Advice on my body?

A few days ago I learned my boyfriend has a porn addiction. He told me one day not to look at his phone because there is porn on it. I always knew he watched porn because 1. he had a sex high drive 2. i watch it too and when we have sex it feels like im in a porno because of the positions he does with me and how rough he can be sometimes.

Today i learned what KIND of porn he watches and its girls with bigger bodies than me. Im 5'0 and weight 144lbs but im skinny and most of the weight is in my butt and some in my boobs. I have muscles not too much because its just my body shape and he always talks about how buff i am and that it reminds him of a man but says he's joking. We got into an argument early this morning and he started attacking my appearance and sent me a video of a girl shaking her big butt with a thicker body. Along with the video came with remarks like your body looks nothing like this, your butt is too buff, then says all his "girls" are fat unlike me and I can't compete with them none of them. It blew my self esteem and made finally made me realize why he treated me so bad, im not his type. I just wanna eat until i gain tons of weight because of everything he said. Advice?

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  • So. Wow. Thats a rough argument to have.


    He sounds immature. While there are plenty of folks out there into bigger people. The way he is going about telling you he is one of them is WRONG.


    Dont feel pressured to gain weight for him. Its your body and your choice. If he is into bigger ladies and you don’t want to gain and he can't accept that. It might be time to re-evaluate the relationship. Do you two love each other enough that this won't be a deal breaker? Can he love you as you are?


    Also. Is his interest in bigger ladies casual or deeper then that? Like a fetish or kink?
    If its more then casual he may never be truly satisfied with a skinny woman.


    To follow that though. You may not be truly happy if you gain a whole bunch of weight. Being big isn’t for everyone. People WILL comment on your gain. And once you reach what ever weight they will comment on your size. You’ll need to be ready for that. Also clothing shopping will get harder the bigger you get.


    Also what is his idea of big? Are we talking he likes em 200 pounds or is he more into the 300-400 or even bigger range?


    Thats a HUGE change to make for someone.


    When it comes down to it you need to evaluate this relationship.


    Do you love him. Where do you see you two in 5 years? 10 years? Etc.


    You need to see how important the big girl kink/fetish is to him. Is it something he can be happy just enjoying online while still satisfying real life sexual needs for the both of you? Or is it something that he needs in his life?


    And then depending on answers how do YOU feel about this? If he can keep the big girl thing online and still love and satisfy you would you be OK with that? Or if he needs a big girl in his life would you be open to trying gaining and seeing where it goes? Only issue i see here is if you don’t like it, it may be hard to reverse course both physically and relationship wise. As in it may be hard to loose the weight and also once he gets a real world taste of what he likes he may not be into you once you loose the weight.


    I could keep going and going on this as i am a guy that is into bigger women and have been in a lot of relationships with skinny women. Its a challenge. Me personally these days I keep my big girl interests online as i’m at that age that WHO she is matters most. And i haven't been able to find a woman that is big like i like and also a good match.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Why do you want to gain for that guy. he's clearly stupid and immature. You don't need to ruin your health cause your boyfriend doesn't like your body. Just move on and find a guy who appreciates your body

Most Helpful Girl

  • You really want to ruin your health for some guy? Dont do it. I did and it was a huge regret. Just leave him with his porn and go find a guy who likes you as you are. Besides, some people watch porn thats completely opposite of their in person taste. I like to see a certain race naked in porn but I am not trying to actually see them in reality

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  • What in the... tell him that that kind of attitude won't fetch him even a fat woman, because to shame someone like that is one of the dumbest things I have ever heard.

  • You realize that even if you change your body the next time you fight like that he's going to just say OTHER things to hurt you.

  • No, Hun, is not that you are. npt his type.. problem is, he's a class A asshole. You deserve better.

  • You don’t need to change your body for him.

  • Why he needs porn when he has a girlfriend, i dk

    I'm single, and I watch porn. Why do i need a girlfriend, if I have porn