5 Things I heard when I had a Pixi-Cut

[Anonymous]

We've all heard it...some of us, or most of us, are very attached and sensitive about our hair...I mean come on! Its on our fucking head. How could we not? Sometimes if we are brave enough, we experiment with our hair, and cut it all off! I've had the pleasure of having my hair down to my back, and above my jawline. Now, let me explore with you, my journey of annoying ass shit I got to hear during my time with le-pixi!

1) "Aren't you afraid you'll look like a boy?"

Lol. This one had me cracking up. Especially after having this go-pro picture of me taken during an airsoft match in the hills. I had a guy that I was "talking" to and he basically stopped talking to me because my haircut was too....manly...and not fitting the status-quo of CALI GIRL. Pft. Fuck off. LADIES: if you want to cut your fucking hair, DO IT. And don't be afraid of looking like a dude without makeup. You have tits, and a vagina...you are female...no matter what is on your head. (no pun-intended...just noticed that.)

2) "Awwww! Why'd you cut your hair!?"

Maybe because it's none of your damn business. Why on earth do people, especially people who do not contain utter importance in your life, find the unavoidable, UNNECESSARY need to ask such a stupid fucking question...that is mildly insulting? I'll tell you why: because they simply find it different...and they see you're struttin with your pixi and are adding just a little too much hater-sauce to their noodle-life. If you've heard this from someone when you have recently cut your hair to a pixi....you KNOW how irritating it is when a person found the nerve somewhere within themselves to come up and ask you such a question.

3) "What horrible happening did you go through that made you cut your hair?"

Of all the things I heard, this seemed to be the most ironic; seeing that almost everyone has a chance to eat a steaming pile of figuarative dog shit in their day-to-day life. No, I didn't go through a break-up, or anything particularly dramatic to decide to cut my hair. I was actually seeing someone before I cut my hair, and it was going well...until I cut my hair...and then it suddenly didn't work out. lol. I simply wanted a change. I did it gradually from an A-line, short in the back, longer in the front to my pixi cut. I did it because I wanted a change. I can't speak for anyone else on the matter, though!

4) Women with long hair are sexier

That is the biggest load of shit I have ever heard. All women, with all different types of hair are sexy. Its not a one way street with hair. Who in the fuck thought that a certain length of hair determines your sexy-meter. Hey, I practice every day, I look in the mirror as I'm brushing my teeth and say "Yes, Nadia...you are a sexy beast...even if your hair looks like total shit today." And it works rather well. I get up every day with the attitude that we have the opportunity to determine how people treat us. Don't allow someone to try and lessen your worth by telling you you're not appealing enough without long hair.

5) I like you better with long hair

Aaaaaannnnndddd I like you better with your mouth shut. This is tied into number 2. How much I love this remark. I like me better as ME. Long or short hair. It doesn't matter.

At the end of the day, we are all allowed to do whatever we want with our hair. Man or Woman. I think since the pixi and shorter haircut has become a little more popular in the last couple of years; however, unfortunantely I cut my hair when every one had the long hair trend going on, and anyone who wanted to be the girly girl in cali had long hair. Bottom line, if you feel comfortable, and beautiful, you don't need to worry about everyone who dislikes pixi cuts. Many people might say that I used this opportunity to show my own photos. But it was actually much easier to upload my own photos than to browse online for the right ones. lol. Plus, I was vaguely reminded of the ignorance of people when one of the people I graduated from high school with made a joke about my current cut...which is a bob. I plan on growing my hair out, and cutting it off again! ITS JUST HAIR. IT SHALL GROW BACK! :D

[BaileyisDarcy]

Pixi cut!!

I have one, and have been wanting one since I knew what short hair was (my step mum stopped taking me to the dressers once I hit twelve and started thinking for myself what hair I wanted. She hated the fact that I wanted short hair)

I think I look pretty hot with short hair, I always hated the way it would curl under my chin and get in my face and mouth. It would get caught in stuff, my younger siblings would pull it, I would use so much shampoo and conditioner and not understand how my step mum, who had a horses mane of hair, could stand using the 50 cent piece amount I was always being told to use.
Then I move out, move in with my mum, get up the confidence. And boom, not a pixi cut at first, but a crew cut. A teensy bit longer than that though.

So yeah, I went from hair past my shoulders, straight to where the hell is your hair?

And I got every single one of your points. Every one.
I've got friends asking me who I only met a month or two before the first cut, who want to know what I look like with long hair. But stuff it if they think I'm going to grow it for them.

(Plus now I know how to use only a small amount of shampoo and conditioner XD)

[Anonymous]

I would like to comment about one of your points if I may.

1) "Aren't you afraid you'll look like a boy?" A lot of girls can't pull off the pixie look. Especially when they don't keep the hair long in the front like you did. Even then a lot of them actually do often end up looking a lot like young boys. You are lucky in that your face is very feminine so you don't have that problem. The more masculine her face is the more like a boy she will look. The hair coming down the side of their face really help to soften their looks giving them a more feminine look.

Men have a similar problem in that we tend to go bald. A man that is balding looks much worse with long hair. The long hair and the bald spot contrast so much it makes his bald spot more noticeable. People need to learn what looks best for them, instead of thinking just because it looks good on a celebrity it will also look good on them.

People are certainly free to do what they want, but a good friend will also want to help us and tell us if they think we are making a mistake. So sometimes they give their opinion when we didn't ask for it.

[myTake Owner]

When it comes to hair, I've only trusted my hair dresser to let me know what might as well as might not look well on my face. The only cut my face can't handle is straight across bangs... because I have a rather small forehead. lol. It would look very odd! But thank you for your respectful opinion... unlike the gentleman above! Have a lovely day! :)

[ImSoSozzled]

Let me start of by saying, I agree that most of those things are rude to say, and I do not ever condone putting people down. People need to think before they say shit like that. That said...

Most guys don't like short hair. That's just how it is. If that fact makes you angry, you are just insecure.

www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1466562-what-hair-length-do-you-like-on-a-girl
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1034118-what-is-your-preferred-hair-length-on-women
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1107769-do-you-prefer-long-short-or-medium-hair-length

Now, like I said, I don't approve of people saying rude things like "you look like a boy" or "you looked better with long hair" but I don't think we should act like men are in the wrong for (dis) liking certain styles of hair, as you seem to imply in your 4th point. Just like it is okay for everyone to look how they want and cut their hair how they want, it is okay for everyone to like what they like.

... as long as it's legal.

[dartmaul15]

The only problem with the pixie cut is that it's hard to pull off.
You can't just overnight decide to go from long hair to pixie, and expect it to look perfect. It needs to fit the rest of your clothes and body.
And that's it!
That's everything there is to it. Pixie cuts are just hard to do, that's all.
Nothing left to fuzz about. Make sure they're done right and that they suit you. The rest? Feel free to not give a flying fuck what they think you look like or how it makes you look! Because you look like YOURSELF, and at the end of the day... the only one you should ever change for is yourself.

As for you, you're one of the fw lucky girls who can pull off a pixie cut nicely.

[sheabutter]

Amen! When I got my pixie cut, I was met more often with approval than these responses, not that it would have mattered to me either way. I liked my hair long, but for several reasons I love it even more short! People should be able to do whatever they want with their hair, or any other part of their body.

[loveisbeautiful]

I never personally had anybody say these things to me, however just having short hair and knowing people think that makes a woman less attractive, bothers me. I think people don't seem to get that everybody has right to look the way they feel is best and people are entitled to not like it, but they don't get to be jack ass and say things to you that are hurtful.

People think that you're upset because people stated an opinion of how they felt about your hair. What people don't get is there's a HUGE difference between and opinion and unnecessary comment. All those things you put in this take that people said to you, were unnecessary. That's my opinion.

I've had short hair for a long time now and I love it, I change my hair cut and color a lot but I get bored and like to experiment with different looks. And, that's my right to do so. I don't expect people to like every look I sport, but I do expect that they respect my choice to look the way I want and at least be tactful in what they say to me, should they choose to express their dislike for it.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you. Someone explain that to the self-proclaimed Sensitive guy. This post was meant to throw a little humor in what people said to me when I had this haircut. I mean, common, I wasn't crying in a corner about it, I would just laugh it off. It's my hair, and I chose to have it this way. It's not a big deal. However, when I have people comment on here acting like I shit in their cornflakes, and I personally am attacking them, are the people that feel like it is alright to go up to people and try to make them feel less of themselves... and them call it an opinion. That is hypocritical. I'm sure if someone gave them an "opinion" that was insulting their person, or making them feel self-conscious about what they had on them, they would be pretty quick to scream red.

[loveisbeautiful]

You're welcome. Just so you don't feel alone in this, I recently wrote a mytake on here also about hair. Most of the girls agreed with what I said but most of the guys claimed I was "angry" and "bent of shape over nothing", when I wasn't even angry at all. I was in a very calm state of mind when I wrote that and I wrote it because I always hear guys say they like women with long hair and then I saw a guy on hear say "ladies stop with the pixie cuts" and then in that moment I decided it was time to express my opinion about it. I wasn't being mean, I was just honest and trying to put emphasis on my point. However, that's not how people took it. So, I get how you feel. Truth is, no matter what I write on here people miss my point all of the time and think it's okay to say mean things to me because "it's the internet and you can say what ever you want". This maybe the internet, but that doesn't give people a free all access jack ass pass lol.

[loveisbeautiful]

So, I totally agree with everything you said in your comment to me.

[kxera]

You look absolutely gorgeous, sexy, beautiful with a pixie cut!

I like the longer hair, but the pixie cut just looks absolutely fabulous and perfect on you!

[aamy811]

I get dumb comments like these because I have curly hair. People are so dumb and ignorant

[genuinlysensitive]

"4) Women with long hair are sexier
That is the biggest load of shit I have ever heard"

Actually it is the truth the vast majority of men across time and culture have found long hair sexier on women.

"5) I like you better with long hair
Aaaaaannnnndddd I like you better with your mouth shut."

While I'm sure many people are thinking the latter about you, why are YOU attacking other people for expressing themselves... That is in fact your very argument that other people not attack you for expressing yourself through your haircut, but you hypocritically do the exact same thing when they express an opinion you don't like...

2) "Awwww! Why'd you cut your hair?"

Why are you so upset when many people say you look better another way? It is their opinion, and believe it or not yours is NOT the only one that DESERVES RESPECT.

Cut your hair however you damn well please, but DON'T attack others when they express and opinion you DON'T like.

[myTake Owner]

4.) when I said it was the biggest load of shit i'd ever heard, I meant that I think it's bullshit that some people believe someone looks better a certain way. Not that I didn't believe it was true. Please pick up on context better. 5.) When someone says something directly to me, about me, I have every right to be upset; especially if its with a negative connotation. Bottom line, this is an inner monologue. I would never be rude to someone or become upset unless they came up to me and started attacking my person. Stop acting like I shit in your cornflakes. You're a grown ass man. 2.) Because that comment is completely moot, and rude. Why ask someone a pointless question to something that (for the time being) is irreversible. These are comments from both women and men. I deserve respect just as the next person. If someone can give me a rude opinion on my person, I should be allowed to distribute an equal rebuttal. Have a lovely day.

[genuinlysensitive]

Once again just because someone's opinion of your haircut does not match your opinion of your haircut, does not mean its "bullshit" it does not mean its "rude" just because you didn't agree. Believe it or not other people are not here to feed your narcissistic need for endless compliments.

[myTake Owner]

No. Not the point. Ugh. Its difficult to simply write a take and not have to worry about people who consistently miss the point. Its my personal experiences with a haircut I had. I am not speaking for everyone else, I am speaking on things that occurred when I had a pixi-cut. If you didn't like the take, you could have simply kept scrolling. Why you found the need to bash me, is beyond me. Please, grow up. I am not here to banter with grown men who don't understand opinionated articles. Does everyone have to agree with me? No. Absolutely not; but what comes out of a persons mouth to another person, means a lot. Please just stop commenting. No one is saying anything about not being able to have an opinion... just to simply be aware that what you're saying may offend someone else. It was meant to be comical/humorous... and you're taking it personally. Go away, man.

[genuinlysensitive]

NoI get the point you got your hair cut, people said they didn't like it, and you think just because their opinion wasn't the same as yours they were being rude. They are not they are expressing an opinion. It is very ignorant and hypocritical to claim you are being opressed by rude people for your opinion, and then claim that eveeyone who deosnt share your opinion is rude. Get over yourself.

[myTake Owner]

Woah woah woah woah woooooahhhh! I never said I was being oppressed! Jesus. I think you are misinterpreting mytake. I am not a man-hating-lets-show-men-who-has-the-dick type of woman. I feel like thats exactly how you're perceiving this. And that is not it. I apologize if that's the way it sounded. That wasn't my intention. Like I said, this was meant to be a little humorous. Not a victimization card, nor a "fishing for compliments" card either. I am confident in myself enough so that I can be comfortable posting pictures of myself, and them not gain much attention. It was much easier to post photos of my own pixi-cut, instead of finding the generic ones on google. On another note--the whole hypocrisy statement, was ludicrous. If someone insults you, intentionally (if I may add, these people were not strangers, but people who clearly didn't like me), I think it is fair to call them rude. Women can be very passive aggressive. I would know...

[myTake Owner]

And you know what else... I'm sensing an issue other than the my-take. Because I'm confident in myself, enough to post pictures of myself, that makes me an attention seeker. Which in itself is ridiculous. People not agreeing with something I chose to do to my own hair, is not the issue. They can not like my hair or my person all they damn well please, like yourself for example; It all goes down to the basic "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say it at all" concept that we all learned as children. If you see a person who is overweight, and it is your opinion that they look disgusting to you, would it be rude or within your rights to be opinionated to tell them that to their face? Obviously this is an extreme scenario obviously... but you get the picture I'm trying to draw here. You don't like my hair, or don't care that I got my hair cut a million years ago? great. I don't either. Stop arguing with me already. Its becoming exhausting.

[genuinlysensitive]

You hair is irrelevent, the fact that you continue to ne mad at people and think any one who disagrees with you is rude, and their opinion wrong, is what is upsetting. You are not the end all and be all of exsistance. Your opinion is not the only one that matters.

[lumos]

Do you even realize how ridiculous you sound right now? She's not saying that nobody else is allowed to have an opinion. She's not saying that her opinion is the only one that matters. She's not saying that anyone who disagrees with her is having the wrong opinion. She's saying that there's a way you can express your opinion without having a rude undertone ("I liked you better with long hair. Why did you cut it?"). People are allowed to think the pixie isn't an attractive haircut, but is it really necessary to tell that to someone's face, if that person has a pixie cut? Yes, that opinion is just as valid as her opinion, but really, it's so unnecessary to be rude about it. It's so unnecessary to go out of your way to tell her that it's unattractive. Unless she specifically asks you if it looks good or not, there's no point in saying it looks bad. THAT'S what she's saying. Everything else is shit you made up on your own, words you put in her mouth.

[genuinlysensitive]

@Lumos what she is saying is that anyone who has the wrong opinion, aka not hers, is being rude or is bullshit. Saying i liked you better with long hair is an opinion, and being no more rude than, i like you better with this new awesome hair cut! The only reason she and apparently like minded people like you are upset is that opinion is contrary to what you beleive. It is not rude it is not bullshit, and just because it is something other than feeding someone narcissistic need for endless compliments does not make it so. They aren't sayin it looks bad, they are saying I liked another way better, it is like sayin oh i like that other outfit better on you. Although Im guessing that opinion also wouldn't coun unless it was the "right" one. You both need to get over yourselves and realize the world doesn't revolve around you and your personal desires.

[lumos]

Nobody here is saying that people aren't allowed to have their own opinion. Nobody is saying that it's bullshit. Nobody is thinking the world revolves around us. Like I said, that's shit you made up on your own. Saying "x looked better than y" IS rude, especially if nobody even asked you. You might as well just say "that looks bad", because that's essentially what you're trying to say. There's no right or wrong opinion. But there is a way you can express both opinions without being rude about it, or without throwing shade indirectly. So really, stop putting words in my mouth, half of the shit you're saying I'm like is shit I haven't even said.

[myTake Owner]

I never said I was mad @genuinlysensitive ever. Not in one response did I say I was mad... lol. You're losing your ground to make your points relevant. They aren't. And yes... I already said it wasn't my hair being cut that I had a problem with. It was the hilarity of some things people say to me during the cut; not that it matters that I already said that it was meant to be humorous like ten million times...

[myTake Owner]

@lumos Thank you. I should have had you write the take for me... since I am apparently unable to convey what the fuck I am trying to say without people like this man, putting words in my mouth. BLEH. We should be friends. I like the way you think! **tips hat**

[lumos]

Don't worry about it girl, you made your point extremely clear. He just missed the point entirely anyway, since this guy is clearly looking for a fight or a conflict, where there clearly is none.

[GirlScoutsRevenge]

I'm quite surprised you managed to write a whole myTake just cuz you cut your hair. Perhaps you should just take it less personal when someone preferred you with long hair or a different cut. People will always offer opinion, it's what people do. You seem very upset by it all. I hope you are happy with the cut and not taking these things to heart because you don't like it. Continue to "not give a fuck", but try and not let it get to you. It's your hair and your look.

[Sinister]

I don't think applies to me since I've loved women with short hair for almost... forever! I don't get it why some dudes be saying that shit but to me that's their loss and my win if the girls interested. ;) by the way LOVE them pixie cuts!

[Jxpxtxr]

Oh god you look so gorgeous with the short hair! But haven't people assumed you were lesbian, yet? I have a bob cut and people keep telling me "that guy wanted to talk to you but then he thought you were a lesbian." I mean.. what.. 😅 I really wanna get a pixie cut but am still hesitating because I'm not sure if it really suits me or if I'm pretty enough.. However you look gorgeous nonetheless!

[madhatters4]

pixie cuts don't work for everyone... just like any hair cut doesn't necessarily suit just anyone but I think one certain girls it is a very VERY sexy hair style

[Mustachekitteh]

You look good either way.

If I did that to my hair it wouldn't end well. My hair would start a war.

[kambo_trick3y]

You're allowed to do whatever you want with your hair. Just the same, they're allowed to have whatever opinions they want about your hair. It may be your hair, but it is not your place to tell them what their opinion is, or should be. It's their thoughts, and for better or worse, they are entitled to them. Sure, you don't have to listen or apply them, but that doesn't take away the right to their thoughts or opinions, or their freedom to express it.

Personally, I just say, "you look nice." I only give that opinion when asked though.

[kambo_trick3y]

Sorry, that came out wrong. It IS your place to tell them what their opinion is (i. e "I think your opinion is worthless and stupid), but it is not your place to tell them what their opinion SHOULD be.

[MissMarvelous]

Your hair looks so pretty. I've always wanted a pixie cut, but it doesn't match my face shape. Good take.

[CrayolaCupcake]

Yeah, the people that give you a weird look and ask, "Did you get it cut that way because of a breakup?" We should all just eye their super long hair and say "No, why, did you get yours cut like that because you broke up with someone? I'm so sorry." *sympathetic look*

[myTake Owner]

LOL!

[stevie123]

I like the pixie cut.

[Remonster]

"That is the biggest load of shit I have ever heard" But in some cultures, especially Asian ones, long hair is a definite sign of beauty and femininity. And personally I agree, though I do not disregard shorter hairstyles as not sexy. The whole face in general is way more important.

Also, I hope you don't literally say to people they should keep their mouths shut just because they like your old hairstyle better. It's just personal preference and they'll get used to your new look soon enough!

Anyway, enjoy your new hair. ;)

[Queen_naki5]

I disagree. I think that people should keep their opinions to themselves if they don't have anything nice to say.

[Remonster]

Criticism is good for you. Really.

[BaileyisDarcy]

Actually, they're not saying anything really wrong, just being rude. I had to tell my friends that their comments about liking my hair better before or asking why did I cut it off more than once or twice was actually hurtful. They had no idea that it doesn't feel good to be asked why you changed something about your hair. Especially with the wording of the questions.

[Remonster]

Well I can certainly understand that it drives you crazy when you keep hearing it. But I'm also pretty sure they don't necessarily mean it the wrong way, unless they keep bugging you about it.

[myTake Owner]

Well, yeah... I do... sometimes. I agree with @Queen_naki5 if someone doesn't have anything nice to say about your personal appearance, they should keep it to themselves. With the people that would say that to me, I wasn't asking for their opinion. I liked my haircut, and that was all that mattered. And building self-esteem with criticism is acceptable when you're learning something new, and asking for criticism on the after-product. That doesn't really go with getting your hair cut. lol. But these are old, my hair is longer now, but I still plan on re-visiting my pixi sooner than later.

[myTake Owner]

Also, I'd like to add that in Asian cultures, they don't refer to women as sexy. Which is what we are talking about. Culturally, hair length can mean a lot. We all have knowledge of this, I'm sure. HOWEVER, I am personally speaking about the American way of thinking... or the more typical way of thinking. So your addition of that information on this particular thread is moot.

[Remonster]

I don't think the addition is moot because the belief is not exactly exclusive to Asia, just widely accepted there. But sure, you raise some good points. I do want to stress that not all Asian cultures shy away from sexiness (and calling it like it is), but that's another discussion entirely.

[ButtHoleSandwich]

Yes!!! I chopped off all my hair recently and you forgot people thinking you are a lesbian because you have really shirt hair

[ButtHoleSandwich]

"Short"

[thatkaruguy]

what you had wasn't even a pixie cut it was more of a short bob variation

[PiuBelloAmante]

You rock that Pixie cut hair girl you look beautiful with it!
you really pull it off!! simply beautiful!

i am currently crushing on a girl with a pixie cut so i am a bit biased haha