5 year relationship but I want to have sex with other men?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for around 5 years now and he is the most caring and genuine person ever, we love eachother so much and I want to marry him and Spend my whole future with him. Over the last month I have started to want to explore having sex with other guys but maintaining a loving relationship with my boyfriend (I have never acted on this by the way) I have tried to ignore my feelings but recently I have been away on holiday with my friends and family, my brothers best friend was there and we were getting on so well and all I was thinking about doing was having sex with him/something of the sort but then feeling incredibly guilty about it after. I’ve only recently started having these thoughts, honestly a month ago I would have been repulsed at myself for having these thoughts (they wouldn’t have even happened) the only thing that I can think of that may have had some contribution to it is changing anxiety/antidepressant medication? Does anyone have any advice?

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Superb Opinion

  • Don’t let lust control your life. Sex is an instant feel good feeling, right? Then feel horrible afterwards. I can tell you that from experience. Are those instant happiness trips worth happiness that is everlasting? Maybe not as high as the “stranger sex,” but it is constant.
    There is also a different kind of good feeling that comes from you being able to control yourself around that. I speak from experience on that as well.
    I know why you crave it. It’s the Devil tempting you. But like I said it is a “short piece of happiness” that collapses under the weight of everything else.

Most Helpful Guy

  • Talk to him about it. You could either open up the relationship, do threesomes or some hotwife/cuckold roleplay. Plenty of couples explore their sexuality with other people, the worst part is the angst you feel before bringing up the question.

    Just hope your boyfriend is a calm guy you can talk to about everything and it should at least be an interesting conversation.

    Have fun.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I would say try avoiding any guy you may feel attracted to (which is perfectly natural) and try to spend more meaningful time with your current boyfriend. I wouldn't recommended anything beside that since at least you haven't cheated and you sound like you still love your boyfriend (which explains the guilt).

    Just try avoiding situations where you might do something wrong, even drinking with the wrong people could lead to something bad.

    • Thank you :) that’s a good plan.

  • "I’ve been with my boyfriend for around 5 years now and he is the most caring and genuine person ever, we love eachother so much and I want to marry him and Spend my whole future with him."

    Why does every story like this start with stuff like that? You obviously don't love him or want to spend your life with him if you're actively wanting to sleep with other men.

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  • Stay away from SM, porn, OF, TV and/or anything else highly sexual !!

  • 5 years…. maybe u just want to get more adventurous sexually. I think u can do it without cheating. My girlfriend and I wanted to get more adventurous around the 5 yr mark…. we tried anal, tried a threesome, etc. but never cheated

  • Asker, that eas addressed to @userxvi. My point is, don't pre-judge people. But back to you: Anyway, if he's a great guy, you should put the silly infatuation aside and just stay.

  • Sounds slutty.

    • Why? Because I want to explore my sexuality?

    • But of course if it was you in the situation that would be fine obviously

    • A man is like a key, a woman is like a lock. Purge those slutty thoughts from your mind.

  • Think about how you would feel if he found out about it. He would dump you or if he didn't the relationship would never be the same and ask yourself if it would be worth it.

  • Do what you want as Long as your current boyfriend doesn’t and never finds out it’s as if you never cheated.

  • Was your boyfriend on the trip?

    • Yes he was

    • Sounds like you are spending lots of time with the other guy so that’s built your sexual attraction towards him. When you told your boyfriend what did he say?

    • Hopefully he see's your post and he dumps your ass because lord KNOWS that if 6 or so months ago he said the exact same thing you said here now (before you were having these feelings) you would have none of it

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  • Urges are fine. Acting on them is the problem.

  • So have you gone to your boyfriend about this and seeing what he says. Also if he gave you permission to have sex with other men do you think you could?

  • As you have your ideal partner, who love you and care you, so be sincere and loyal to him, forget other men

    • she is using him.

    • @d3n0939, who, I did not understand

    • @d3n0939 I’m literally not - I didn’t realise you knew everything about me

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  • Certified women moment.

    • Oh yeah, because only women have these thoughts.

    • Okay simp

    • He’s just not a simp though for stating facts?

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  • I have a lady friend that is in wonderful marriage. But when she wants have rough sex from a bigger fat cock she just gives me 45 minutes notice and request how she wants. She is been my fuck buddy for a while and wonderful happy marriage. Compromise

  • It is cheating on your sincere and loyal partner, it shows he loves but you don't love him

  • I assume he was the one who asked you out and hit on you

  • Then its time to move on unless you can make some sort of arrangement.