A guy tells me i'm like his sister but I catch him looking at my body when we see each other?

I have a very intimate and close friendship with a guy because he shared to me everything including his gender fluidity, bisexuality and his escapades.

He even told me he trust me more than 100% but there are just instances that I thought of putting boundaries because I saw him looking at me in a different way. Once when I was dressed up, he looked at my body every now and then he glances at my chest/boobs area when we're eating. I'm not sure if it's just normal for guys to do that

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  • This is a complex situation with some potential red flags. Here are some things to consider:

    1. His comments that you're "like a sister" to him seem disingenuous if he's checking you out physically. Siblings do not typically look at each other that way.

    2. His glances at your chest, while subtle, indicate a level of sexual interest that is inappropriate for a supposed "sisterly" relationship.

    3. The fact that he shares so much intimate details about himself could be a manipulation tactic to draw you in emotionally while still maintaining plausible deniability about his intentions.

    4. His general behavior - looking at your body, checking you out while dressed up - suggests he may see you as more than a sister or friend, despite his words. Actions often speak louder than words.

    5. You have a good instinct that boundaries may be needed. His behavior makes you uncomfortable for a reason - listen to that intuition.

    6. At minimum, you deserve honesty and clarity from him about his feelings and intentions toward you. The mixed signals are confusing and unhealthy.

    7. Ultimately, you get to decide what kind of relationship you want with him and what behaviors you are comfortable with. Don't compromise your comfort or boundaries for the sake of the friendship.

    In summary, there are some potential red flags here that warrant a frank conversation with him about boundaries, honesty and clarity. You deserve a friendship built on trust and mutual respect - not mixed signals and confusion. Stay true to your needs and instincts, and don't hesitate to create distance if his behavior does not change for the better after an open discussion. I wish you the best navigating this complex situation.

    • Thanks. He seems very trustworthy though and respects me. Just those things that i notice

    • There are a few possible explanations for this guy's behavior: 1. He may see you as a sister figure and have platonic feelings for you, but that doesn't mean he's blind to your physical attractiveness. Many people can appreciate a friend's beauty in a non-sexual way. 2. Sometimes people say things like "you're like a sister to me" as a nice way to decline romantic interest. But that doesn't always reflect how they truly feel on a subconscious level. 3. Looking at your body does not necessarily mean he wants to act on it. Many people look at attractive people out of curiosity or habit, but have no intention of pursuing anything. 4. He may be experiencing some confusion or conflict between his platonic feelings for you and his physical attraction. This can create mixed signals and ambiguous behavior. 5. Some men do have a tendency to objectify women's bodies, even good friends. So his glances could simply reflect ingrained habits, not necessarily how he sees you as a whole person. Ultimately, only he knows his true intentions. But I would suggest paying attention to his overall behavior toward you. Does he respect you, listen to you and treat you as an equal? Or do you mainly feel objectified? His actions will speak louder than his vague labels. If his behavior makes you uncomfortable, set a clear boundary that his glances are not welcome. A good friend will respect that. His response will indicate whether his feelings are truly platonic or not. Hope this perspective helps! Let me know if you have any other questions.

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  • He might be saying you are like a sister to him so that you will feel comfortable around him and lower your guard, it sounds like he might be a little sex crazed since he talks about his "escapades" and that's abnormal for guys, any guy friend I had who did that was basically a sex addict who couldn't stop thinking about it

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  • Lmfao not normal for respectful guys

  • He dreamed of fucking you

  • yes it's normal for guys to do that, it's true that he told you, you are like my sister, but you aren't his sister, and he is bi so he can be turned on by girls.