Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health 
A month or two ago I posted a question here regarding this subject, and recently I talked about it more in a question I answered, so I decided I’d write about it to further explain what I mean for some of the people who didn’t get what I was saying, mostly females. They seemed to think such an occurance is ridiculous, while other guys knew exactly what I was talking about. This has been the real case for me and I’ve turned out to be right about 95% of the time, so I don’t understand how females who answered that question I posted could even try to tell me what I’m saying is not true. I know that not all guys have the knack for figuring it out, but I think a lot of us do more than women really realize.
Whenever I’ve met or even observed women from a distance, I have almost never been wrong about knowing that she either does sleep around, or has at least had more than one sex partner in the past, whether it's been in relationships or hookups. What happens is that I will either find out later on from people who are very close to her, or she herself will mention guys she’s been with. Either way, my sense was correct. But how do I and other guys know about her body count to begin with? Well, now we will go over it.
The way she acts with guys...
There are usually two ways a woman acts with a man that lets you know she’s had sex with more than one guy in the past, or even at present, and her behavior with you doesn’t necessarily have to be flirty or teasing to mean she has either. Often it will actually be the very opposite. It will either be a reserved kind of behavior, or very open and friendly with guys in a way that’s not exactly sexual.
Reserved/Stuck Up…
The kind of reserved behavior I’m talking about is different from a woman just being generally reserved, and is a kind of aloof character that she mostly acts with men, and can often border on or be direct snobbiness or being a true bitch. This is usually what I've noticed in younger women who’ve slept with a lot of men, more than just 5 or even 10, and is because she knows about her history and is possibly paranoid that other men will think they can have a shot at her, and she will even try to avoid you sometimes.
This is often a definite case for women who are very attractive but especially physically. Some of them don't smile much, and when they do it doesn't seem entirely legit or they try to be careful about it with who and where, nor do they laugh a lot and it often takes something particularly comedic to make them giggle. They will act in this reserved or bitchy way with men because they’re afraid that if they get too close or friendly that it will just draw more attention to them or guys will think they can sleep with her, or that guys automatically want to sleep with her because she knows she’s done it with plenty of them. And because if she does want sex or is looking for it, she wants it to be on her terms, not guys’, even though it often does end up being on guys’ terms anyway.
Quietness is key. Often times this is the biggest indicator of a woman’s sexual history. If you’re someone like me who has a knack for reading the unseen pretty well, then you know what I’m talking about. Often times the biggest secrets are covered in the loudest silence, and is many times the case for women who act in a reserved, somewhat closed off or snotty way with men. The more a woman tries to pretend indifference towards men or avoid them, the more obvious the opposite can be. Sometimes there is more to the situation than just general disinterest from a woman.
Open and friendly…
Is the other way to tell a woman has already had sex, or with several men, but I don't think it's quite as common as the Reserved Woman or Bitch. Her open friendliness with guys is actually not even particularly sexual or flirtatious, but it’s just her nature because she likes sex and male company a lot and feels comfortable with men. It’s not exactly like a woman who prefers male friends either, or a tomboy. It’s just a kind of very nice way she has with men because she likes them, and unlike the Reserved Woman or Bitch, open and friendly ones generally don’t feel threatened by a guy making a pass at her or even making sexual jokes with her, and she herself will make them. Even if she’s not interested she will just laugh it off. I even know a few women like this on my job.
This is usually the case for women who are comfortable with their sexuality, and largely with older women. When a woman knows her body and what she likes, she can be very good with men in a social setting, maybe because she’s had a good time with them in bed. A woman who is very sexually aware of herself and what she’s into tends to have a lot of good sex and with more than one man in her life time, which maybe even crosses over into her social life and gives her a confidence and ease even in interacting with men.
Her body language and the way she behaves…
Explaining this is very, very complicated because I guess you have to be a guy to fully understand it but I will do my best. Typically a woman who has already had sex and especially with more than one man has a certain way of carrying herself that’s like a loose kind of demeanor. Relaxed would not quite be the word I want to use, but loose as in cool-ish. There is just something in her entire demeanor that says she knows the ins and outs of what it is to be with a man intimately. Basically, there are no surprises anymore, and her behavior tends to be more loose or sometimes even aloof. There is a certain sexual development in her that even is exuded through her body language and even facial expressions as crazy as it may sound.
Some guys think that a woman wearing makeup - or a lot of it - means she’s not a virgin, which actually is very true sometimes, though I do know that some virgins wear makeup just TO give the impression that they’re mature and sexual, so I wouldn’t rely on her use of it to give you any clues on her sexual experience or lack thereof.
Also, sweet girls, or ones who try to act very clean or wholesome, often are not, especially the sickeningly sweet ones. They act like this to hide their true sexual activity, or sexual impurities like sleeping with pastors or men in the church, giving sexual favors, or doing really naughty stuff with random guys after hours, in cars, school, under bridges, or in offices. So don't be fooled by them either.
Compare the way she acts with you vs. with other guys…
One of the biggest ways you can learn a lot about a woman is to observe the way she acts with other guys compared to how she acts with you. I learned this a long time ago, and as a guy you will find it to be a very valuable strategy in life.
Women tend to show different faces to different people, but especially men. Women who’ve slept with more than one guy in her life can act differently with you if you’re a guy who’s friendly and outgoing and has no trouble talking to women but you seem “nice” or are actually decent. Women with a body count can perceive you as “pure," soft, too "sweet," or nerdy because you’re a very kind or even intelligent guy, and they’re sizing you up and think you aren't the kind of guy she would ever want or need for sex, or you won’t be able to deliver the kind of sex she’s into. Even the way she talks to you can be as if she thinks you’re naive, and tends to have fewer words with you because she thinks you don't know stuff or don't get it, even though you do.
Now observe the way she behaves with other men: you notice that she’s very chatty or even giggly with other guys she thinks are real men or experienced, and can talk to them for a long time and you notice her body language seems more relaxed like she’s showing her true colors. In her mind, these other guys seem like the types of men who would fuck them how they want or seem confident enough for it if she ever wanted it.
Men have a Sixth sense…
No one lies about or hides their sexual behavior or past more than a woman does, so a guy knows how to pick up clues about it in other ways. I'm aware of guys who don't have this intuition, but I believe most men do. Even men who are virgins can tell. I guess it’s like a kind of perceptive sense of smell guys have, so to speak. And it could be because we ourselves are very comfortable with sex, are not inhibited about it, and don’t care who knows what we do or when we’re interested in sex either for the most part, so we're more sexually aware. Sex-minded creatures have night vision and can see other sexual creatures as well.
But like with any situation, we’re not always right and get hit with the occasional curve ball, and we may not know the exact number of guys a woman has slept with in her life, but we can just know if it’s been a few or several.
And anyway, most men can already figure that most women in these times are not virgins, or at the least not sexually pure, despite all the gender studies and journalistic research articles that want to try to convince people that women are not as sexually active or desperate as men. I think most men usually can detect a sexually active woman, and even horny or sex-deprived ones as well. I know I can. You have the naive guys with unrealistic, virginic expectations in a woman, and the ones who get heartbroken when they find out she’s not one or slept with more guys than he has with girls, but I actually don’t really think these guys are that common anymore.
And other times? The truth is that you may not even see any signs in a woman that says she’s slept with more than one man, you just get a sense that you know is not wrong. Sometimes when we interact with people we get certain vibes about them and they’re just plain right. Sometimes you just have a hunch about somebody and it’s not your imagination or having the wrong idea but the very right idea. Simple as that.
Why is a sexually experienced woman apparent?...
As crazy as it may sound, sexual activity has a way of changing or corrupting women in peculiar ways. And it can be seen more than I think they realize. It could be because by nature women are usually gentler or seemingly more clean than men, but sexual activity can alter her mind and demeanor, especially if her sexual experiences have actually made her start wanting sex more and giving her more adult or gritty tastes and desires.
With men, you usually can't tell if they've had sex or not unless he is very young and seems particularly naive or pure, nor does sexual activity in men alter their character or demeanor much unless they want it to be known by having badass/badboy behavior. At least with what I've noticed anyway. Often times guys I thought seemed like they were virgins or hadn't had much sex have surprised me like hell with the total opposite. So I do think there is a significant difference in this with the sexes.
I really welcome other guys to give their own details here - if they have any - of how they could detect if a woman isn’t a virgin or has had sex with several men. Would love to hear your stories.
#ShesNotAVirgin
What Girls & Guys Said
39 33Based on this take and some of your egotistical responses to the female responses on here, mainly @SarahsSummers and @orangecherry , I believe you think too highly of your own opinion, yourself, and your intelligence, thus really making you and this 'Take' you wrote ignorant.
You make a grandiose statement based on no research but your own minuscule experience with women and have your head so far up your own ego's rear end that any response on here not agreeing with you is met with a LMFAO or 'You must not have seen me say...' or 'There's always an angry chick'...
Maybe be a bit more open-minded and, well, smart.
As usual they are triggered !
@Super2nd :::Waiting to see what happens next:::
@EllieAyye I'm not concerned about what anybody thinks. A reaction of attack from the females really just reveals self-denial or anger at the truth, and I love seeing it. Attacks on my character show weakness on your part and theirs, because you can't actually offer me any thicker, deeper argument for me to think about. Most of us guys know what we're talking about, and that's been the point of the message. @Super2nd Like crazy, man.
You clearly are concerned or else you wouldn't have wrote the Take nor would you respond to anyone. In fact, can't you make it so that people cannot respond to Takes? I thought you could. Someone truly unconcerned would have left the Take that way or not have written it at all. And attack your character? This coming from a guy who just told @raspberry0416 'I think you were just looking to naysay so you could get upvotes. I notice that about you.' I made an observation based on your [poor] writing as well as your asinine remarks to other people, which is what you just claimed to have done to her. How is my observation different? Because it's something negative on you? How about this observation? You come across as a very immature individual. I'm guessing you're a minority male in your 30's, probably into older women since you told someone on here you prefer experienced women, and you're single, hopefully no kids. Is that an attack? Because that's my observation based on this Take.
We can apply your logic on you too !!! If you weren't concerned about what OP said or his observation on a specific kind of women. YOU wouldn't be commenting on his post too. But you clearly were offended by it ( I don't know why ! ) even though OP was just expressing his opinion. He didn't say that is a bad thing. it was only his observation. Now tell me something... why you felt threatened by it? lol
@Super2nd Well, I never said I wasn't concerned, now did I? Way to be able to read. And I'm not offended. Disagreeing with someone doesn't mean you're offended or angry. It means you disagree lol. You're not the brightest light on the Christmas tree, are you?
@EllieAyye Judging by the tone you present your response and the way you attacked OP, I would say its very obvious you were offended. And you're letting your emotions going out again... lol
@Super2nd Yeah, she does this all the time, that's why I don't even bother debating her anymore. She's better off arguing with herself.
@Super2nd And this attack is... where?
@ManonFire Again, a fallacy. If you didn't bother to 'debate' then you wouldn't have responded. Like... at all.
Reread your comment again ! You seem have a short memory loss. lol
You can't get everything from external appearance and determine it from there. It's not a reliable source. use your gut instinct instead. 😅
Gut instinct is basically what I'm saying, and that clues from a woman's body language or behavior can help you figure it out too.
I sorta understand parts of what you're saying but in the same way you can't really judge every women this same way and jump to the conclusion that she has.. some personalities are like that and they are still a virgin... it just depends on the girl you're basing these theories on because you can't pick out these things on every girl because each are different in their own way.. but at the same time I get what you're picking at just that the way you wrote the mytake makes it seem like you're judging every single girl like this
I wrote it based on the fact that I've known enough women like I described to really be ones who have slept with more than one guy, and it often does pan out correctly.
ah yeah! I think you're just getting hate on this take because it seems like you're slamming every women in the world to be that sorta girl ahah
@soccerchich4eva I'm getting hate because I think women reading this are seeing themselves in it. A reaction to attack is often rooted in self-denial. Also, they perceive it as being an attack on them because they must know it's true about them, when nothing I said in this Take ever really slammed for anything, I just pointed out how a guy can know what's what.
Ah yeah I get what you mean haha hope ya meet some better suited girls for you then if that's the experience you've had, try look at the interior part of them too not just the exterior :") hopefully that might be different haha
The interior part is ugly... lol !
It's actually impossible to tell. When I was a virgin, a lot of guys assumed I wasn't; even though my personality, the way I presented myself, and body language were all always modest and pure enough to show that I obviously was, and I was always obviously respectfully honest when telling people whether or not I'm a virgin. They could tell that I wasn't the type to lie about myself. But they still assumed. Not because they thought I was the sexual type, but because they secretly wished I was (high school; full of morons). But then when I started being sexually active, super social, open, flirty, presenting myself more provactively, and slept with a lot of guys, guys suddenly wanna believe I'm a virgin when I'm now no longer showing signs of being one; even though I tell that I'm not a virgin.
To be honest, I wish I was. I wish I could start over. But unfortunately that doesn't happen.
This article was pretty funny, thanks for the lulz OP 😂
Hey no prob lol.
I don't think its an exact science, but I do think you can usually come up with a decent estimate of how promiscuous a woman is based on how she dresses, looks, what her personality is like, who she hangs out with, and what her hobbies/beliefs are.
I think an introverted girl who has a cute face, and doesn't drink or doesn't go clubbing will usually have a low number.
On the opposite end, I believe extroverted girls who have hot or angry faces and like to drink/go clubbing will usually have a higher number.
Yep, you got it.
@Bandit74 Yes, but this comment is not what the mytake says. An introverted girl may not be into ONS so she has a low number, bus she may have had 3 relationships and still look equally introverted and inocent to a man. Also, you're forming opinions based on her personality, hobbies and beliefs besides the way she looks. If you get to know the person, of course you get a more accurate guess on their sex past. But the man who wrote this says he can just look to a woman and know if she is a virgin. No, you can't!
@yougurt I didn't say I could know if she's a virgin. I said I can know if she's already had sex and in particular with more than one man. And you can figure that out with enough observation of her behavior and especially with other men. I'm rarely wrong about it.
"I didn't say I could know if she's a virgin. I said I can know if she's already had sex" Do you even read what you write? You think you're a psychic and that makes you feel superior and better with yourself, so be it. Believe in that bullshit.
@yougurt "I said I can know if she's already had sex AND IN PARTICULAR WITH MORE THAN ONE MAN." is the main point. Of course knowing if she's a virgin and knowing if she's already had sex go hand in hand, but it's about if it's been with MORE THAN ONE GUY. It's of no consequence to me how you view it, but what I know means a lot more to me than what you don't and don't believe.
I cannot see it, except when she's doing it under my eyes.
I can actually smell virginity
Interesting.
... and it's posts like these that make me want to quit GAG.
A woman who has had sex with more than one man is considered a normal, well-adjusted person (at least in the US). So your post is basically saying that you hate women who are well-adjusted and you think women somehow don't know what they want with men. Nice job.
That's how you perceived it. I guess you haven't seen me say numerous times on GaG how I oddly am attracted to women who've slept with more than one man in her life. I think you were just looking to naysay so you could get upvotes. I notice that about you.
Not trying to naysay, I just don't see the point of this post. You're talking about the vast majority of adult women in America who aren't super conservative. You can pretty much assume that women you meet have had multiple sex partners, no sixth sense required.
@raspberry0416 The point is to talk about how guys can recognize things that women think they don't. And some really don't but I think most do. "You can pretty much assume that women you meet have had multiple sex partners, no sixth sense required." - Right. But there's more to it than just simply having sex.
Don't quit GaG. We need you.
I feel like most of the women replying just dont want to act like you're right on this whole thing because that'd give them away, and lord knows how women hate the idea of guys knowing who they like
That was EXACTLY my same thought.
I bet if there wer eold women who dont care they would definitely agree on some of these, of course it can't be 100% true but there's something there
You know when they just playing in the garden
One of this signs you missed is the 'slutface'.
Women who have a lot of sex have this bloodless zombie looking face with no lustre, glow or attraction.
It just looks like a pale dead face. It's a classic sign that many men have ejaculated in her.
You mean "The Thousand Cock Stare" ? lol
@Hungry_Shark Well, yeah, that's basically what I was saying in the Reserved/Stuck up section.
I'm the open and friendly girl lmao but I was like that before I had sex sooo I feel that this is you taking a women's personality and trying to link it to sexual partners had and that is just not enough evidence to know. And most women who are sexually active have not had just one partner, usually 2 or more so it's not hard to guess.
If you read the Take carefully, I noted how the kind of open and friendly a woman who's slept with several men is different from just any old plain open and friendly woman. As I said, there are vibes in it that carry different body language and suggestions apart from a woman who hasn't had much sex - or any - and is open and friendly.
I was open and friendly before I had sex and even after having sex with multiple people I am open and friendly. I have always had the same humor and I have always had a closer bond with the male gender rather than females. I just don't think that the evidence you have is actually substantial.
I don't believe that personality is enough to define a person's sexual behavior and sex life. There are people who strive to receive nudes or get head but don't intend on sex yet they could be seen this way to if looking at your above information.
I am just wondering why it matters.
It does for some and doesn't for others. For me I'm oddly sexually attracted to women who've slept with several men anyway, so I guess that could be one reason why I can read them easily.
i really never cared if a woman was experienced or not as long as she doesn't have a cheating past.
@LegateLanius And I will second that.
I don't dislike them as people. I just don't trust them.
@maestrodematimaticas everyone has a past and baggage. it just depends on how much baggage both partners are willing to take. i respect your decision to feel wary of a partner with a very sexual past.
Yeah, its a personal thing. I'll overlook a lot of things but I can't compromise on that one. Have tried in the past. Felt bad for the women actually. They treated me great but I just couldn't take them seriously. If I'm #49, I'm quite certain there will be a #50 when the urge hits her or if we get into an argument. Would take a 300lb woman over a promiscuous one.
Yes, I know I can tell.
I can't really tell it like you do, but i can tell if she's like a big time sl*t, as in , a woman who slept with a ton of guys and is promiscuous/unfaithful.
This i can tell just instictively by looking at her amd her demeanor. I don't know of ots like the "sl*tface " thing or of its her eyes. I can't tell of she's had an exact number tough, and i can't really tell about virgins.
I guess i only have the insticts required to avoid the obvious promiscuous girls
Yeah that's basically what I mean.
If my sixth sense doesn't tell me then Long Island Teas do. Feed her a few. Start discussing sex. Boom. just like that you will know. She will volunteer all you need to know and more. If she is someone I am seriously interested in, the number matters. I won't touch her until I know whether or not she was promiscuous. If I'm number 121 then I'm quite certain there will be a number 122 and 123.
Jesus christ you're ripped. Are you really 51? How long have you been working out? And good advice
@lord_chilled Thanks. 37 years. Since July of 1980
Yes I think so
Wow, this is 100% totall bullshit. Im amazed
Lol. I love seeing the angry chicks show up! If I've actually been right and even other guys know what I'm talking about, then we can't be all that wrong. You're either the kind of girl I described, or you're just mad.
Both
@Charleslvajr I'm thinking so, yeah.
No I'm just amazed anyone believes this. Its not true at all, and kind of silly.
@orangecherry Because plenty of guys know exactly what I'm saying, and if I myself have actually been right about it, then ask yourself: how can it not make sense?
ok then, not looking to argue, believe what you want, good luck
@orangecherry LMFAO! It's not what I believe, it's what I know! Lol.
Have you matured at all in 1y or do you still stand by your bs? just wondering.
Now, THIS is stupid. It contradicts itself, firstly. Secondly, how can you possibly attribute personality variance to how someone behaves sexually? That's just silly.
How does it contradict itself?