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5 Topics NOT to Talk about on the First Date.

In response to 5 Topics to talk about on the first date, here are some topics to avoid talking about on the first date due to some of my experiences of awkward, uncomfortable first dates.

1. Exes

Unless you just got divorced or broke up with an ex which is important to know so you're not someone's rebound, then it's best not to talk about exes. If you're praising an ex or even complaining about an ex then you're not over them. Hell, sometimes a person doesn't even bring up their ex but still isn't over them. We figure that your ex didn't work out one way or another so we don't need to hear about it. Only times it's ok to bring up an ex is if it's a neutral statement. For example, me and a girl I'm seeing talked about mixed drinks. I brought up screwdrivers and she said her ex would always drink them. Things like that are fine.

2. Sexual Past, Sex Life or Lack of

If you think talking about exes is a bad idea, then why would you talk about past sexual encounters. I've had some uncomfortable dates where one girl would start talking about her sexual resume, how many guys she's slept with, how she slept with her ex 2 days prior, how she fucked 2 guys with the same name as the busboy as he passed by, etc and talk about too much information. I didn't even ask her. Personally, I don't ask girls those questions and I don't want to know at any point. I just figure the girl has had sexual partners before me and I leave it at that. I wasn't in her past prior to us meeting and vice versa. Only things that matter is that she doesn't have an std, kids, doesn't cheat and that she's with me now. I don't wanna think about times she had sex with other people. No benefit to it. Even talking about lack of sex is weird. It's not like when I have sex with a girl, I'm gonna be like oh thank you I had a dry spell for X amount of months or even say you're the 2nd girl I've gotten with this month. If you are gonna talk about that, at least wait.

Another girl brought up how she had an abortion then somehow mentioned how she got caught by a train on her way to take a pregnancy test and had her period once the train stopped. I'm 100% pro choice, but only reason I wanna hear about your abortion decision is if I'm the reason you're getting one.

3. Family Problems

I had a very strict and abusive father going up but I've lived on my own for awhile and talking about it would just come off as whiny. Sharing that kinda info is too much for a first date.

4. Personal Issues

Anything that sounds negative, dark, and personal is better not told until after you get to know them.

5. Future, Relationship Status, Marriage, Future Kids

It's one thing to say I'm eventually looking for a relationship or saying I"m just seeing what's out there then seeing what comes from it, but if you talk about getting exclusive, married, or having kids then don't expect a 2nd date. I'll admit there have been occasions where I got attached and infatuated early on, but didn't act on it. After all, it was still the first date and you don't know a person and if they're good for you till you really get to know them.

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  • that's stupid

    • Elaborate

    • if i can not talk about whatever the heck i want then she is not worth it especially me who likes to talk stuff that's considered out of the norm

  • I'd say you covered this very well, BRAVO !

  • I agree with these points

  • no politics, no religion?

    • I should have swapped that for number 5

  • I never talk about them as i know it is boring

    • Talk about what?

  • so right

  • I think it's weird that you don't know there are ways of touching on all those topics when first meeting someone without overdoing it.

    • How would you determine what's the right amount of info?

    • Experience, and feeling the room.

  • 6. Sexual assault and consent
    I had a first date who ranted about "bitches who falsely accuse men of rape"

    • Yeah while both rape and falsely accusing people of rape is bad. That convo should be avoided altogether. It feels awkward when I've had dates joke and say, I'm going to the bathroom, don't foodie my drink. It's like I don't know what to say back to that. Even though they're joking.

    • He was very agitated and sounded like a misogynist, and didn't want to listen to what I had to say. And then he invited me to his apartment afterward. Yeah no. He might have been a rapist for all I know.

    • Weird

  • Then what should people talk about?

    • interests, hobbies, current events, themselves, each other

    • I mean there's no way you have nothing to talk about so you talk about any of the things i mentioned.

    • But those are so cliche that it is predictable.

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