Superb Opinion

  • You never "have to put out." Asexual individuals may not want sex ever, or else very infrequently. If you don't consider yourself asexual, then as general advice: You should have sex when you are ready and feel comfortable. You should never feel pressured into sex. That is a recipe for resentment, among other things. Communicate honestly and openly with your would-be partner and make sure they understand where you are coming from. Do your best to understand their wants and needs as well. Have an open and honest discussion. Who knows? All that talking about it might just turn you both on enough to get after it right then and there. ;)

Most Helpful Guy

  • I don't want to sound like one of these feminist weirdos, but the answer is none. There is never a time where you're obligated to an extent that you have to.

    That said, there does come a point where if you've gone out on say 4 dates and you still don't have the urge to put out or at least do something light. Maybe that isn't the right guy for you and it's time to move on so he can find the right person for himself.

    There does come a point where unless you're values are very traditional, it's hurting both of you and then it's just plain unfair.

Most Helpful Girls

  • As many as you want. There is no requirement or magic number. It is when the two of you are ready for sex. You don't have to do that on date four or three or whatever. Sometimes it happens rather fast because two people just hit it off and other times you wanna get to know someone a little better for whatever reason. Example... the dates you went on were short because both of you were busy with things. So you want more dates because you want to get to know them better. Opposite of that is you had a couple really long dates and you just know that the guy is the one and you go for it. Don't put a number on that.

  • You don't have to put out in 1000 dates. You've got to do what's best for you and only if you like the guy. I waited until I was married.

    I once heard a few girls trying to tell me that you'd have to give a guy a hand job or blowjob if he bought me an expensive steak dinner, he could keep his steak was my response. You got to value yourself

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  • I mean that's truly up to you if I've known the girl for a while which is usually the case before I take anybody out I like to put out the first day and that's just because everybody's grandmother says no don't do it hold off but if I really like the person if I feel their energy I'm going to put out.

    No it's another thing it's a girl that I'm with wants to put out then LOL

  • When you feel like it.

  • It's seriously entirely up to you! If you're trying to get some on the first date, then let your intentions be known. And if you're trying to wait a bit, let him know you're not down to go beyond a certain level just yet. If he's a good human, he'll listen and abide by what you desire. If he's a dick and tries uses his on you regardless of your wishes, then stay far away from him.

  • There is no set number, you do it when and only when you feel ready for it.
    Never let someone pressure you to do it when you're not up to it.

  • However many you decide. . . unless you are so desperate to have a man's validation that you are willing to allow him to dictate the terms of the relationship.