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A question for people who like bdsm?

My boyfriend and I are getting into bdsm (he's the submissive).
I've had him on 2 weeks of no orgasm to try and build him up in time for a holiday next week.
Last night we were fooling around a bit. It was nothing too serious. I had him tied up on the bed and I was just lightly and slowly stroking his dick while I watched tv. I told him strictly no cumming.
Without any notice he had a massive orgasm and made a huge mess.

I considered all the usual punishments like spanking etc.
But im taking my time to come up with something more creative.
Does anyone here have any ideas? Lets make is spicy and fun but not too gross hey.
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  • First, order him a ball gag with holes in the ball for breathing. Tie his wrist and ankles splayed out. Kiss your way up to his member and back down the other leg. Work back up to his member and take him in your mouth. Go all the way down and stop. With his head in the back of your throat, swallow twice so he can feel you doing so. Then, curl your lips in a sneer and press your teeth into hers base just so while shaking your head no. Look him in the eyes the whole time. Drag your teeth up his shaft till you reach the head and press your teeth down like a chewy motion. Let him fall out of your mouth while still making eye contact and very sternly say, So you are really that selfish! You are going to let your mistress do all of the work for YOUR orgasm? Keep a bowl with ice, water and a washcloth by the bed. Grab the rag and ring it out over him saying, I don't think so. Then, climb onto his face with your ankles under his arms. Grab a book (something bdsm related) and hold it open. Tell him you are going to f*ck his face while reading about men who know who's orgasm is important. Hide your face behind the book and stroke his hair with your other hand as you grind into his face. As you get close, pull his hair and grind like you hate him. Just as you are about to climax, push your lips up to his forehead and cum. Hold the book open to your chest and slide yourself down his face till you are sitting on his chest. Grab his chin, reestablish eye contact, and look at him with disgust. Say, you selfish boy! You enjoyed that too! Untie one of his hands, tell him to untie himself as you throw a pillow onto the floor. Tell him, don't he dare clean himself off or taste you off of his face. (Because he's such a dirty and selfish boy) He hasn't earned the fruit of your labor. He must sleep on the floor while he contemplates how he's going to prove to his mistress that he's going to be less selfish in the future and put his mistresses pleasure first. WARN him that if he even cleans his face, try's to taste you off of himself or touch himself, you'll tie his hands and make him sleep that way. Do this while pointing at the floor like you are scolding a puppy. Then, drink a glass of wine while you read a book and occasionally look over at him in disgust. Turn out the lights and stretch out, taking up as much of the bed as possible. Get comfortable. Tell him it's the mistresses bed and he better learn to hold his load if he wants back in it. The only mess he's allowed to make is what's on his face until he learns.

    • wow! You have quite a way with words

    • @Emilia_The_Great Thank you. Those I'm not are well worded using my phone as I am with my tablet or laptop. It's harder to proofread. Lol, I believe I got the point of the punishment across though. 😉

Most Helpful Guy

  • Assuming he couldn’t touch himself and you stopped as soon as you saw him cum, it was a ruined orgasm, which is very frustrating in and of itself. But when that happens, a man’s refractory period is very much reduced. He can get hard soon or right away. You can tease with something like “Oh? You like to cum without permission, do you? Well let’s see how much!” You can torture him through the post-orgasm sensitivity, get him hard quickly and ruin the next one, too. It can work again and again, until he’s shooting blanks.

Most Helpful Girl

  • have you tried a sounding rod?


    I used one on an ex boyfriend which meant he couldn’t cum

    • also if you want to chat send me a pm (I know you posted this question as anon) I am a sub and would be interested in talking to a dominant woman

    • He sounds like a bad boy!

    • Also sub but not experience real

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  • Usually CBT, E-Stims are good, specially ones for guys.

    Nipple clamps and posture collars with a rear posture bar.

    how is he with Anal?

  • Chastity devices designed for men will help out. They make them that are very painful when the guy gets an erection. Very difficult to cum while wearing one and will discourage orgasms. For punishment be careful that you don't do something that will turn him on. One girl I dated a while was a Domme and discovered that I was deliberately being naughty because I adored the way she flogged my balls.

  • Also consider that extreme edging could cause prosthatic cancer in the long run.
    Unless you don't want a slave boy with a limp noodle, don't overdo it with the edging stuff.

  • You should of watch for the signs that he was going to cum soon and stopped stroking him, once you took beyond the point of no return he lost all control and would of cum even if you stopped then. No TV for you next time.

  • Chastity cage would be best punishment for cumming without permission. If he can not keep it in he shouldn't be allowed to get hard for some time. Or you can make him eat it if it isn't too grose for you...

  • Wow sounds super hot

  • Yea, the longer you hold off cumming, the bigger the mess will
    be and the quicker you will get there.
    They have these little cage type things now you could put on him. Some are solid plastic and they lock. This way he can’t even touch it... It’s an interesting idea, but I couldn’t do it.

  • I made this mistake. Not a huge mess. Lucky you two. But I came during a time I wasn't allowed.
    I was tied up the next night and forced to watch her suck her brother's friend's cock and he came on my face as a finish.
    Maybe too much for y'all. But I won't forget that

  • Male chastity device

  • The best punishment option is this... he should throw you over the back of a chair and fuck your ass dry. That should take care of the problem going forward.

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