AITA because I once blew the bartender of the bar I still visit often while I have a boyfriend?

So before I was with my current boyfriend, one drunk night I ended up blowing the bartender on the toilet of the bar me and my friends always go to. I get that it wasn't classy and the guy isn't the type you'd be proud to show your parents, but I was drunk and he is pretty hot. It's not my proudest moment but I am not ashamed of having fun. I was kinda going at it, I wasn't quiet, he was groaning and dirty talking so everyone heard it and it was of course told around. Every now and then a joke about that night still gets thrown around.

Now my boyfriend has been annoyed with this for years. I get that it's not fun to be reminded that your girl pleasured another guy in kind of a slutty way, but it happened, it's not that big of a deal, and I can't realy undo it. There are no feelings between me and that bartender and I a big part of my social life happens at that bar. My friends always go there as well.

Now my boyfriend wants me to no longer go there. I just said I won't do that for such a stupid reason and that I got kinda fed up with that jealous bullshit. He's still kinda mad about me saying that.

Am I right or am I the asshole here?

AITA because I once blew the bartender of the bar I still visit often while I have a boyfriend?
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  • You’re the asshole. That’s a fucked yo thing that your boyfriend is pretty much a joke, that it’s still a joke around there. I understand you weren’t w him at the time but damn you have no respect for your man. I would have left you long time ago cause had I done that to you I would have had respect to not make you look like a fool. I’m sure a lot of other men refer to your man as a bitch, that you have his balks in your purse. Now if I was the bartender and you blew me I’d say fuck him lol but I’m not

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  • I think he feel if you get drunk again and you are there then you might do it again in your drunk state even though you won't or maybe because people know you did it especially there that you may get hit on by guys that know that may want you to do it again and possibly it might put you in a dangerous position with arsehole guys.

    Just a thought

    • Yeah of course guys ask. That's what guys do at a bar and it's getting late. They try to get their dick sucked. I won't do it when I'm not single though, even if I'm really really drunk.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Every girl gobbles a guy at least once in a public toilet. Tell your boyfriend to stop whinging.

    • exactly! I guess most were able to keep it more of a secret

    • Make sure you give hin a big kiss every time he comes to meet you there

    • Every girl?

  • You've got absolutely nothing to be ashamed of hun. Keep going.

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  • You shouldn't feel like an asshole just because you gave a guy head in the past.

  • As a man he didn't care if you had feelings to him, what matters is that you acted slutty.

    • Why does that matter?

    • Because many men don't want to be with a ho, hos are untrustworthy and dirty.

    • thanks

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  • You weren’t dating your boyfriend at the time so there isn’t anything really to feel guilty about.

  • Nah, he's got it twisted. He's the one with the issue, he should stop going to the bar rather than you

    • He doesn't go there often, probably because of that

    • Seems like you just solved your own problem... take him along

  • As long as ur not doing anything with that guy anymore…there’s nothing to worry about. He just needs to get over it

    • nothing ever happened since I was with my boyfriend

    • He needs to change his perspective. He should be proud of the fact that you’re with him. That he has access to your mouth and body now.

  • trolllllllllll

  • I hope he finds a more respectable woman to date. The fact that you have no sympathy for his feelings around this and still go to that bar shows that you’re a lost cause. Any girl that gets drunk and does sexual shit with people she isn’t in a relationship with is simply not relationship material. Believe it or not, there exist plenty of women who have self control and although whores like you make it sound like a myth, it’s true

  • You're both right. It happened when you were single, so there's nothing wrong there. On the flip side, it's right to be mad that you're girlfriend frequents a place that is open about how slutty she was.

  • You are both immature. Your relationship won't last.

  • First off that sign on the door is awesome..

    Is your boyfriend the insecure type? I mean it was before him so he really shouldn't worry about it.

  • What would you feel like if he had sex with one of the female bartenders or waitresses

    • I'd think good for him he got to bang her.

  • Hell robot

  • Maybe you have the wrong friends and go at the wrong bar...

    • why would that be?

    • since they seem to make jokes about you and that barman, also because sometimes it is just time for change.

  • I bet he is worried that you're still blowing this bar tender behind his back. I can see why he doesn't want you to go.. On that same token based on your age, and the fact that you still go to bars often only proves you can't turn trailer trash into a good woman.

    • What? So someone who is in their 30's can't visit bars anymore? What planet do you come from? Do you have so little of a social life?

    • Lol no, I just chose to grow up.

    • And if I do go to a bar, my wife comes with me, I don't go alone, and I certainly don't do it to get drunk. Substance abuse is just childish.

  • If I was your boyfriend I'd be turned on by it not bothered by it.

  • I guess I can see his point if the bartender still works there but if he doesn’t then it shouldn’t matter

    • yes he still works there