Fecal matter doesn't descend into the lowest part of the GI tract until immediately before elimination. That movement is what gives us the sense of needing to use the restroom. Most of the time, the anal canal doesn't contain fecal matter and anything inserted 2'-3" into the canal will not come out showing any traces of fecal matter.
This problem will only occur if you engage in anal sex when your body is preparing for elimination. If your bowel movements are regular, you should know what time to avoid. I have engaged in anal sex and anal play many times and never had that problem.
If you are still concerned and want to confirm what I have told you, use a realistic, life-size vibrator or dildo, coat it with lubrication, and put it in your butt. This will give you the feeling of insertion that you will have during anal sex. When you withdraw the vibrator, you will see that it is not covered with anything except lubrication.
1. Don't try everything at once. Begin with him touching your anus but not inserting his finger. If you use a position where he can touch your anus while you are having an orgasm, you will be surprised at how good it feels to you.
2. If you are both adventurous, try analingus. If you are careful with your hygiene, it will be just as clean as any other part of your body. It will be particularly arousing if he does that while using a vibrator on your clit.
3. Progress to him inserting his finger. Use ample lubrication and go slow. Again, the feeling is better when you are already sexually aroused.
4. When you are ready for anal-penile penetration, use a position that makes you feel that you are not trapped. Again, use lots of lube. Make sure that he spends time in foreplay before proceeding to anal sex. As he tries to push inside you, engage in the same effort you would use to expel matter while eliminating. As soon as he is past the sphincter, you will probably want him to stop for a few seconds. Your muscles are very elastic and will stretch to accommodate him if you give them time. If you are tense, you will be tight and it will be uncomfortable. If you relax, it will not be painful.
Once you feel that you are relaxing, he can proceed to full insertion. When you tell him to proceed, then he can begin thrusting slowly and gradually increase the pace.
Stimulation of your clit will make it more enjoyable but that is difficult for a guy to do in doggy position, so be prepared to use a vibrator on yourself
Good luck!
Thankyou so much for this oh my gosh i feel like i can ask you anything. How do you know so much ?
I'm 63 years old and intelligent enough to study things I don't understand. Feel free to PM me if you want to ask anything else. I don't have children of my own and beIN this site is my opportunity to pass along some of what I have learned. (I have a 56 year old girlfriend who makes me very happy and I am not looking to "hit on" younger women!)
I just realized that we both posted anonymously so we can't message unless one of us gives out username.
First of all, only women who are sexually experimenting with anal while masturbating should progress to furthering their anal adventures in bed with a partner BECAUSE they have not only an interest but also a strong desire for it. Anal is not for a scared little doe. Anal is not for men who want to do it just because they want to even though their woman isn't ready. You should not force yourself into this or you are going to get yourself hurt due to being unable to relax.
If you are going to push yourself anyways, here is what I advise:
1) Colon cleanse: To ensure that you won't shit during the act if you couldn't shit before hand. Do it the day before.
2) Shower: While in the shower, before the act, you should finger fuck your own ass and clean it extra.
3) Poppers: You mentioned being terrified, this will help relax you during the act.
4) Anal Plugs: Use anal plugs to peg your asshole while masturbating to help you learn how to slowly enjoy anal.
5) Lots of lube for beginners.
On the positive side, the best sex i've ever had was surprise butt where he fucked my ass till we were half way off the bed, no lube but he was in my cunt before hand and that was plenty of wetness. He knew what he was doing though, he was feeling up my ass and playing with my asshole long before I even suspected it.
Right. There are more stories than you think about "I don't know. He just put it in my ass and it was great. No real prep -- altho -- I was very excited before we started." That is not to say prep is not needed. It is a great thing and can be fun on its own -- especially if the guy helps out. Or the girl learns to tease with it -- maybe flash him while you are out to show him you have a butt plug in. I also wish girls and women would stop worrying so much about shitting during anal. I have had it happen, and the world did not end. In fact, we finished -- wildly -- and jumped in the shower. No one died. Sheesh.
I am a gay man and an exclusive bottom who just loves getting fucked in the ass. If done right, anal sex does not really hurt at all, but can be a great source of pleasure for the person receiving it.
The key to success is physical and mental preparation. The physical part requires a clean hole and a lot of lubrication... The mental part is about relaxing your body and your asshole. Once your hole relaxes, it can stretch beyond your wildest imagination to help take your man's cock into you...
A butt-plug may also help. This has been one of my biggest helpers to stretch my hole in order to be able to accommodate guys with really thick cocks. To that end, I'd recommend starting with a small enough plug that you can wear at the beginning. But, it should still be thick enough so you can feel the walls of your asshole stretching a little. After wearing that for a few days, you can gradually move to the next larger size, and then increase the size of the plug to really thick ones that you could not have accommodated at the beginning. This way, I've been able to enjoy really humongous cocks in my ass. I sure hope you will, as well!..
Please feel free to write back if you have any more questions. Good luck!..
Dude you are so gay! Oh yeah, you already said that.
@TrixiePooch Yeah, all my boyfriends say I should have rather been a girl, because I act like one... LOLOL
I have tried this with a couple of my exes and i hated it. Luckily im with a guy who told me from the beginning he isn't about that lmao.. good thing too because his penis is much bigger than my ex and it would hurt very bad. I have read that if done properly it shouldn't hurt.. but literally everytime i have done this it hurt. Very uncomfortable... but if you're willing to try it just make sure you used the bathroom at some point before then and clean yourself.. i wouldn't go out of your way to try to clean the inside of your butthole lol.. he's the one whos interested in doing it so he's taking that risk of having a shitty surprise.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!That is pretty much how it works. It can get messy. That is why smart girls give themselves an enema first if they are planning on anal sex. Then the danger is greatly lessened. Just have some wet ones and a towel ready. But if you don't want to do it because it won't feel good, at least to you, or for any other reason, hey, it's your ass, you can say no just as a girl can even tell her husband no if she doesn't want sex. If your boyfriend can't handle that then he should hit the road.
Enema in advance to rinse things out, and then a lot of lube. I like Astroglide but use whatever. Go slow, adjust slowly, and lots of lube. You may just love it.
Google it toots. It can be messy, but usually not.
Some like it, some don't. You'll never know unless you try. My guess is your fears will overrule any pleasure. And likely your guy is clueless.
If your uneasy about it don’t, it’s not for everyone, don’t be pressured into doing something you don’t want to 👍
Simply, if you’re scared, don’t do it. Don’t let your boyfriend coerce you.
Generally the rectum is free from poop, you could give yourself an enema if it made you feel better or have him wear a condom. I was never really into anal but I had a girlfriend that loved it and always had powerful orgasms so I wanted to please her and we did anal many hundreds of times and I can only ever remember once getting a bit of poop on my dick and it was a time when I was wearing a condom so it wasn't a big deal.
Tell him you don't want to try it, if you do t want to
And if you end up doing it, make sure that you've cleaned yourself on the inside, yeah, maybe with the shower or a hose? I don't know, but good luck!
Just do it. Apparently a lot of girls love it and it's very pleasurable for them.
That's why pornstarts fill their ass with liquid, so he can finger and fuck as much as they want withtout any mess.
Don't try it. It's dangerous
If you don't feel CO. For table doing it or don't want to do it then simply do not do it. Tell him you're not comfortable doing that right now. And if he truly cares and loves you and doesn't just care about himself and sex he will understand and support your decision. If he gets mad or anything other than what I mentioned then be careful moving forward if you don't want a broken heart.
My girlfriend and I have done anal literally hundreds of times and things have only gotten a little messy maybe 3 times. It's super rare.
Another downside of anal that many times is when she gets around 50's she will have to wear Adult Diapers because he sphincter muscle will be so stretched it can no longer stay closed and there will be a constant leakage. Not a pretty sight or thing to have.
@TrixiePooch I'm sorry to break it to you but that is absolute nonsense. In any other context, stretching a muscle is of course a very healthy thing. But for some reason the ignorant, misinformed and religious fanatics have decided that the sphincter is the only muscle in the entire human body that doesn't benefit from stretching. Interesting, eh? By the way, my step father is a doctor in San Francisco, the world capital of anal sex. I'm pretty sure he'd be aware if anal sex was causing some kind of incontinence issues. He says it's a 100% non issue unless people are shoving baseball bats up their butts, which apparently some people do. So yeah, please educate yourself and stop spreading fear and misinformation.
And I'm a nurse so I see it happening. Doctors don't deal with changing patient's diapers, nurses do. All muscles lose tone and elasticity with age, including your sphincter. Any nursing home attendant will tell you a lot of older people can't hold it in. How many did anal on a regular basis in their younger years is anyone's guess. I'm sure the frequency of anal and the size of the penis does have a bearing on this.
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