A guy has never made me have an orgasm?

Does this make it my fault of his fault. How can I change that. I feel like a loser
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  • I was 45 and spent two hours eating out a friend who was 36 and she came finally after all that time then burst into tears and I asked her why and she said I was the only guy who ever made her cum.

    This is not a rare thing. Many girls have this problem. I don't think fault comes into play at all. There are a ton of things that could cause this. Having a patient lover could help though. The best way to prevent someone from cumming is to say "hurry up and cum already!" If there is a high expectation of orgasm then that will actually cause anxiety which can prevent the orgasm. Another issue can be the physical motions themselves may not be sufficiently stimulating. Fewer than half of all women are able to cum just from fucking. I have found it far easier to get a woman to have an orgasm by licking her. I like to lick for a very long time, hours if I am able to. This gives a woman the opportunity to completely relax. I let my partner know that while her orgasm is a wonderful thing, I am not expecting her to perform for me. I usually tell her I'm going to lick until she says stop. Ways of enhancing are to insert one or two fingers and massage the G-Spot or use a vibrator. Other things I try involve attempting to make her insanely horny through a lot of teasing and stimulation before we get down to the main event. most younger women take more than an hour to go from zero to "HOLY FUCK THAT WAS AWSOME!" If your boyfriend is in and out and done in 15 minutes with no foreplay then it is clearly his fault for being a lousy lover despite what I said in the beginning of this opinion.

Most Helpful Guy

  • have You ever masturbated to orgasm? If you have not... then that's where you start... You must learn what works for you, the type of pressure, where, and how it feels best. You will also learn how to "let go" and release...
    When you know what works, you can guide your "Lover"... he wants to know what works best for you, everyone is different, the "key" to your orgasms is a mystery until you find the "key" that unlocks that "lock"...
    If you already know all this, and you have "lovingly" shared your secrets with your lover, and he still will not play the correct tune on your juice box... dump him

Most Helpful Girls

  • Don't use the word "fault" in this.

    Bodies can be complicated; especially youngish female ones. You have to be relaxed, comfortable with yourself and your sexuality, practice lots, and be able to communicate what you know to your lovers. They all want you to cum. Trust me. And they don't want a participation ribbon, or worse, a lie. You need to be open, honest, and communicative. (Plus, the challenge is good for them. They're very task-oriented by nature.)

    • Well said!

    • @ArrowheadSW Thanks 👍

  • Do you talk with these guys before or while they are fucking you? Commutation is something that helps make fucking really enjoyable and a great tool in finding out what a partner likes and dislikes.

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  • It’s nobody’s fault. You need to learn your body and what feels good to you and teach it to him.

  • No one can "make you" have an orgasm. Can you give yourself an orgasm?

  • Couple questions.

    can you make yourself orgasm?
    is it purely from external or also internal

    have you shown the guy where you touch and what you do to orgasm?
    if not start there

  • Have you ever made yourself orgasm? Start there.

  • Why should it be anyone's fault? The trick is to find someone you love, someone you can give yourself to fully, knowing he wants only you. to fulfil your every desire.
    Once you have that as a starting point, the rest should fall into place.

  • I can say is if the guy is not big enough and Doesn't last long enough. You certainly wouldn't orgasm.

  • Maybe you are too down on yourself is why you can't have an orgasm, try to practice when you masturbate and see how things go

  • I would say that's his fault! I ALWAYS made my ex- cum!! Maybe not from fucking her but, from licking her the right way!! Once I started, I'd have her cumming in less than a minute!!

  • Is it all guys or just one particular guy? Can you make yourself orgasm?

  • It’s not his fault. You need to learn on your own what gets you off

  • You should communicate with the guy and show him what feels good to you. Also, a lot of women can't orgasm through penetration alone, so you may need some help to get there

  • Yeah agree w/ everybody else - what works for you?
    Dirty talk? More foreplay? Touching in the right places for longer?

    Simple guys just think inserting the penis is the ticket.
    That will work for some women but other women will want/need something more.

    Do you know what you need to get there?

  • did you have regular sex with the same guy for a longer period of time? cause lots of that depends on practice and getting used to each other.

    • Like 3 months I didn’t Stand him with his cheating ass

    • well do you think that you couldn't cum cause you felt being cheated then? or how does that relate to your sex life with the guy?

  • You're not a loser by any means. You just might be with the wrong guy or he isn't experienced enough on giving a woman orgasms.
    Can you bring yourself to have an orgasm? Maybe you can guide him. Tell him what feels good and what doesn't

  • probably ur problem, how long does it take u to cum? it doesn't take me more than 5 mins, if u take over 20 mins maybe ur taking too long or have a desensitzed pussy,
    masturbate yes to increase sensation down there

    • masturbate less*

  • No its no ones fault nor does it make you a loser.

    here's my advice take or leave it. Start to explore your own sexuality more often. Learn what turns you on and gets you to orgasm. Buy toys if yiu have to to help you out. Then once you finally feel more confident in your body and how yours works and get with a guy. Instruct him on how best to get you off. If he's a gentleman he will comply with your wishes and make your sex life better. Maybe even draw you both closer together over it too.

  • You've just been unfortunate. Any guy worth anything, should ensure the girl has a great orgasm first. You're not a loser - the guys you've been with have been inconsiderate and selfish.

  • It could be both but nothing to feel bad about. His fault because he doesn't know what he is doing and your fault because if you are not comfortable enough being with him you may not let yourself truly go.

  • Some women are capable of orgasming threw men and that's fine.

  • You both should plan to have the focus just be on you instead of both of you getting off. And don’t quit until he gives you an orgasm. It’s more complicated for women to orgasm but once you have one the first time, it becomes much easier. Just relax and let him know what feels good and don’t let him stop until he gets you.

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