There's many a question on this site about the importance of dick size and whether or not it's something women really want or simply a sort of "gossip point" among females and occasionally a way of really trying to insult or compliment a guy.
Yet, I think these sorts of questions and any ideal time men spend considering this question miss several key points. Despite this, I do think it's a question that can cause a lot of frustration if going unanswered. Basically, the answer is simple. It's is aesthetically pleasing TO LOOK AT but often times NOT AS COMFORTABLE as an average to slightly above averaged size one. It can convey dominance and alphaness and is sexually attractive but, in the practice of sex, is more of a hinderance in terms of the sheer physics though it may help to get the girl wet based upon the above statements. Therefore, there is nothing to worry about unless you have a "micro penis" and, in fact, you should actually embrace being average since again talking purely physical--you are more capable of giving more women great sex since you are not bound by certain women where it will hurt or are so tight that you can't recieve as much pleasure.
Now that's that done, here are some key points that are missed because guys focus on the penis size debate:
1.) Being great at going down on a girl is a skill that is NOT instinctual
The first key that is missed because guys spend too much time blaming their dick size is that amazing oral is not something you will just be able to know unless you were really paying attention in sex ed. Basically, you never need to insert your tongue into her vagina and should always go straight for the clit which is outside of it. Is not only key, it's helpful for guys who think the idea of putting their tongue inside a woman is gross. For another, it's key to be able to suck and lick at the same time and to go in deeper as she gets more wet. Again, you shouldn't blame yourself or try to just learn it through instinct instead focus on getting better at giving oral and the last thing she will be thinking about after sex is wow i wish his dick was bigger
2.) Strength of your erection is key
This is a potentially dangerous key for guys to figure out because a lot of young guys especially the ones who like to party are getting addicted to cialis and cialis clones in order to have sex for hours. Still, it's an important thing to understand that the ability to get hard not just hard enough to have sex but really hard like raging hard is the best thing you can physically experience with your penis to be a great lover. A super big dick that is floppy might feel full but she won't really be able to ride it. also, when she can feel you getting softer its a mood killer like when you feel her getting dry
3.) Angle of insertion is key
This is one that might annoy a lot of guys. We want sex to be fast intense and simple, but the reality is it matters where you aim that thing. Luckily, an experienced woman will probably just aim it for you as she puts it in her, but an inexperienced or shy one might need you to find her spot and continually hit it in the same place.
4.) Foreplay is key
This one really annoyed me personally. Foreplay is key and is hard to fake because its all about the intimacy stage. this is where both people get comfortable with one anotehr and get in the mood for sex. Instead of focusing on your size, focus on making hte foreplay last a long time until she's begging to move to the next stage. If you're task oriented you're going to want to rush this process but don't. Take it slow as a lot of women take a lot of time to warm up
5.) Sometimes slower is better (not to be confused with harder vs. softer)
harder is always better than softer but slow can actually beat fast some of the time. when you start, going slow actually allows you to feel a lot more sensation. and of course, going slow so you don't ejaculate is a great tip though don't do it too much...
6.) Mindset is key
This directly relates to the problem of size insecurity. The biggest problem a guy with a smaller dick has is that he knows its smaller compared to other guys. And, besides this, focusing on it causes you to miss a key point that the best lovers know the woman really wants them and uses that as motivation and momentum to have the time of their lives. they're fearless, they accept that they are all this woman is thinking about and all she craves and they marshal this positivity in a variety of ways.
7.) Controlling when you come
Its funny because the guys who are the most insecure about their size are probably porn addicts who have seen massive ones in porn. This is ironic because the one thing porn does positively is that it teaches you to know when you're about to come and how to hold off so you can experience more pleasure first. This leads to the last missed key--control your orgasm so that you two can finish together. I tend to like to give the girl only two orgasm because my mind will drift off after a while but whenever you decide she's experienced enough pleasure then wait until she seems like she's about to come ask her if she's abotu to come and if she says yes then start going so hard that you yourself will come which will result in you coming togtehr. Again, pretty obvious and yet easy key to miss if all you're doing is feeling like you don't measure up because of your dick size.
As a last note, gentlemen, I promise you PROMISE YOU that you can "outcompete" bigger guys if you become really really great at sex. There is no glass ceiling for average sized guys like some guys and even some girls would like you to believe. Even a size queen can't deny what her body is telling her. So go out there and create some of hte best female orgasms womankind has ever experienced...
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