some to offer. Got any? You're dismissing me because of my age so I'm just responding in kind.
SnowHearthGuru
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I agree.
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Fearless_bananaYoda
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Yeah I don't feel the need to lose it anytime soon either.
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Keodkke
+1 y
you are a guy. You don't have to give your virginity to the princess charming lol
ChuhiyaXper 6
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Its a great take and I'm a virgin like you who is not in any kind of hurry to loose it...
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Puppylove94Yoda
+1 y
Good take 😊
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TheButterflyExplorer
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I agree with number 4
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Unit1Editor
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Very true! Good take!
I'm a virgin for myself and I feel exact the same way. One more thing to benefit from virginity is being pure as you didn't sold yourself out to the next someone so easily as others did =) That proves self control and the ability to repel away all senseless peer pressure and it's a huge PLUS!!!
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Raymond_ReddingtonYoda
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I'm 20 and STILL haven't lost my v card. Want to lose it asap. I can use the confidence boost. But the way I am now. No girl with some self respect would want to even talk to me, let alone spend the night with me 😂 but I'm gonna change myself. I have to. Turned 20 yesterday, so I have a year to get a girl. Wish me luck.
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phoenix2000Xper 6
+1 y
Wow cool take I feel the same😊
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SaraMcKXper 2
+1 y
Yes I agree, lose your virginty when your ready with someone your comfortible with.
I lost mine very young and dont regret my decision at all. Sex has been a wonderfull part of my life, but dont let ANYONE else make that decision for you!!!
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John_DoesntMaster
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I agree that you shouldn't be doing it any time soon because you're under 18. But most of those points are totally false though.
Keep on waiting for the right guy. If a gu is putting pressure on u, kick him in the nuts. Well done 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
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ForbiddenFractalXper 3
+1 y
Whatever makes you feel empowered, but those who have had sex are not below you or above you. Sex doesn't matter as much as people make it out to be, but you shouldn't feel "holier than thou," either. People shouldn't care.
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datgirlGuru
+1 y
Great take :) me likey
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skykidx1Xper 7
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I do argee you should wait for sex till your in love since i known a few girls who had sex with the wrong guy and still regert it till this day. However while i do belive in waiting for sex till marriage i also belive sometimes its not even worth it since i once loved this girl more then anything. I told her i would wait till marriage for sex but now she gona long story and my biggest regert. Anyway sex should come when your truly in love if the guy loves you then he will wait but you gotta do other things with him to meet his needs. I just had sex yday for kind of the first time with my new girlfriend I don't know if it wasfirst special or not.. but i do feel strongly about her.
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candyauroraExplorer
+1 y
Great Take. As a virgin I agree to all your points!
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pavloveEditor
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It gives me a sort of rush of empowerment when people ask me. It's cool telling people that I've never been pressured into doing it and no guy has ever weakened me enough to have me give in. It makes me feel strong.--------THIS IS THE ONLY REASON YOU HAVEN'T HAD SEX. YOU'RE JUST AS BAD AS GUYS TRYING TO PROVE THERE MASCULINE BY HAVING A BUNCH OF GIRLS you're TRYING TO PROVE YOU'RE FEMININE BY BEING A VIRGIN
you're not even a prude you're worse than a prude but probably much more common. you're someone who cares about the opinions of others
guys can be assholes when it comes to sex though. @ asker's age there's no point in sex aka 30 seconds.
RedVulcan
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@SovereignessofVamps... how do you know her age?
Icyfire101Yoda
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As someone waiting until I am content with myself as well, I loved reading this. In my friend group, im the only virgin left and sometimes that feels likes a burden I need to get off my chest. But these reasons are exactly why I'm choosing to keep my virginity. Maybe it's the ignorance of youth, but I want my first to be with someone I TRULY love and mutually respect. It's nice to hear that some girls out there feel similarly about sex.
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myTake Owner
+1 y
Thank you, you sound like you're making the right decision. You'll end up happier with how you lose your virginity than how your friends have.
curiousgiiirl
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We think in the same way, I'm almost 19 now and haven't lost my virginity yet and I'm so fine with it, cause honestly I find that giving the chance to some guy who's not worth doing it would be something I would regret in the future, it just seems unacceptable to me to trivialise practices of this kind. :)
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32 33I like this take. This is a nice take :)
1. It kind of does. Adults have sex. It's a normal thing they do.
2. Again, sex is a normal part of adult relationships. It doesn't matter how much I might like a girl, if she doesn't want there to be a sexual part to our relationship then there won't be a relationship.
3. Sex should make you feel hot and sexy and desirable! "You truly believe" something you don't have all the evidence to prove one way or the other.
4. You shouldn't feel 'pressured' or that you were 'weakened' into having sex. It should happen because you both want to. You have a warped view of sex.
5. You might not be an anal virgin because you really do have your head up your ass. Oh, you saint, you're such a great example to other people! Stop caring what they think!
For a guy that is 36 years old, I have got to say that you are NOT a good example.
@Ghassan For a guy that is 20 years old, I have got to wonder what frame of reference you have for such an assertion. (my strawman can beat up your strawman!)
Let's just say that I know and I honestly hate not tell people what I think is right for their own good, but something is telling me to just ignore you, and most likely because most of older people (30+ year olds) can't take an advise from younger people or at least accept a fact. I'm saying this from experience.
@Ghassan I'll take advice or insight from someone who has some to offer. Got any? You're dismissing me because of my age so I'm just responding in kind.
I agree.
Yeah I don't feel the need to lose it anytime soon either.
you are a guy. You don't have to give your virginity to the princess charming lol
Its a great take and I'm a virgin like you who is not in any kind of hurry to loose it...
Good take 😊
I agree with number 4
Very true! Good take!
I'm a virgin for myself and I feel exact the same way. One more thing to benefit from virginity is being pure as you didn't sold yourself out to the next someone so easily as others did =) That proves self control and the ability to repel away all senseless peer pressure and it's a huge PLUS!!!
I'm 20 and STILL haven't lost my v card. Want to lose it asap. I can use the confidence boost. But the way I am now. No girl with some self respect would want to even talk to me, let alone spend the night with me 😂 but I'm gonna change myself. I have to. Turned 20 yesterday, so I have a year to get a girl. Wish me luck.
Wow cool take
I feel the same😊
Yes I agree, lose your virginty when your ready with someone your comfortible with.
I lost mine very young and dont regret my decision at all. Sex has been a wonderfull part of my life, but dont let ANYONE else make that decision for you!!!
I agree that you shouldn't be doing it any time soon because you're under 18. But most of those points are totally false though.
Just don't loose it to this guy
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Keep on waiting for the right guy. If a gu is putting pressure on u, kick him in the nuts. Well done 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Whatever makes you feel empowered, but those who have had sex are not below you or above you. Sex doesn't matter as much as people make it out to be, but you shouldn't feel "holier than thou," either. People shouldn't care.
Great take :) me likey
I do argee you should wait for sex till your in love since i known a few girls who had sex with the wrong guy and still regert it till this day. However while i do belive in waiting for sex till marriage i also belive sometimes its not even worth it since i once loved this girl more then anything. I told her i would wait till marriage for sex but now she gona long story and my biggest regert. Anyway sex should come when your truly in love if the guy loves you then he will wait but you gotta do other things with him to meet his needs. I just had sex yday for kind of the first time with my new girlfriend I don't know if it wasfirst special or not.. but i do feel strongly about her.
Great Take. As a virgin I agree to all your points!
It gives me a sort of rush of empowerment when people ask me. It's cool telling people that I've never been pressured into doing it and no guy has ever weakened me enough to have me give in. It makes me feel strong.--------THIS IS THE ONLY REASON YOU HAVEN'T HAD SEX. YOU'RE JUST AS BAD AS GUYS TRYING TO PROVE THERE MASCULINE BY HAVING A BUNCH OF GIRLS you're TRYING TO PROVE YOU'RE FEMININE BY BEING A VIRGIN
you're not even a prude you're worse than a prude but probably much more common. you're someone who cares about the opinions of others
When you berate her thus, all I hear is:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRgH7HvmSiE
guys can be assholes when it comes to sex though. @ asker's age there's no point in sex aka 30 seconds.
@SovereignessofVamps... how do you know her age?
As someone waiting until I am content with myself as well, I loved reading this. In my friend group, im the only virgin left and sometimes that feels likes a burden I need to get off my chest. But these reasons are exactly why I'm choosing to keep my virginity. Maybe it's the ignorance of youth, but I want my first to be with someone I TRULY love and mutually respect. It's nice to hear that some girls out there feel similarly about sex.
Thank you, you sound like you're making the right decision. You'll end up happier with how you lose your virginity than how your friends have.
We think in the same way, I'm almost 19 now and haven't lost my virginity yet and I'm so fine with it, cause honestly I find that giving the chance to some guy who's not worth doing it would be something I would regret in the future, it just seems unacceptable to me to trivialise practices of this kind. :)