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Rape is real, it happens. Women, men, anyone can be a victim. Have you been a victim? Have you sexually assaulted someone yourself?
Sorry for the novel. This is my first MyTake, I figured this was a good subject to write on after finding out someone was raped inside of my old school.
A girl was raped a week ago. A girl was raped 6 days ago. 3 days ago. Yesterday. Does anyone care?
A guy was raped a week ago. 6 days ago. 3 days ago. Yesterday. Does anyone care?
Setting the scene
The specific scenario in my mind, at the moment. It includes a school. The school I graduated from only a year ago. And a stairwell. The one in the back of the school, it's more narrow than the others, less frequented use. This scenario involves a girl and a guy, they're both 14. Both high school freshman. We don't know why. Maybe she flirted with him in class earlier, and that's why she was his target. Maybe he was high on drugs. Quite possibly both.
The last bell rings for classes. School lets out. Perhaps she stays later to talk to a teacher, maybe study some. The guy hangs out on the stair case, waiting. Maybe he was waiting for her. Perhaps he just didn't want to go home because he's beat by his mother or father when he walks in the door, because he went to school rather than run the family drug business. Either way he feels out of control. He might've tried touching someone who didn't want to be touched the week before. The month before. Liked the way the power felt when he was the assaulter, instead of the assaulted. The control felt so good, having control over something in his life, even if it was this one very wrong thing. This time, he decided, he would go all the way. He would rape the next female he sees, just because he can.
What I know
Some of the above is simply speculation. The only details I know for sure about the rape at my school was that it was after hours, in the far stairwell, and two 14 year old freshman. One guy, one girl. The girl fought him off for 25 minutes before being overpowered. It was all caught on cameras, several out of the 50+. There was no one monitoring them, like they should've been. And that when I found out today, I tried asking the people I knew at the school who still went there. When I asked who it was, one guy said, "Oh just some freshman." Another said, "It's Lincoln, what'd you expect". They don't care.
The guy is facing a life sentence in prison. There's no rehab for him, no mention of therapy in prison, no form of support. He's 14 years old. My younger brother is 15 years old.
I have been molested, nearly raped and killed by someone I know. I wanted nothing more than for him to be locked up for the rest of his life or for him to die. I'm still working on forgiving him, forgiving myself so I can move on. I am by no means rationalizing his actions, but he's 14. Life in prison? Will he ever get the chance to live, or to repent? He's 14 years old.
She's 14. Scarred for the rest of her life, traumatized. She will never forget that, ever in her life. It will probably be stuck on rerun in her mind for weeks, months, years. Trust me I know, because I've been there. Imagine your parents watching you be raped. Or being a parent and watching your child being raped. After it happened. On a computer monitor. Or do her parents even care? Is she even switching schools? Does anyone care?
The system
The system is flawed. They are teens yes, barely teens. The girl needs a strong support system, not much is mentioned of her in the articles or in what I can find. The guy needs help, not a life sentence. He had 2 charges and a felony before this, and he's 14 years old. What kind of broken home is he growing up in? What drugs is he using? You can be sure there is more to it than a horny 14 year old. I agree wholeheartedly, he needs several years away. I'm sure some prison time would do him good. Rehab, therapy, counseling. He should be locked away for a long time, but they are making it forever.
What age were you when you first fell in love? When you made your first mistake? Do you think the guy should have a life sentence, or should he do some time, along with rehab, parole, therapies, counseling, and other things in order to rehabilitate and ensure he is safe among society?
Does anyone care? Or are we a cold and callous society?
This happened in a school. To young kids, freshman. What were you worried about when you were a freshman, when you were 14? Because even 5 years ago, I was terrified. On freshman Fridays, the first Friday of the year, we got the shit beat out of us if we looked like freshman. Dumped in garbage cans. I've seen it happen, year after year while I went to school there. There were shooting threats. Riots. Beatdowns. Drug trades. Had police search us in the middle of classes.This is the first rape in the school. Last month someone had 7 bones broken after being attacked by a brick by someone who graduated from there, on her way to school. She was beat a block from where I live. I can't even tell you how many students have died since I started there.
A girl was raped a week ago. A guy was raped a week ago. Yesterday, the day before that, and the day before that. Does anyone care about them? I mentioned one case. There are hundreds, thousands. There is a rape every 6.5 minutes in America, the free country. These victims are living in shackles of fear. Doesn't sound so great and free, does it?
What Girls & Guys Said
25 72If he's 14, ten years should be fine. Kids who kill dont even get life
I know. It's horrible. He's so young, focus on the rehab, not the punishment. I agree, 10-15 years should be ideal.
Sadly these days everyone is so full of themselves and don't care about anyone else.
if you think your worth enough to not care about other people than that just drops your worth to zero its caring and compassion which defines your worth
rape is terrible but i do not think it's worthy of life in prison or death.
I think it is a variety of factors. I don't know about other countries or states but one of the worse offenders is the child protective services in Massachusetts for that kind of thing. It is an agency in need of more skilled people that care about what they are doing and proper oversight. Recently, it came to light that the agency not only had far too many cases for workers to do simultaneously but i witnessed what a poor job they do. A family had no place to go and my friend helped them by renting them out his basement (illegal renting not withstanding). He soon found out why they had no place to live, the dad was an unmedicated schizophrenic that didn't like the side effects of being more docile and the mother was too complacent to do nothing about it. He not only had the children in a really bad environment where he was so paranoid that he did not allow the children to use the toilet upstairs and had to crap in a bucket but was convinced there was some sort of nasty parasite in all of them so he concocted some poisonous material out of household chemicals and had them all drink it. Not only are the kids lucky to be alive but dcf/cps did nothing to help the children when they needed to get the fuck out.
Another is that people are having children while not caring about their responsibilities. Time and again I have witness parents letting their kids get away with stuff that deserved at least a spanking. Many would rather let them run a mock while being selfish.
Politicians that make the laws are also to blame, they say anything to get in and then do almost nothing that they said they are going to do. They would rather bicker about things that don't matter to or affect the American people as a whole and behave like four year olds when they don't get their way.
Laws need to be changed to better suit things like this but it is going to be an uphill battle in that people as a whole are rather selfish and lawmakers only do something when it has affected their families.
I care but my voice goes unheard in the current sociopolitical environment that we live in
Like someone else posted before me, I too agree that male issues tend to get far less attention than female ones. That goes for sexual abuse and many other issues. Now, I'm not resentful towards women over it or anything, I just thought I'd point out one of those social inequalities that tend to be overlooked.
They do tend to be overlooked and it's uncalled for.
Growing up, I was taught you can do anything and be forgiven for. Aside from being a NONCE or Rapist. If you do either, gloves come off and you are thrown to the wolves. as well as all coming for you.
I have always cared anytime there have been instances of Rape. even working in crisis counselling throughout my working life.
The frustrating in this age is how so many diminish the gravity of Rape by not fully understanding what it is. They frequently mistake sexual assault with Rape or worse trying to roll it out after having sex that they later regret, ie 'I was drunk and we agreed to have sex... but later I thought it might be rape...'
The instances of rape against men. They happen but mostly in extreme cases. Like in prison settings or male attack on fellow men. i am yet to buy into any scenario where a woman can 'rape' a male. another point of frustration of the act being diminished for you will have these examples rolled out;
' She was 300 pounds and looked like Rhonda Rousey or held me at knife or gunpoint...'
Fantasy versus Reality
Last time i looked I was a male who would be confident to fend off any type of woman. If I could not and was under direct threat there is NO way my penis would get erect to be raped. Or restrained enough while it was attempted to get raped. I think my frailing size 15 boot might make a difference to any woman in this situation. In terms of assault by women against men, sure it happens but it is NOT rape
I'm sure there's some instances where women can rape men but it's less common for sure.
I can't think of any but you have a right to this belief
It's a shame and there's nothing I can do about it. There are bad people out there.
Goddamn, what kind of school did you go to?
I ised to be mad that my school had too much surveillance, was too strict and controlling, but now im glad. There were barely any fights in there, let alone rape.
Some old fool once tried to peek in the girls bathroom and the staff called the cops on him and led to a manhunt 😂😂.
I think the usa is a messed up country for one that is considered progressive/developed.
But lets get serious:
" The girl fought him off for 25 minutes before being overpowered. It was all caught on cameras, several out of the 50+"
Now this is just ridiculous. Stupid. So f*cking stupid. They should fire the security, the persons responsible for surveillance, and the head of the school for this sh*t.
What a bunch of incompetent , stupid f*cking r*tards.
25 minutes! Should have been enough time for the cops, the army, and special forces to get there. And it was a 14 yo kid, all it would have taken was for one grown man to go there and kick him in the head.
That would have been it.
She should have been just fine amd given a medal for fighting him off that long. Instead she had to feel the powerlessness of being forced and having het body invaded.
Unbelievable...
The kids not giving af is slightly off putting, but they are kids. Kids are stupid.
The adults not giving af. Now that is upsetting.
" The guy needs help, not a life sentence. He had 2 charges and a felony before this, and he's 14 years old. "
Im sorry to say this, but no, thats wrong.
There is no help for rapists. If you can do that to another person, then you deserve to be cut out of society like cancer from a patient.
If you wanna help the guy, make sure he is protected in prison and doesn't get raped himself. As much as an "eye for an eye' as it would be, no one should get raped
It is impossible to "care" about anyone you've never met.
You can have an empathetic response when you hear about it yes. But you have an empathetic response when you watch a sad film as well.
Our minds tell us "oh shit, it would suck if that was my daughter", or " I'm glad that wasn't my kids".
Can we show compassion for the victims, yes I believe we can.
Can anyone truly care, I don't believe so.
Some strangers have the capacity to care.
@LadyAvon Oh shit, a child in Somalia just starved to death. how does this make you feel. Oh shit your mom just got hit by a bus. I want you to be honest with yourself. Compare the two feelings. The first was empathy. You may have felt sorry for this poor nameless faceless child but it's ultimately very abstract. On the contrary when I told you your mother just died the feeling of loss was very real. Because you actually love and "care" about your mom.
I'm sure I'll catch flak for this, but I don't understand how a girl can rape a guy.
Maybe if she uses a strap on, and has a gun at his head? But otherwise it just doesn't feel like rape. Either I'd be horny and fuck her, or I wouldn't be horny, and it would just feel like whatever.
I just can't feel threatened by a woman, it's impossible.
Worst things happen all over the world all the time. You cannot teach people to not commit crimes because the type of people who commit those violent crimes are scumbags to the core.
There will always be violent sociopaths because humans have so much variance you just can't control how they will turn out. Even with the best of bringing a rotten person will always be rotten.
Couldn't care less about strangers.. Bad things happen every day.. But hypothetically speaking if it was someone close to me this dude would "disappear" .. And be "disappear" I mean he would be tied up in my basement the same day it happened.. The sentence would be 10 years of everyday torture.. The first in line would be hungry rats, I'd make him watch as they chew on his ding dong.. And the list goes on and on and on.. By year 2 it would just be a head and a torso.. He would beg for death but would never recieve it..
If I were one of your jurors, I might be inclined to let you go if you had just executed him with a bullet to the head. For what you're describing, I'd give you life without parole. Sick.
@gregtaylor A bullet to the head? That is realy unimagitive on your part.. Also too easy, the girl is traumatized for the rest of her life and you want the dude to not even know what hit him? ..
@gregtaylor I'm just gonna assume you're a rapist too..
The willingness to be cruel to your enemies and those you hate says nothing about them, but speaks volumes about you.
@gregtaylor there are countries where they cut of hands of thieves, why not to the same for rapists and pedophiles, this way they would never again be able to rape someone... personally i think its a superb idea.. torture is needed so their psyche is also broken..
You can assume whatever you want, doesn't prove anything except that you are willing to engage in ad hominem attacks when you can't debate someone rationally.
I repeat myself: The willingness to be cruel to your enemies and those you hate says nothing about them, but speaks volumes about you.
@gregtaylor buhuhu, you almost made me cry.. xD.. I'd call it justice with a cherry on top..
If you went to prison for torture, unlawful imprisonment, et al, I would call THAT justice. But I wouldn't celebrate that fact by putting "a cherry on top". I have more self-respect than to celebrate over someone else's misery.
@gregtaylor Thats really great, thank you for your input, it means a lot to me.
100% sure if someone raped your mother, wife, sister, daughter you'd go up to him and say "I forgive you my child" yeah, you go with that..
also 100% sure your forgiveness would mean so much to him he would change his ways xD.. You should run for pope..
I challenge you to show where I said anything about forgiving them. I have never forgiven my rapists and never will, but neither would I torture them, even if given the opportunity and immunity from prosecution. I adhere to a higher moral standard. You can't debate me rationally so you just make up lies to try and make me sound ridiculous. But anyone who actually reads our exchanges will be able to see the truth despite your lies.
Males too gets sexually harassed by females.
I know, sexually harassed, assaulted, and/or raped.
I don't care about rape anymore. Why? Because feminists have made so many false accusation and have shouted so much about rape culture that it actually doesn't make me want to be concerned about rape anymore. Thank the feminists for trivializing rape and sexism.
Thisisntonly scary but very sad...
makes you question your faith in humanity..
No..
Both men and women can be and have been raped or sexually assaulted. Both cases need to be taken seriously.
I care because it is an impact that can never been undone. I also care when a person is falsely accused of rape.
It's horrible, one of the worst things one person can do to another.
Falsely accusing is very rare but I'm sure it happens.
FYI, rapes happen in wildlife too.
Just pointing out. not supporting it.
Why did you feel the need to point that out? We are civilized, not wildlife.
so this is made up crap? do you fantasize about rape you sick little puppy?
wtf?
@gregtaylor It's far from made up. Check your facts, finish reading the article.
www.clickondetroit.com/.../14-year-old-boy-accused-of-raping-classmate-at-high-school-in-warren
Wrong @ person sorry