5 Reasons Why I Don't Feel The Need To Lose My Virginity Anytime Soon
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1) It Doesn't Make Me Any More Or Less Of An Adult
I hear it all the time from other teenage girls:
"Oh my God, you haven't done it? You're such a baby!"
"Guys will think you aren't mature enough for them."
"If you haven't had sex then you don't know what a real relationship is like."
But how does having sex make you more mature? Does it change your opinions on politics? Or knowledge of world issues? Or make you more a responsible person?
Probably no.
2) It Won't Make A Guy Want To Be With Me More
I've heard this one more than once.
"If you don't give him what he wants, he's going to leave you."
Well honestly, if he leaves me because I didn't sleep with him then he didn't really like me that much anyway.
3) It Won't Make Me Feel Any Better About Myself
I truly believe that I don't need to have sex to know that it won't make me happier. It won't be a magical moment that changes my life and fixes all my insecurities. It won't assure me that I'm pretty and guys find me attractive and it won't assure me that someone cares about me either.
Because someone wanting to have sex with you doesn't mean you're perfect or cared for and I know that.
4) I Feel Really Confident Saying "No. Nobody's Had Me Yet."
It gives me a sort of rush of empowerment when people ask me. It's cool telling people that I've never been pressured into doing it and no guy has ever weakened me enough to have me give in. It makes me feel strong.
5) It's An Example To Other Young Girls
I like that other girls can look at me and think "Hey, she's confident, accomplished, and happy. And hasn't needed to give in to sex in order to be that way."
Now at some point it will happen, it could be two years from now or two weeks from now, but until then I am so content with myself.
I agree. You have sex when YOU want to. Make that first time special. I also want to do that.
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I'm unsure on sex before marriage and my boyfriend is cool with that. We just dry hump and I let him touch my chest and he's the only guy I've ever done that with.
No sex yet and though I sometimes feel like I want to and get jealous that has had sex before (pretty sure he did when he was with his ex), he never really mentions any other girls, even when we were friends I didn't hear of them and he hates his ex, would say in so many words that he preferred me to her even when we were friends and admitted he even liked me back when he was with her.
I don't think I have to worry about her since he got rid of her on fb years ago (before we were even together) and doesn't contact her.
He always saying he loves me and wants to marry me and keeps whispering things to me lately like "You know I love you so much". He worries about me and has said before he doesn't know what he'd do if he didn't have me. He once asked what I'd do if he died so I told him and asked him the same and he told me he'd be really depressed and stuff. he says he misses me a lot and whenever he does anything to upset me he says he feels bad - Last time he felt bad about upsetting me he genuinely looked and sounded like he was going to cry!
Earlier I mentioned something that bugged me was how I'd like to talk on Skype or fb call more and a couple hours later he video called me.
He's said before that I'm his one true love and assures me he knows he won't like anyone else when I get worried about it. He once told me he never got on with anyone as well as he got on with me. He compliments my looks and personality, has a picture of me as his phone screensaver, tried to get more used to hugs for me since he didn't used to like them much but I did, nearly every day he tells or messages me he loves me.
Last time I saw him I can't remember what we were talking about (think he was on about how I was less shy now or something, like my braver side was coming out or something like that) and I mentioned how I'd gotten his "lovey-dovey" side to come out now and he just got embarrassed, covered up with the quilt, and waved his hand down saying "Forget that one" and admitted he was embarrassed.
So I have never had sex with my boyfriend and yet.. He wants to marry me, says I am his one true love and looks like he's going to cry when he upsets me and he doesn't know what he'd do without me. He even says I mean everything to him, I am his world.
So rather than being with a girl he can sleep with now.. he wants me
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Anonymous
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I agree 100% with this! I am waiting for marriage and I am glad I am not the only one who is not dying to swipe their v-card! you go girl! :-)
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32 33I agree. You have sex when YOU want to. Make that first time special. I also want to do that.
I'm unsure on sex before marriage and my boyfriend is cool with that. We just dry hump and I let him touch my chest and he's the only guy I've ever done that with.
No sex yet and though I sometimes feel like I want to and get jealous that has had sex before (pretty sure he did when he was with his ex), he never really mentions any other girls, even when we were friends I didn't hear of them and he hates his ex, would say in so many words that he preferred me to her even when we were friends and admitted he even liked me back when he was with her.
I don't think I have to worry about her since he got rid of her on fb years ago (before we were even together) and doesn't contact her.
He always saying he loves me and wants to marry me and keeps whispering things to me lately like "You know I love you so much". He worries about me and has said before he doesn't know what he'd do if he didn't have me. He once asked what I'd do if he died so I told him and asked him the same and he told me he'd be really depressed and stuff. he says he misses me a lot and whenever he does anything to upset me he says he feels bad - Last time he felt bad about upsetting me he genuinely looked and sounded like he was going to cry!
Earlier I mentioned something that bugged me was how I'd like to talk on Skype or fb call more and a couple hours later he video called me.
He's said before that I'm his one true love and assures me he knows he won't like anyone else when I get worried about it. He once told me he never got on with anyone as well as he got on with me. He compliments my looks and personality, has a picture of me as his phone screensaver, tried to get more used to hugs for me since he didn't used to like them much but I did, nearly every day he tells or messages me he loves me.
Last time I saw him I can't remember what we were talking about (think he was on about how I was less shy now or something, like my braver side was coming out or something like that) and I mentioned how I'd gotten his "lovey-dovey" side to come out now and he just got embarrassed, covered up with the quilt, and waved his hand down saying "Forget that one" and admitted he was embarrassed.
So I have never had sex with my boyfriend and yet.. He wants to marry me, says I am his one true love and looks like he's going to cry when he upsets me and he doesn't know what he'd do without me. He even says I mean everything to him, I am his world.
So rather than being with a girl he can sleep with now.. he wants me
I agree 100% with this! I am waiting for marriage and I am glad I am not the only one who is not dying to swipe their v-card! you go girl! :-)