A few ways to spice things up while giving head

Good things cum to those who wait!

I couldn’t resist the play on words but basically, don’t jump into things too fast. Teasing can be a lot of fun forth both parties when done correctly. Take your sweet time right from the get-go. Assuming he’s already hard, unzip his pants, get him down to just his boxers. Slip your hand under the waist-band for a bit of fondling. A hand-job plus some light cupping of his balls should work for a while. Around the time when some pre-cum shows up for maybe the second time, you can get your mouth involved.

A few ways to spice things up while giving head

It’s your choice whether you want to go for a full-on blowjob at this point or continue the teasing by working just the shaft. By which I mean lick it up and down, side to side, zig zags, whichever. Giving every inch of it attention from your tongue, making sure there’s plenty of saliva to spare, but stopping just short of the head every single time you reach the top. I personally love doing this when we’ve got more time to kill than usual. It’s truly the ultimate power-trip to see your boyfriend enjoying himself that much, yet begging for more.

Once his hips start thrusting involuntarily, you can take it as a sign that perhaps enough is enough. Teasing is all fun and games, prolonging the pleasure plus guaranteeing an orgasm stronger than usual, so long as it’s not dragged out overly long.

A few ways to spice things up while giving head

Deepthroating.

I can’t really say much about this one. It seems to be quite a debated way to go about things; girls often don’t even bother, saying they don’t want to puke. Guys can often be naysayers as well, saying that they find their girlfriend being put in that position as degrading. Neither of which are true.

GIRLS- if you approach it in the right way, you won’t be puking. All it takes is a bit of intentional gagging during each oral session. Call it a day once you start feeling a bit nauseous (I have yet to hear of completely unexpected projectile vomiting being a thing). Pick it back up during the next session and you’ll notice that you can last longer and longer each time before the discomfort in the pit of your stomach will be a thing of the past.

Once you’ve gotten a pretty good grip on deep-throating, you can start mastering your craft. Meaning, don’t forget to use your tongue when you’re coming back up. Moving it back and forth, doing zigzags on the underside of his shaft is a good way to keep the whole blowjob pleasurable, not just the moments when he’s balls-deep in your throat and whatnot.

GUYS- Degrading, by definition, is when someone is made to feel humiliated/disrespected. Believe it or not, but some girls actually want to be able to deepthroat their man. Whether it be purely for his enjoyment, a sense of pride in themselves, or a bit of both. Either way, as long as it’s done of her own volition, just lay back and enjoy the ride.

A few ways to spice things up while giving head

Face-fucking.

This one is what you might be interested in trying out once you’ve gotten really great control over your gag-reflex, gotten it adequately conditioned from deep-throating. It’ll be another bit of a process to be able to handle deep-throating in a sense, but with yourself no longer in control of the pace/angle at which his dick is hitting your gag.

Take it slow. For myself, when we first started face-fucking, I could only handle about 5 thrusts at most until the pressure on my gag reflex in much quicker succession than I was previously used to became too much. Similar to deep-throating, longer sessions of face-fucking will come with time and some practice. Be open about the specifics like when the guy instinctively pushes down on your head or whatever. I personally don’t like that so much when he’s already in control over how fast/deep his dick goes into my mouth because in combination with pushing my head down, that can turn bad super quick.

Be open about the specifics like when the guy instinctively pushes down on your head or whatever. I personally don’t like that so much when he’s already in control over how fast/deep his dick goes into my mouth because in combination with pushing my head down, that can turn bad super quick.

But hey- different strokes for different folks. Nothing a little practice couldn’t fix. ;)

Don’t forget to give his balls some love, too.

It never gets old how much my boyfriend loves when I surprise him with giving his balls some attention, without giving any heads up beforehand. Assuming your guy doesn’t fall within the small percentile of men who don’t enjoy their balls being stimulated, you truly can’t go wrong with a little bit of sucking/fondling. Sticking with the ‘variety is the spice of life’ attitude, I’ve found that the best reaction is generally in small doses. Say you’re focusing on mainly deep-throating or giving a good old classic blowjob, then occasionally just put a ball (or two) in your mouth for a bit. Maybe throwing in a bit of gentle tongue action.

I know guys (and some girls) scoff at the idea of using hands during a blowjob. However, as long as you know how to use them well and at the right times, I promise you’ll no longer be hearing such complaints. One way that I found always works well in terms of maximizing the amount of surface area that receives stimulation throughout the whole production is while you’re down there working his balls orally. At the same time, you can jack him off with your hands, paying attention to not just the shaft but also the head on the upward stroke and so long as you make sure everything’s adequately lubricated (assuming he’s cut), you’ll be golden.

Likewise, you can just cup ‘em a bit as you give his shaft/head further attention worthy of a king.

A few ways to spice things up while giving head

69.

This one is something that works super well as part of foreplay, with both parties involved getting some action. Everyone knows how it works from the basics, though each couple might have some of their own personal adjustments for it to best match them. I, for example, find that the angle for deepthroating in 69 couldn’t be any better.

If you deepthroat or even if not, it might be hot to try out your boyfriend kind of pushing your head down as he ‘goes in for the kill’ and gets you to cum via oral.

A few ways to spice things up while giving head

Attitude

Making it clear that you’re enjoying what you’re doing, whether it be the tease, deepthroating, or even 69, is arguably the most important part of both parties getting the best of the full experience. I can’t imagine anyone having a good time during sex, even if their partner’s technique may be on point, if it feels like the only reason they’re doing it is to get it out of the way or purely to oblige the other.

Take initiative. Start things off on your own once in a while. Don’t wait for him to guide you, do things as you please. He’ll most likely prefer minimal time spent on the tease. Don’t stand for that, as cutting it short will completely defeat the purpose of getting him to anticipate any further activities. To bring the level of him wanting you to a whole new level. Where he’ll be literally begging or hips involuntarily thrusting, which I often will jokingly refer to as them ‘silently screaming out for help’.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Guys love head. They love more if you can take the cock deep. If you show him you work hard and don't mind the gagging and discomfort you make him very happy. I love to do this extra mile and let him fuck my throat.

Most Helpful Guy

  • yup porn and media turned women into pornstars. how disgusting hearing a 21 year old talking like a seasoned prostitute from china town... .

    • as for the gifs used in this site, simply no comment

    • nothing wrong with some women who choose to be pornstars. Performing for the benefit for people who are willing to pay, most of which are men. (... interesting that you're so quick to recognize what a seasoned prostitute from Chinatown sounds like!)

    • what are you talking about here? we re sexual beings after all... nthng wrong or taboo about it. Why are you belittling her like this?

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  • Deepthroating is something I'd love to take a class on. I'm glad you mentioned it and explained to the guys that it's not a degrading thing, I love doing it and I love doing things that turn guys on. I'm not that great at it though. I can't seem to stay down on a cock for more than 5 or 6 seconds before coming up for air. I wanna learn how to overcome my gag reflex if there are techniques that can assist me. Particularly with thick ones. What am I missing Doc Kayla?

    • I know right? Quite frustrating to read other girls + guys say things like deepthroating/face-fucking are what they choose to not engage in because it's 'degrading'. I'm just like.. oh really? Different strokes for different folks. I've never felt anything even close to degraded or humiliated/disrespecting when doing either of those things for my boyfriend. If anything, it's a major power-trip over someone you love. But yeah for sure. I taught myself how to deepthroat one day on a whim, after a few times hitting my gag reflex by accident during a plan-old bj. Every time you give him head, preferably a few times a week, hit your gag on purpose. Till you feel almost nauseous, at which point you should of course hold off till it passes and bring yourslef to that point a few more times. If you continue that, you'll notice yourself being able to hit your gag-reflex a lot more often/for longer before feeling nauseous. Keep 'practicing' and before you know it, you'll be deepthroating. :)

    • Thank you Kayla, I'll go get started on my lessons in about 20 minutes.

  • You are an inspiration to all women out there! There's nothing wrong with getting messy on both side when giving/receiving oral. It's makes it more fun and gives a more naughtier, sensual aspect to just the suck/lick same shit. Also, if a girl enjoys me that much that she wants to devour me, it makes me feel that much more sexier and attractive and I just want to show her how much more by eating and f*cking the hell out of her and making her cum uncontrollably forever!

  • The involuntary hip thrusting is a weird phenomenon, but it's real. It's like us guys are programmed to thrust. lol. As usual, a great myTake from GAG's resident sexpert. :)

    • yesyes, very real indeed. I personally love it, it's like a pat on the back that I'm doing a good job. :P

  • good take ^^ thanks for the "heads" up :P

    • lol no problem, always happy to help. I was doing a bit of 'research' for my own benefit and couldn't resist the urge to kind of summarize it and possibly give ideas to others who may not be quite as much of a keener as myself. 😎

    • yea thanks xD I never gave oral yet so always good to have some tips before the act ^^

    • "tips"... You did it again. xD

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  • hard to concentrate on two things at once (69)

    • that's true. Something I struggled with, being able to continue paying attention to doing a good job of oral while also being able to simultaneously climax. I kinda worked out this thing though where I'd take little breaks in what I'm doing for him, like take him out of my mouth and jack him off or fondle his balls or whatever while putting my main focus on the pleasure he's giving me. So by kinda switching back and forth through which, by now, I've become much better able to manage reaching my own orgasm before shifting full attention to him. :)

    • i guess it's a balancing act to sync each others pleasure. you've achieved climax simultaneously?

    • no way. Not simultaneously during 69. That would require a master level of multi-tasking abilities hah. I was just talking about being able to reach my own orgasm while not leaving him with zero attention.

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  • I love how much you are into giving oral. Outstanding and thorough.

  • for the love of god just don't do that thing where you suck a testicle into the mouth...
    fuckin' hurts

    • I think as long as you ease into it slowly and figure out what works best for that guy in particular, there's no harm in trying. My boyfriend loves it when I do that, for example. Nothing overly excessive in terms of suction though, of course.

    • the thought of it makes me cringe, but there have been times where I felt great but had no idea what she was doing

  • I think I love you lol

  • I got a hard on reading this, no lie.

    Good take.

  • I didn't readall the way through because i don't want to know what another man wants but yeah i think females should read this,
    Approved.

  • You sound like you know what you're doing, my dick longs for thee. ;-)

  • love all of those!

  • What about some men who enjoy getting puke on their dicks and the women who feel good puking on it? Is it possible for puke to be too acidic for a man to not feel hurt by and How often is it ok for women to give those kind of blowjobs?

  • To be honest I don't agree with your thing about puking.

    "I have yet to hear of completely unexpected projectile vomiting being a thing"

    Simply because I accidentally threw up in my mouth the second time i deep throated a guy. It was horrible

    • I'm sorry to hear that you puked in your mouth but.. why did you choose to continue deepthroating despite your levels of nausea rising? It's not like people go from zero to puking without any warning signs beforehand.

  • About deepthroating - I actually didn't even know I was intentionally doing it, but I just started taking more and more of him in my mouth every time I gave him a blowjob, and without me even actually deepthroating and just having as much of him in my mouth as possible, he is LOVING IT.

    I can't wait until I can actually deepthroat. For the girls who can do it, do you make the gagging sound they make in porn because I think it sounds kinda gross :P

    • yessss the moment when you're finally able to properly and fully deepthroat is pretty awesome, which I can attest to. :P &no. I'd imagine porn throws in those noises to emphasize the main part of the appeal to men which is probably that the girl is struggling to get his dick down very far? But no, there's no such sound in deepthroating in rl. Aside from the occasional time that you hit a bad angle and may gag a bit but it's super momentary.. like no more than 2 seconds.

    • Thanks I was worried about that!!

    • yeah, you really shouldn't worry about doing it in rl. Like.. some people will find it takes them longer than others to get a good grip on but as long as you take it slow. Don't force yourself to deepthroat for longer or anything than your body can handle which it'll tell you by getting nauseous or the gag-reflex getting even more sensitive than usual, you'll be fine. Take it at your own pace and fun will be had on both sides, for both you as well as him. :)

  • Oh that hip thrust, and the toe curling, and his face. Noice stuff.

  • Deepthroating and facefucking... hell no

  • What is 69 exactly? It bugs me I keep hearing it.

    • 69 is where one partner lays on their back with legs bent at the knees. The other partner goes over top of them on all fours with their head at their partner's genitals and their own genitals positioned within reach of their partner's head. In order for the couple to be able to give each other simultaneously, one on top of the other with one on their back, the other over top.

    • Ok thanks sounds super sexy lol

  • Anal teasing in conjunction with cup-and-kneed ball massage. Not for everyone but like licorice, those who like it, really like it. He will initially flex back from the surprise but then watch for the signals. If he continues to flex back or fidget, he's not interested but if he intentionally relaxes or alternately flexes and relaxes, he's inviting you to go deeper. Skilled prostate massage during a BJ can be... magnificent.