7 years of friends with benefits?

is it possible to be friends with benefits and not grow feeling for 7 years on and off but still always go back to each other?
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Most Helpful Girls

  • Absolutely... I had an FWB with whom I was involved for about a year and a half...we continued our friendship afterwards and have now known each other about 4 years. We don't have sex cause I'm in a relationship right now... but if ever I was single again, wed definitely become sexual again. Its a no brainer really...we know what the other likes, we're completely comfortable and sexually open with each other, and we find each other to be great company.

    In all this time we've never developed feelings for each other..have never been jealous of anyone else in the others lives. We're just friends who can take care of each others sexual needs if the time is right.

    My boyfriend is uncomfortable around him, mostly cause he thinks that guy is more my type than he is...but he's really not. Our lifestyles, goals and things we want out of life are completely different..wed make a *horrible* romantic couple and would drive each other nuts if we took it to that level. Feelings can't evolve out of that..we're much better off as friends.

    Who knows...with time things may change, but our core values and interests are so vastly different, I don't see it happening.

    • An interesting perspective. Thanks.

  • i just think that I couldn't do friends with benefits unless the guy , well I can't do it. I mean, he has to make it official otherwise it will be friends with benefits forever and forever. have the talk. your partner's actions speak lowder than words. you think abotu what you want to say to him, sometimes you have to get him offguard and talk to him and say ok, let's schedule this. you gotto be emotionally calm when talking. take it slow so he will understand. friends with benefits generally, I don't think it's a good idea. I can't do anything like that without some sort of emotional attachment and I would feel like he's getting benefits for nothing, I mean, he should call you a girlfriend at least, not just fwb. or find a guy who will show you more respect.

  • 7 years is a long time and besides I don't think it would be fair to your relationship with someone else knowing that you have that guy to fall back to.I don't like those sayings like "fall back girl or fall back guy" It makes it sound more like a job than a person.Look at it this way people have feelings and don't like being relied on in case it doesn't work out in your relationship, and if you're keeping someone around in case it doesn't work out then that's wrong.I would say that you should ask yourself if you really have feelings for this FWB guy.And if you really are over him then you would move on and be serious with the guy you're with now.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Wow 7 years is a REALLY long time. And neither of you had ANY successful relationships during that time? As a male (pig) I can see his POV (gettin' some) but what are you getting out of it? Are there just not so many other candidates presenting themselves? Or are you harboring hopes that this will somehow materialize into something greater? 7 years is a really long time to wait or to be off of the market. Sorry that sounded so crass but still...Is his continued near proximity to your bed causing you to cease seeking a full time regular romantic relationship?

    Good luck.

  • Since it's been 7 years, I assume you have the capability to remove emotional attachment to this guy. Clearly it's been purely sexual, so there's no reason to think anything emotional has come across. Perhaps you might think it, but 7 years of sex with a man is simply just that... 7 years of no strings. Unless you all have been good friends, I don't see anything happening.

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  • i don't know from my experience I have been having a friends with benefits but his not really that friendly to me only when he wants me. that's been for 3 years I think I would be mad at myself if I saw in 7 years time that it be still continuing I think its rediculous. but yet I don't know your man but you should just tell him its been too long we should stop this. then see how he reacts.

  • Anything is possible. What was the reason you two never dated?

  • Possiple, yes. But you could at least try arelationship for once!

  • Depends, people are different.

    I couldn't do that, I would eventually feel something for her :)

  • wow 7 years is a really long time

  • The girl usually catches feelings but men usually can seperate their emotions. He probably considers her Old Reliable. If he had feelings it seems like he would have made it known in 7 years.