Abstaining from sex?

Question

After our third pregnancy scare my wife and i have decided to officially abstain from having sex. No birth control we have condoms but never use them. We freak over a late period. We are obviously to immature to practice safe sex. Are we being reasonable with officially abstaining?

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

I think you're being completely unrealistic. Why don't you use condoms? Why doesn't she use melting inserts that kill sperm. They're inexpensive, are inserted 10 minutes before sex and are good for one sexual encounter. Used with a condom they are 95% effective. Birth control foam works similarly. As well as sperm killing, folding sheets the size of gum wrappers, inserted into the birth canal close to the cervix and also melt in five to 10 minutes...

However, an under the skin hormone releasing birth control device, the pill, or an IUD are all about 99 percent effective. The insert and IUD can stay in place for 5 to 10 years. The IUD does not introduce hormones into the body, nor do melting inserts and condoms.

It simply requires planning. YOU MUST YOU THEM FOR EVERY SEXUAL ENCOUNTER. New melting insert, new condom, 10 minutes of waiting. Have them at the ready and USE THEM.

I think this is simple. Use the wait for foreplay. At 41 you should have enough self control and rationality to realize you do NOT want another child and it is worth it to use preventatives.

MORPHEUS_12 · Accepted Answer

It's like you want to keep breeding. My husband and I have NEVER had a pregnancy scare in the 30 years we have been together. The reason is that we did not, fuck and think later. You already have 3 dependents and you damn sure do not need anymore. There is no reason to do what you are doing. However, if you cannot take responsibility for your own health how can you make decisions for your kids?

RespectfulGuy · Accepted Answer

This question is so private that it should not even be asked because no one here can answer for your wife.

May I suggest talk to your wife and make a decision.

It's nothing wrong if both agree to abstain.

It's also nothing wrong if both agree to continue.

And yes, keep up other form of intimacies as long as you both enjoy doing.

Finally, don't be rigid. If after some time, you decide to resume sex, then talk again and then make a new decision.

Really, decide with her, and not anyone here in GaG.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

If you can do it is the best way not to get pregnant.

ShesRad80 · Answer

why abstain with your wife? you have plenty of things to prevent pregnancy, available? its very odd in my opinion to be honest @41 too immature? so many things wrong here

Flower7 · Answer

Why not have your wife take oral birth control?

Apple1996 · Answer

If she tracks her cycles well enough then you can do the fertility awareness method. It works really good if she is regular

chicken_nugget24 · Answer

Have you guys had kids?

DiegoO · Answer

There are female condoms also. You guys are missing out a lot. Educate yourself if you are unsure.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Incrediblely stupid. The whole point of marriage is to have regular and steady sex.

Mangospacho · Answer

Absolutely reasonable. You’re way too young to be having children.

gorydetails · Answer

I mean, there’s oral and anal sex, and female birth control. You don’t have to just abstain, but it is the most effective form of pregnancy avoidance.