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[ADVICE] I watched my boyfriend have sex with another girl because I thought it would be really hot but now I regret it. I feel really insecure?

I thought watching him have sex with another girl would be really hot (and it was) but now I really regret it. He was reluctant to do it at first but I encouraged him and now I just feel stupid. It was sexy watching him go into her and all that but he actually got really into it - like he enjoyed her more than he enjoys me. I can't get the thought of him liking her more out of my head. I feel really insecure and I don't know what to do.
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Thanks for the answers. I will be talking to him about more it tomorrow.
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  • In this world of hyper social networking it is considerably easier than you would think to have a threesome, voyeurism, or an affair. This is all good and bad.
    Personally I have had 3 threesomes. The first one went off great. It was my wife's (at the time) idea also. The second was not so good. Years later I am in a different relationship, and my sweetness says, "I think I'm gonna go out with "Susie" and get drunk then your going to pick us up and bring us back here for some fun". Now LOL most dudes would be, holy shit that. s great (riverdancing through the house as she heads out). Not me, cause I KNEW this current sweetness of mine was no where near secure enough for such an event. So I am getting filled with dread and apprehension most of the night. Well when they arrive the stumble around for awhile, requesting egg sandwiches and drinking up all my Margarita 7-ups (bitches). They go take a shower as I hustle my ass to the bed in hopes that I can pretend to be asleep then if they want to have the sex I was all fine with that, simply because I knew she couldnt handle seeing me entering another. Though my ploy didn't work, they come in stumbling around, nude, and wet (shower dirty ass). Climb in the bed and go to work, well I kind of put up a fight... a little fight, ok i just rolled over once and then relented, but give me a break I'm a virile man and that shit felt good, and at this point I figured maybe I could work around the drunken friend and just use her as a pivot point, besides they drank all my damn 7-up! I was getting something in return damnit!
    Long story short, yea yea I know, shit got weird and my sweetness started holding her hands over her eyes and saying she didn't know now. So I backed out zipped up and went out of the room for a cig. I think it was nicer hearing them call for me to come back to the bed than the actual sex LOL!

    Anyways, things happen. Adults try things that we shouldn't and more often than not they end in bad or hurt feelings. It appears that was the first event and hopefully the last, its very fine that your not into it like you thought you would be. Callous non emotional disconnected sex is not for many folks.
    I can tell you that the relationships it ultimately ruined for me in the long run makes me not care to ever have another experience like it. RELATIONSHIPS DO NOT HAVE TO END OVER ANY TYPE OF INFIDELITY. Learn from it, forgive and move on. In a few months, this will be just a memory and you will still have your love

  • I mean how the f&^% does that happen. Are you people human? i don't think i belong in this planet anymore. What ever happened to the real love and affection for your partner, what happened to being loyal, holding hands and watching the sunset, cooking each other meals, reading to each other, romantic gestures... maybe i'm going mad... please help me somebody

    • it's ok, you're not alone

    • #COCOCHANEL Phew!!! Thank God, i was beginning to loose my mind with the stuff i read on this site.

    • I am with you guys! True love is almost extinct. Nowadays it's being used to manipulate partners with their wealth, status and other benefits and they are abusing love like a tool.

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Most Helpful Girls

  • Sorry, but you are stupid for that. Not everything is worth getting an orgasm out of it. There are some things you just don't risk or compromise for one fucking orgasm.

    For once, I really have no advice to give you. The reality is that he truly may have enjoyed her more than you and you set the whole situation up. How do you know he won't go back for seconds? How do you know she won't try to go back for seconds and tempt him later? I can't even advise you that he is your boyfriend and loyal to you and only you because if he was he would have REFUSED your request no matter what. He wouldn't even have had it in him to touch another woman, would have thought you were ridiculous, and laughed it off. The fact that he didn't could mean something that won't work in your favor. I wish you the best of luck.

  • Well, to be honest there's really nothing you can do about it now. Other than talk to him. Let him know how you feel, but it's really not his fault because you pushed him into it. So you can't be mad at him, you wanted this, well you said you did at the time.

    The thing is, sometimes in life we make mistakes. But we have to learn to live with them. You can't do anything to change what happened. You can't turn back time. The only thing you can do is hope that your relationship can survive this.

    Let him know that you don't think it's a good idea, that it's not something you want to do again. Hopefully he won't be tempted to try that again.

  • Tell him about it. That you liked the idea before but now you feel like he likes her more than you. Make it clear you don't want to do it again. See how he responds and act accordingly. You are all three responsible for what happened so it would be best not to take blame or accuse each other. Discuss it and let time heal it

  • And this is why you stick to monogamy, live and learn girlie. Tell him about these insecurities to reassure and relieve yourself. If he really loves and cares about you then he'll go out of his way to reassure you. Tell him you don't want it to happen again.

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  • It would have been far better if you would have done a trio and exchanged interesting positions and stimulations to each other. Then its a win-win for all three parties.

  • Well, I guess the saying goes,"If you play with fire you're gonna get burned". Should just be happy with your intimate times with your boyfriend instead of taking a selfish stance and being concerned with yourself. I mean you persisted in him doing something he didn't want to and now you feel like crap.

  • And this is why you don't invite other people into your relationship.

    Take solace in the fact he's with you, obliged your fantasy and likely only got more into it because it was a new experience.

  • The best advice i can give you is..." when you started feeling jelous , you should have joined in !!"

    He may have appeared to be really into her id like to think for your sake he was putting on a show. Feel free to pm with me
    Im happy to give advice in more depth via pm

    • I like the idea of you saying you should have joined in. sounds like fun.

    • @sexcrazy12 she was there just watching being a cuckquean when she couldve joined and helped the other girl pleasure her boyfriend and got in on some girl girl action too

    • jip. that would have been a better idea. get her piece of the meat as well.

  • Learn from your mistakes and try to be the best girlfriend you can

  • This is why you really need to think before decided to let him do it. Honestly speaking if I asked my partner to do so, I think I don't love him as much as I thought.

  • It was your ideal? Was it with someone you are close to/see often? I think that would cause an insecurity in that you see her often and might think he now wants her.

  • The number of people in this thread who just don't seem to get that cucking is a thing that some people are into is astounding. I think all you can really do is talk to him about it honestly

  • Try being with another guy and having him watch?

    • That could make him jealous and make the situation worse

    • I don't want to be with anyone else...

    • Then how else will you get over? Or you could ask him to do a lot with you in bed? like show you tons of attention?

  • For one thing... you were crazy to want that in the first place. Something like that does not need to happen inside a relationship. You made your decision to let him do it... now you have to live with it. Dont think this is a one time thing... I am sure he will having sex with her behind your back.

  • Well if your relationship wasn't screwed before it probably is now. Why would you want to watch your boyfriend sleep with another girl? And yes if he really really enjoyed it its just going to want to make him do it again...

  • Omgeee kill me ewwwwwwwwwww.

    • My reaction too lol. people these days ¬_¬

    • @Cosytoasty 😹😹😹😹😹😹😹😹

  • Yeah I could never do that. I'd want to fight her lol

  • Your relationship is probably permanently ruined. I don't see why you let him do that.
    Just stick to porn if u wanna watch other people.

  • What could have possibly gone wrong? God, people. Sometimes stop thinking with your libido and instead listen some to your brain and heart.

    What can you do? Talk to him about it, but don't make him feel bad (it was your decision to do that after all). Tel him that you didn't really enjoy it and realised how much you want him for yourself.

  • I'd consider that a small orgy. Orgies, small or big, end up hurting the ego of insecure participants.

  • This is actually quite common. You need to talk this thing out because I'm sure you don't want to keep feeling this way and it could break the relationship. Now if y'all do break up over this, he's going to be mad at you because you did talk him into it and enjoyed it. In the BDSM community there a lot of communication and that's key

  • Looks like your sexual fantasy has backfired on you unfortunately! Whatever you do, don't blame him for your insecurities because afterall you encouraged him to have sex with another woman right in front of you even though your boyfriend was reluctant!

    Of course he would have really enjoyed having sex with the other woman because you pretty much gave him permission to do so lol.

    Did you allow him to go bareback with her?

  • See... this is why I keep telling couples don't do that shit... leave it for the single folk because 'someone' always gets hurt.

  • lol i don´t think how it would be hot to see your partner fuck another person xD

    • The cuckold fetish is a variant of masochism, the cuckold deriving pleasure from being humiliated. AKA, their SO having sex with someone else and the other having to watch, feeling like they are second best or not good enough/as good as the person their SO is fucking. Cuckold fetishism is the eroticization of the fears of infidelity, and of failure in the man/womans competition for procreation and the affection of the SO. Some describe it as a form of escapism. I find the cuckold fetish very strange, but I like to be humiliated in different ways. But each to their own I guess

    • @_littlekitten13 oh i thougt it was about the visuals of the different perspective xD that i could somewhat understand...

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