A guy from Grindr said I should get used to it?

[Anonymous]

I am new to Grindr and was talking to a guy and I liked talking to him and we agreed to meet (just for a bj). I've said I want to do it with a condom on but he said it won't be pleasurable for him there's no point in getting head like that, he said he will pull out and finish on my face, so we met in an abandoned building in our city and we kissed for a while and then he took his dick out and I've kneeled down and started working on him and he was caressing my head with his hands and after a while he made me lean on to a wall and started thrusting it in and out and since he said he would pull out I've let him do it and he started leaking in my mouth and I tried to take him out and he pushed it back in and put him entire weight into my face until he is completely done and after he took it out he moved back and asked me did I like it? I've asked him why did you finish in my mouth you said you would pull out? He said I didn't expect that I was gonna finish that soon but I started leaking and since I've already leaked some in your throat I thought I might as well finish it completely in there. And then he said sorry.

Later after a couple of days he texted me and asked if I was okay and I said I wouldn't wanna meet him again.

For which he said if you are trying to hookup on Grindr and you don't do Aanal, if you are only trying to suck off dudes
1. No one wants a BJ with a condom on
2. If no anal sex you will have to get used to taking loads in your mouth.

[AmandaYVR]

Wow this guy sounds like a real douche/asshole.

However... I did learn this about the gay dating culture recently - they do not use condoms. Wth? They do anal, one is always the bottom OR the top, not really flexible/switch, and they don't use condoms. That is really irresponsible. But I've also learned (separately) that they don't think AIDS is much of a problem anymore, because if they do get HIV, "There are pills now to prevent it from progressing to AIDS."

People think the dating world is cut-throat and shallow. Straight people don't know just how much more cut-throat and shallow it can get in the gay community. You're a good lay, no questions asked, no resistance, or you're not considered a viable part of the community. There's a pecking order, too.

So, sorry for what you experienced. But it's probably going to be the norm, or close to it. These guys use each other for gratification, and there's always more of them. One guy said he gets almost 100 dick pics per day.

[SamSays]

I'm sorry this happened to you man. That's messed up - he guilted you into doing sexual things without protection, you agreed when he told you he wouldn't finish in your mouth, then he broke the condition he set on his own. Sounds to me like he was never planning on pulling out, precum is a thing he should've known about. Whether he actually lied about his intentions or not, I'm pretty sure this is sexual assault. He kept on crossing sexual boundaries you put down. I'd advise you, for your own health and sanity, to cut things off when someone starts to push those types of boundaries if you can. If he doesn't use protection with you, I don't think he'll use protection with others either, and you're at a much larger risk of STD's.

[Asker]

I thought precum is not that harmful

[RobT312]

That’s the risk of hooking up with a stranger. Since u don’t know each other, it can easily get weird. Your experience sounds weird. He does have a good point tho, no girl or guy really wants to give a blowjob to a condom wrapped dick

[Asker]

Okay

[RobT312]

I think u are making the right move moving on! Not a good idea to see him again!

[ohvanillalattegal]

Sorry that was my first bj experience and til this day it badly traumatize me. You do what makes you feel comfortable and safe. Eff this douche. Don’t settle for less even if it’s just sexual.

[Asker]

Sorry to hear that

[Anonymous]

That's grindr. It happened the same to me.

[Asker]

Sorry to hear that