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This is not a command, but something I would ask all men and women to consider.
The abortion issue provokes a lot of strong opinions, but as a man, I am not going to offer mine.
This is not because I don't have one, but because I don't think I should.
In the United States, state legislatures and congress, bodies made up mostly of men are passing restrictions on abortions in a transparent attempt to eliminate the practice (or drive it underground). Men are taking arms and shooting down abortion providers. Men are attempting to defund Planned Parenthood.
As a man, I would appeal to my fellow men to stop.
I am appalled that this has become yet another example of men imposing their will and power over women - needlessly.
Men, if you'll pardon the expression, unless you impregnated a woman and she plans to/has aborted the child without telling you, we don't have any skin in the game. Women do. Carrying a child to term and giving birth is a big deal for them, but unless she is someone we know personally, it doesn't affect us at all.
Perhaps in your mind, you're defending a helpless, unborn life. But to women, and to many other men, you're simply exercising privilege and power over women.
Instead of adding fuel to the fire that this is a man vs. women issue, let's let the women hash this one out amongst themselves, because trust me, there are LOTS of women who oppose "the right to choose."
For example, remember Karen Handel? She is the pro-life advocate who worked for Komen For The Cure in 2011/12 who tried unsuccessfully to pull that organization's funding for Planned Parenthood.
Let's be real about this: we men will never really eliminate abortion from this country without the consent of the women who would have them. We cannot and should not impose an abortion ban - or anything else - on women. Even though representative democracy grants us that right, we shouldn't have it.
Perhaps someday we might see polls that show women favor restrictions on abortion. We might see prominent feminists speak out in favor of those restrictions. It seems unlikely now, but who knows were the debate might go if we just get our big dicks out of the way? If the debate does turn, perhaps at that time male (and female) politicians should represent their constituents accordingly.
Until then, we just look like bullies. Is that what we really want?
Let them hash it out. I don't want to look like just another dude who is enforcing his will on a resentful woman or group of women.
NOTE: I know that by writing this, I am inviting a bunch of douchebags to post their comments advocating their obnoxious pro-life views in defiance. Whatever. I won't be engaging anyone in any abortion debates, and I would recommend that women start to not engage men in abortion debates either.
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2 0People will continue to be divided on the topic of abortion. It is a very heavy topic.
I think "we" as humans have a right to voice our opinions on whether we want abortions to be banned.
In this article you emphasize that men are "for" abortion being banned, but however I know there's women standing behind them that feel this way as well.
Lets just think, if it abortions were really banned, the adoption rate would go up. More women would go home with babies that they can't care for. There would be an increase in child neglect, abuse, molestation etc.
I think every thing should stay the way it is!
Abortion isn't something I necessarily agree with (depending on the circumstances), but it's a right I feel every woman should have.
No man unless he's involved in making a child with the woman should ever have a say in this, because you're right it does not affect him.
Abusing and neglecting a child because you're mentally incapable of caring for it, is far worse than aborting a child in my opinion.
You're putting that young kid through trauma and torture.
People need to ask themselves what weighs heavier?
"Men, if you'll pardon the expression, unless you impregnated a woman and she plans to/has aborted the child without telling you, we don't have any skin in the game. Women do. Carrying a child to term and giving birth is a big deal for them, but unless she is someone we know personally, it doesn't affect us at all". I think that if we use this mentality then other women don't have a dog in the fight either unless they are currently pregnant. And if we say "well of course they do, women are the ones who get pregnant", well that's only with a man's help so again it comes down to men being able to take an equal stand in this issue and rightfully so. In all fairness men need to be able to be involved in the decision making for what happens with their children too. But this is my opinion only.
Women definitely do have a dog in that fight, even if they are not currently pregnant. They are the ones who get pregnant. They carry fetuses to term and take on the lioness' share of responsibility in raising the child in most cases. So far so good. However, individual men should have a power to negotiate within their relationships, as I suggested in the Take, but not have the right as an entire gender to impose a blanket policy on all women. I don't think anyone should be able to take an equal stand on any decision unless they can take on an equal amount of responsibility for said decision. But again, this is my opinion only.
That's another issue though, men aren't allowed to "take on an equal amount of the responsibility" because men aren't allowed to be fathers until it is convenient for the woman. Now all of the sudden "you're his/her dad" and she wants a paycheck. Not to mention the terrible court system that caters to women while offering the men the leftovers. My husband is just as much of a father to our children as I am their mother and how selfish of me if I were to think otherwise. I'm not special because I have a vagina. I knew when I laid down with him that children were a possibility and if I didn't think he would be a great father then I had a responsibility to stop before it got to that, just as he did with me. And my own father wasn't any less of a parent than my mother. He worked 2 jobs to keep a roof over our heads, food on our table, and clothes on our backs so that my mother could be home with us. That doesn't make him less. We needed him and still do. Fathers have a say just as mothers.
True, but these are all matters of your personal relationship and that of your parents. It's great that you have a husband/father that assumes that responsibility; the four of you negotiated that in a fine and healthy way. Unfortunately it doesn't always happen that way. Men aren't biologically required to carry a child to term as a matter of science.