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Guys, Advice for giving first blowjob?

Any advice? What to do? What to not do? Any views that turn guys off? Obviously natural instinct kicks in but I want to be mindblowing :)
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  • To make him go weak at the knees, when giving him a blow job linger on the parts of his anatomy that are particularly sensitive - the tip of his penis, his testicles and his perineum - the secret spot between the testicles and the anus.
    He’ll also appreciate lots of attention around the shaft whether you use your mouth, tongue or hands, some good shaft action will get him closer to blowing his load.

    If your partner's penis is on the large side you may find it more than a mouthful. Blow jobs can be difficult to perform on bigger penises but don't worry - you're not expected to be able to take it all the way down.

    A simple trick to blow job success is to use your hand and your mouth together - which will feel good for any size of penis.

    Use an edible lubricant or your saliva to get things going moving and move your hand from the shaft (bottom) to the tip until he's really hard. Then add your mouth, taking him in as your hand moves up and down.

    Oral sex is about using your mouth to maximum effect, on his penis, and other areas too.

    Try gently (very gently!) sucking on his testicles one at a time. Lightly kiss his inner thighs. Lick his super sensitive perineum (along the line between his anus and testicles). All added together he'll be totally under your control - a total turn on for you too!

    Blow jobs and oral sex should be fun so if you want to spice it up try playing with temperature and sensations.

    Temperature play can be fun, so try taking a mouthful of warm tea, swill it around your mouth and swallow then take your man's penis into your mouth for 20 seconds and suck. Then take a mouth full of cold water and do the same. The difference in hot and cold will feel fabulous for him.

    You can also try champagne, fizzy water, mint, ice cubes and ice cream for extra unexpected sensations.
    Some women can't bare the taste of their man in their mouths which makes oral sex rather less enjoyable.

    While performing a blow job you can add chocolate body paint, squirty cream or ice cream then spend time licking and sucking it off, or try a flavoured lubricant - Durex do a good selection.

    Gagging during oral sex isn't something to be embarrassed about. He'll think you're gagging because he's so massive and if you actually tell him that then you'll give him one enormous ego boost that he'll love you for
    When he starts to come, there's the question of whether to swallow or not. You don’t have to: each to their own. see next post

    • Some foods and drinks do have an effect on the taste of your guys load. Alcohol, caffeine, recreational drugs and nicotine all add a tang to your man's semen and make it taste like a bad night out. The day after a binge it's probably best to avoid blow jobs altogether! Vegetarians have better tasting sperm but too much cauliflower, broccoli and asparagus can have a seriously negative impact - so get your guy to limit these foods if you're planning to swallow after an oral sex session. Some foods to avoid are obvious - garlic and onions make our breath smell - and add a funky taste to our guy's semen too thanks to their high sulphur content. If you want to sweeten his spunk try getting your man to eat plenty of fruits that are high in natural sugars - pineapple juice is a winner. Also sweet and fragrant foods and herbs like parsley, wheatgrass, celery, cinnamon, cardamom, peppermint and lemon can all make for a sweet oral sex session.

    • When giving (or receiving) oral sex, be aware that hepatitis B, fungal infections and other STDs can be passed on via oral sex and blow jobs. The risk of HIV transmission from performing oral sex is low but it can still happen. If you’re unsure of your partner's sexual past, use a condom. Mouth infections can also be transmitted via oral sex and remember never to give head when you have a cold sore unless you want to give him herpes! Some women are repulsed by oral sex and blow jobs and don’t like the idea of putting their partner’s penis in their mouth, it's not for everyone - the idea is to both get turned on from the experience. If it makes you feel more up for it try having a shower together as part of foreplay so that you can nice and clean before you get dirty.

    • If you still don’t feel comfortable with giving oral sex, remember there’s no point forcing yourself: he’ll feel it if you’re not happy and won’t get as much pleasure out of it. The goal is shared pleasure and excitement. Talk to him about it and you might find you change your mind in time. Blow jobs should be a pleasure for both of you, knowing you're turning him on is a turn on in itself. hope it helps :-)

  • Start softly and gently, kissing and licking his balls and shaft. After a few minutes start getting firmer and wetter. Flavored lube is great and will really help. Variety is great, so keep mixing things up. Go from licking balls and jerking him to sucking him and lightly grazing his balls with your fingertips. The best blowjob artists are always using hands and mouth at the same time. You want to envelop his package and constantly be moving. Build the momentum and increase the intensity.

    Your going to get tired, so be sure to mix things up. A couple of pointers:

    - any contact with his penis is going to feel good, so don't think you have to be actively sucking it the entire time. Kissing, licking and jerking with your hand are all great. Just keep making contact with it. A great way to give your jaw a break is to keep your teeth together and jamb his cock into you cheek. The pressure is great, you get to keep your jaw closed, and he will love seeing his cock stretching out your mouth. And he will be able to see the outline of his dickhead through your cheek. Then quickly switch to the other cheek, then open up and back on the tongue. This is so hot!
    - big wet kisses are great. Grab his dick with your hand and pucker up. Lightly smack your lips with his cock, kind of whap your face with it. Then dive back in for more sucking.
    -use long firm licks from his balls to his shaft, and all the way up to the head. You want to make sure to lick everything.
    - if you get very tired don't be worried about jerking him for a while. Just move up so your tits are by his cock, so they jiggle around a little while you jerk him. Maybe put his dick between your boobs. Just get creative. As long as you are doing something he will like it.
    - mumble things while his dick is in your mouth. Doesn't matter what your saying, the vibrations are amazing!
    - at least try once or twice to deepthroat. A little light gagging is hot, but don't go to far. Say something like 'I'm gonna see how far i can take you' and then try it. The whole point of trying is incredibly hot.
    - whatever your doing when he starts to cum, keep doing it. When he is cumming is not the time to mix it up. Just keep doing what your doing and ride it out.
    - if at all possible try to let him cum in your mouth. There is really nothing else like it. Nobody cares if you spit or swallow, personally i like seeing the cum drizzle out of her mouth and dripping off her chin.

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  • Here's a Take I wrote for just this situation:

    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a7404-blow-jobs-tips-from-a-deep-throat-queen

  • Well, you won't be mindblowing if it's his mind you are concentrating on blowing. Specifically, the sexiest thing--by far--is when the girl WANTS to be there, when she wants nothing more than to worship his willy (whether it's necessarily true or not.) If you convince him "Mr. Happy" is the reason you live and breathe, it will hardly matter what you do. Well... that... and no teeth >ouch< .

    Honestly, most of it is mental, and the more *into* it he believes you are, the better it will be for him.

    Also, while it's not necessary, if you want it to be monumental... I hate to say it... Swallow--and regardless don't let him see (or hear) you gag.

    Now, that's a fantasy blowjob. If you want to be honest and real, be just that. Tell him it's your first time. Tell him you really want to do a good "job" and if it isn't 100% mindblowing, promise to practice daily until "perfect*. Unless he's a total asshole, it's not going to matter. Obviously if he IS a total prick... don't waste your spit.

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  • My take.
    www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a11126-toward-giving-a-better-blowjob

  • the best one i received started with the girl licking slowly my whole dick from balls to the tip of it. then started sucking slowly only the tip, slowly went dpper and deeper. dont be shy to get crazier and spin ur head while his sick is in ur mouth and u going up and down on it. DONT USE TEETH! hold the shaft with one hand and suck the rest. go faster and faster. when its already in ur mouth, use ur tongue to play with it. when u get a bit tired dont leave it just like that, use ur hand to keep jerking him, fast. during the bj use ur hand to jerk the rest of the penis which isn't in ur mouth (if he's not too small).
    thats it i think. if i wasn't clear enough or u have more questions, message me. good luck

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