7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

When you think about masturbating, you probably think only about doing it on the solo. I mean, it makes sense since it really is “solo sex.” It’s a good way to get to know your body on your own terms, without pressure from someone else. On the other hand (no pun intended), masturbating with someone else can actually be a really good idea. I know it might feel a little invasive to have someone hang with you during your “you time,” but there are ways to actually make it not weird and pretty fun.

Masturbating with someone can be a bonding experience for you and your bae, or just an exciting and "new" sexual experience for you and a hookup. Regardless of who it is, you should really try it, since it can be super liberating to share that part of you with someone else. But there are some thing to know before you just get naked and start doin’ it in front of a partner. Let’s just get this out of the way first: if you aren’t comfortable masturbating on your own, won’t be comfortable masturbating with someone else. It’s just the way it is! You need to learn to be confident and comfortable on your own before you invite someone else into the picture. So try to masturbate just you for a bit so that you can feel more confident. Then, when you’re ready, try out some of these simple tips for masturbating with a partner. You’ll be hooked.

1. Talk About What You Want

There is no "correct way" to masturbate with someone else, and there are a few different ways to do it, but it's important to communicate this with your bae. You don't want to do anything you're not comfortable with, like sitting too close to each other, or sitting too far apart. You want to tell your partner exactly what you want, and you want them to tell you what they want so you can make the experience great for the both of you!

7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

2. Show Them How You Do It

This is actually really important! If you show your partner exactly how you do masturbate, next time they are fingering you, they will know exactly what will make you feel good, which is super important when you're getting it on. Besides, who better to learn from than you, the expert of your own sex life!

7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

3. Add Toys

You don't just have to use your finger, obvs. Add a vibrator to the mix for a whole new experience and Tbh, your partner will probably really want to watch you do it.Starting by using a vibrator on other parts of your body, like your lips or neck, then make its way down there.

7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

4. Make Eye Contact

Eye contact with your bae when you're both getting it on with yourselves can be super hot. It will help you stay connected, but it can also help relax you in case you get a little nervous.

7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

5. Orgasm At The Same Time

A lot of the time, you and your bae might not orgasm at the same time during sex. It happens. You might not be able to orgasm through intercourse, or maybe your bae takes a lot longer to finish. But with "mutual masturbation", you can give your partner a warning as to when you're going to finish so that you can finish at the same time

7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

6. Use It As a Form Of Foreplay

You can also use masturbating with your partner as a form of foreplay. It can be a good way to build up the 'excitement' between you and bae before you actually have sex. You can even try edging, which is just a fancy word that means stopping right before you orgasm, then have sex with your bae. It could actually make your orgasm better

7 Easy Tips for Masturbating With Your Partner

7. Dim The Lights

If you REALLY wanna try masturbating with someone else, but are not the most confident person in the world, try doing it with the lights off. Sure, you won't be able to see each other too well, but just knowing your bae is there will be a pretty intense experience. And if you do it enough, you'll finally start to get comfortable enough to do it in the light!

Enjoy Ladies and Gents :)

J.J

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  • "if you aren’t comfortable masturbating on your own, won’t be comfortable masturbating with someone else."
    Yeah, that's me. I can't masturbate on my own without hating myself and feeling bad for days after. I don't know how I am every going to manage sex with someone when I can't even have sex with myself.

    • Can I ask why you feel bad?

    • I'm not sure. I'm actually trying to find out why. I just feel tainted or like I ruined myself or did something wrong. I've done reading and I know it's not actually wrong, I just feel bad midway through so I stop. The next few days I just feel sad and like everyone who sees me knows what I did and then I feel ashamed of myself.

  • I really needed this guide. I'd have never figured this out on my own.

    • You are welcome. Not everyone is smart :)

  • who needs it when there is sex

  • Mastertubating is so f*cking dumb and unnecessary. Yuck.

    • Masturbating*

    • Do you.

    • Sounds like you need to do some!

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  • Isn't that awkward? I don't think I would ever be that comfortable with anyone.

    • After dating someone for a while you get really comfortable with them. I'm not saying it is something you'll do but hey, you never know.

  • Seems weird to me, I wouldn't do this with my girlfriend

    • Why it's fun?😊

    • I don't think any girl I've been with would want that lol

    • If you don't ask you'll never know. 😊

  • Isn't it weird doing that together?

    • I have no problem doing it, but some guys do. My current guy enjoys it a lot.

    • I would love to do this with my wife, but she's not really into it

  • Great Take.
    I'm going to try this :)

    • Hope you cum good!