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A little logic thrown into "slut shaming"


There is always a regular stream of questions asking how many sexual partners people have had and what is an acceptable number of partners. The trend tends of praise guys for a high number and call girls with a high number "sluts", personally I dissagree with this logic and see it as a form of bullying.

Case study: A 5 year relationship

In a 5 year relationship a couple will be together for 60 months which is 1825 days. If the couple have sex on average once a week they will have had sex 260 times, This number is variable due to periods, weeks without and weeks with multiple times. And as we all know the first 6 months of a relationship is one non-stop love fest.

In 5 years of being single and a girl has sex once a year with 5 different guys she will be called a slut by some people.

How is it fair that one couple are completley fine having sex 260+ times while another girl can't have it 5 times????

I know that some girls will go out and have sex with 20 different guys in a year but at the end of the day they are still having a lot less sex.

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I have also heard some guys say that a girl must be very loose downstairs because she has had so many partners, this makes no sense! A girl that has had sex with 10 men will not be any looser than a girl that has had sex with the same man 10 times!!

A little logic thrown into "slut shaming"

If a girl is slutty it's because she enjoys sex and pleasuring herself and others not because of how many men she has been with, so in a way being a slut should be praised. I sure wish my girlfreind was sluttier for me.

So next time you want to throw the word slut at anyone who has had multiple partners just stop and think how many times you have had sex.

A little logic thrown into "slut shaming"

P.S. I know the pictures don't exactly help my argument but I found them slightly funny.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • Thank effing god! I agree 100% that slut shaming is so wrong. It's literally bullying, and for how many people disagree with bullying, I'm so shocked that slut shaming is somehow okay? I was called a slut literally the day after I lost my virginity. For one time? And just because guys can't possibly control themselves around attractive women, why should that be a "sluts" problem? If a girl wants to sleep around, what the heck does anyone else care, obviously the guys getting it don't care lol I work with a girl who had sex with her ex boyfriend, and the next day gave some guy she was hanging out with a blowjob, the girls that didn't like her had a field day, but I stood up for her because 4 days after me and my ex broke up, my now husband started dating. And even though I haven't been with a lot of people, I've had more sex than most people I know, but I'm somehow not a slut anymore because I'm married.

    Bottom line is, humanity decided to say fuck logic and they're mad because these so called sluts aren't sleeping with them because they're disgusting bullies.

Most Helpful Guy

  • I'm not going to promote myself or my opinions here.
    I'm just going to say, If you disagree with this post, or any post about humans being allowed to exercise their sexual nature:
    Just block me now.

    It'll save us all a lot of arguing, blocking and flagging.

    I'm pro-sex, not just pro-sex for men only.
    I'm anti bullying.
    Anti shaming.

    I won't attack people for disliking sex or being virgins, but if you strike out against anyone, man or woman, that likes sex, I will come at you.

    So just block me now.

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  • Slut labeling is out of hand. Say one person had a lot of partners that were all a product of committed relationships while the other had considerably less partners but they were all just sex buddies zero relationships... Who's really the "slut" there? I don't ask about sex partners because it doesn't matter honestly. If the person is committed to you what does it really matter?

  • I always thought the definition of slut was people sleeping with a lot of people, not how much sex they had/have?

    Either way, it doesn't matter to me because I don't really care what other people do and I don't see the point in shaming for enjoying sex.

    But I also don't understand why people call it "shaming" just to call someone a slut if they are a slut. Like i've said a million times before, i'm a virgin and people can call me a virgin and I don't care, whether it's in a good or bad light. So since when did being called, what you are, become shameful. It would be "shaming" to me if you weren't what people called you and they called you that regardless. This slut shaming shit still confuses me lol.

    • While we are at it, why don't you call black people niggers? Because it's insulting... The word slut has been invented especially to hurt people who are called that.

    • That's a good point too, I wasn't really saying we should go around insulting others or shaming them. I'm just sort of confused honestly, like why it's so offensive compared to other things that people say that are offensive as well, i'm not defending it..

    • Not that I slut shame, but a girl can control and choose her sex life, guys not so much. A black person can't choose to be black. Again, I'm not one to slut shame, a persons sex life is none of my business but the reason why that stud/slut double standard exists is because it's much easier for a women to get laid than it is a guy. A girl only has to say yes while a guy has to be very convincing, confident, and have a lot going for him.

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  • Slut shaming is wrong. I think we can all agree on this. However, like @Crazyced said you can't equate someone who's had sex with 50 guys in 6 months to a year with a couple in a monogamous relationship within the same time span.

  • i'm kinda/sorta okay with slut shaming. i think sleeping with whoever you see just because you like sex is WRONG (this applies to both men and women). it is totally THEIR choice but i dont agree with it. if you're in a relationship with someone then you should wait a little then sleep with them. if you're in a long term relationship then go ahead and bang 500 times a day. i dont care. but if you're sleeping with people who you are not in a relationship with then thats wrong. i know sex is only physical for some people but its emotional for me. thats why this is MY opinion. having sex is like giving someone your love and your body and i personally won't give that stuff to strangers. what if you like sex and are totally horny but not in a relationship? there are so many toys out there. toys, porn, your hands and your imagination. i've always been very sexual and very horny but im still a virgin because i know how to please myself. a person that sleeps with several people isn't someone im going to have a lot of respect for.

    • Wait, you think it's wrong to sleep around for the sake sex yet consider watching porn as alright? (When those in the porn are having sex just for the money.)

    • @bysshe we can always stop making porn and we'd still have enough porn to last a life time.

    • There is a difference between having your opinion and shaming people about it. You can say you wouldn't do it, but don't judge people who do it. There is no rule book anywhere where it is stipulated it is wrong. And I am not talking about the bible who has been written by people like you and me and who wrote their opinion in a book. If you think it's wrong, then tell me this. Who is the victim? If there is no victim, it's not wrong.

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  • I don't think they should be insulted or degraded, I just wouldn't want to date one.

  • Are we really equating a couple having sex for a year to a girl fucking 50 guys in the same time span and calling it logic?

    Also, men and women's sexual realities are very different. To put it simply, a man (vast majority anyways) can't just decide to 'whore themselves out' like a girl could. It doesn't work that way.

  • Excellent points! So how do people rationalize it then? STDs, unplanned pregnancy ETC. All the same consequences that sluts are supposed to have can also happen to a woman whose only had ONE partner too, can't they? I think you're 100% right.

    • you may be the first and possibly last woman to ever say i'm right

    • You're serious? Women wouldn't want to agree with this?

    • I like u people. I agree too.

  • Being sexually active or having a lot of sex doesn't make a person a slut. A person who has multiple sex partners, especially in a short period of time, is.

    by the way a girl who likes to get kinky and explore in bed is a freak, not a slut. Know the difference. Ever heard the phrase lady in the streets, freak in the sheets?

  • Haha, funny.

  • I've slept with between 25 to 30 girls. I used to brag about this. However once I got past 30 I started to realize that a guy who sleeps around is no different than a girl who sleeps around. No better, no worse.

  • Having sex 260 times with ONE person is not the same as having sex with MULTIPLE people. I mean... WTF?

    • Why should it be seen any differently? The same risks are involved either way.

    • @CandyandPinkCats NO... just no. A monogamous relationship where both partners have been tested and stay faithful has practically ZERO risks compared to sleeping around with a bunch of different people. What is this I don't even This is why we can't have nice things...

    • I meant what if one of the partners cheats? And some STDs can show up later, even after tests.

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  • In my ideal world every girl would be a slut...

    I don't think it should be seen as a bad thing.

  • I adore sluts. If it weren't for sluts, I'd still be a virgin at 30.

    • We should really recognize the good they do to the community lol

    • @JuicyBrain Yeah we should declare July 3rd as national slut appreciation day!

    • @JuicyBrain

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  • This is why I'll never have a relationship with a woman, I don't want to fall for a whore

    • check the hoefax

    • Haha.. Ha. Hoefax.. Lmao omg, that's something I need to look into

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