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All genders. Would two hours of strictly foreplay ( no cumming) be painful for you physically?

As fir guys. Is it possible a guy can go through nearly three hours of foreplay and not be super uncomfortable? Is there a truck to it? Does it help ( the guy) if his penis isn't directly involved?
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I should explain:) - I had never done anything sexually. - I was trying to tease anyone. - I say "foreplay ", I don't mean specific sex acts I meant a lot of touching in general - mostly to me from him- before him actually releasing. - He said he was ok , but I thought maybe he just didn't want me to feel bad. - I think He'd planned the whole thing intending to jerk off after. - Possibly he mentally prepared himself before hand? - You think he lied to protect my feelings?
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I'm not trying to tease him. Im only asking this question bc I loved it but don't want to do it if it would be really painful for him. I don't think he'd lie as he's very honest in general. Since some guys report it being pissible maybe he's just one of the people who aren't bothered.
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  • For a guy, staying highly aroused for long periods of time without an orgasm definitely gets painful. It causes the condition commonly (but incorrectly) called "blue balls", which is actually when arousal causes semen production to be greatly increased, over-filling the prostate and causing excess pressure in it, which leads to aching, tenderness, and hyper-sensitivity to pain.

    Biologically, our reproductive systems aren't designed for extended arousal, but rather a relatively fast "resolution" to arousal.

    And, no, it doesn't matter if his penis is directly involved or not - arousal is enough, even if you didn't actually touch each other.

    • I've never experienced 'blue balls', is it just something that happens to some guys and not others?

    • Well, I've not actually done a survey, but I've definitely had it happen to me. Essentially, it comes from especially intense or prolonged arousal without an orgasm. The prostate kicks into high gear to produce semen, the prostate swells and becomes tender, and once the arousal endorphins wear off, it hurts, and the tiniest bump on your nuts feels like a kick. While this certainly doesn't happen with EVERY cycle of arousal, it is far more likely when that arousal continues for a good while, or if it's just really intense for whatever reason. Like just about everything, it's bound to vary in intensity from person to person.

    • In our case I don't think he was intensely aroused the whole time. He was mostly focused on me... Would that help you at all? Like I wasn't actually foing snything to him. Until later. When he finally came. And it wasn't strictly sexual foreplay. we did a lot of other things including nothing. We took breaks and cuddles and just did relaxed stuff. It was all very very slow and gentle.. Do you think it'd be possible to not get blue balls that way?

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  • I try to find out first if there will be some kind of release in the end... if there won't be, i'll either participate for a while or not start at all. But THREE HOURS!!! Im sure he yanked it like a monkey in a mango tree later on. thats blue balls central and i don't plan on going there.
    Im glad your bf had self control, with the wrong person, he could snap mentally. You don't tease a guy for hours on end with no hope of relieving the build up.
    Thats also one of my minor deal breakers. Don't start something you can't or won't finish.

    • I didn't tease him. He teased me. I didn't start it. He did. He did cum. I helped me help him cum. He was planning on doing it himself away from me but instead he showed me how.

    • It was all his idea. I've reoeated this over and over again including why I'm asking the question being Bc I was concerned about how he'd feel. He said he was fine. So I don't know.

    • Oh, well then no harm no foul then hehe. Kheserthorpe is right then. He had to be really mentally prepared for it. He knew what would happen and showed you how to relieve it a different way... smart guy. I thought you were the one teasing him... one of my ex's was a virgin and she used to just love lying in bed naked and messing around, sometimes for an hour and a half... and she'd be wet too and rub my dick all over it but no penetration. lets say I usually ended it first, sometimes i don't even allow it to start lol. thats a lot of yanking later and i don't wana.

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  • Am I the only girl around here who literally feels pain in her lower abdominal area when she has "blue balls"?

    • Probably not. Out of all the women in the world very few have answered. I'm sure it's not just you. . But wouldn't it be like blue uterus not balls. Bc women don't have testickes...

    • Women can get it too. It's not semen build up.

    • The show "Don't Trust The B... In Apartment 23" called this "blue tubes." I LOL'd.

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  • Who the hell does that? It wouldn't be painful but surely boring at some point very intense.

    • Who? I guess at least me and him, so that's town:) No it wasn't boring at all. It's one of the coolest experiences I've ever had.

  • no, it wouldn't be painful for me at all :) I do this a lot, actually.

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  • His not expecting to wjaculate makes s huge difference.

    • Yeah thats what i I meant by " prepared".

    • But even then I guess it's different for different people.

  • I don't think so, you would have to change up what you do quite a bit, stimulating a certain area two hours, sexual or not, would get very painful. If you are mixing it up a lot I could see it not being a problem.

  • Over a period of time if it was mainly me stimulating her, which is what I think you are talking about, I would probably lose and regain an erection a few times, so it wold not get to the painful point. I would enjoy it and go home and take care of it, but it wold have been much nicer of you to have finished him before you parted. Hand job or blow job if not the real thing.

    • I did :) Well technically " we" did. I was sleeping over. It was just a matter of him getting up and going in snother room which was silly but since everything's new to me I guess that's what he'd planned thinking itd make me more comfortable , OR him staying snd doing it in front of me or me learning how. Obviously I suggested # 3. Though we didn't really talk about it verbally I think that concersation was pretty much conveyed sub textually. . Anyhow yeah he got off. You can relax now on behalf if openis everywhere 😋

    • Oh thank you for your input:)

    • If he did it himself, then you did not finish him off, technically or not. Just a suggestion, keep him with you when he want to go take care of it. Just grab his cock and start moving you hand up and down the shaft. Don't scrape the skin, but move the loose skin up and down. Once you have started that, tell him to show you what to do for him. It is likely he will prefer your hand stay on him and he will help you know what to do.

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  • Two hours of foreplay is fine if you get him off in the end. I love lots of foreplay and foreplay for a long time.

    But in the end you have to get him off. He will have some serious ball pain if he does not cum.

    • Yeah of course he'd get iff ultimately. I just assumed that'd be a given so I didn't put it in the original post. I shouldn't assume:)

    • Oh good. Wasn't sure if you were just have foreplay or going further. I love lots of foreplay. Hours of it beats minutes of it!

  • around 30 minutes was the longest i gave my girlfriend (oral). usually it just takes her 5 to 8 minutes to cum. but that time she already had her orgasm a few times before i gave her oral so it took that long. my neck was in pain i had to put a medicated patch on it after.

  • No. I love hours of foreplay. It doesn't even need to end in sex

  • Almost three hours is way, way, way too long to be highly, continually aroused and not have some sort of negative repercussion. Especially without release. The blue balls phenomenon is highly likely in that situation.

    • I dont think he was highly aroused. I doubt he'd go on for that long if he wasn't. His intention was in turning me on , not getting himself off till later... So that probably helped. Thiugh I really I don't know if he'd planned to go that long. Maybe it just worked out that way.

  • painful?

    hah no way.. i'd love it!

  • I wouldn't last 2 hours. that's too long.

  • Last time I had sex the foreplay was over an hour, rushing it is overrated. Extra long foreplay is heaven.

    • I just last abnormally long, there's no trick that I'm aware of except I guess make sure you aren't too aggressive with his dick or he might cum. What counts as 'too aggressive' probably varies from guy to guy.

    • Also, in response to your update a guy would not need to plan out or mentally prepare himself for masturbation. Orgasms are not really a mental process for guys like they are with women.

    • No I meant planned the evening with me in that way and prepared himself to not cum for a few hours... Like to keep it from being painful. Bc a lot of guys make it seem like thats impossible without a lot of pain do I just was kind of unsure if he was not being honest or he'd just figured out a way to do it. . . I didn't think anyone needs to plan jerking off :)

  • I went 20 min on a woman, and she got me to stop. She was hawt tho.

    On me, 5 min and I'm ready, no more than that.

  • I like to be teased for 2-3. Hours before she lets me cum. Yes best if penis is involved, but not just the penis balls too. . But if your gonna tease make sure you eventually let him release. Cuz yes it does get painful and uncofortable. . Bring him to the brink of cumming then stop for a couple mins. Then start up again. Bring him close 5 - 10 times. Then finish him off... I love this :-) :-)

    • Oh I didn't mean it like that. I was just straightforwardly asking if it's possible to not be in pain after touching in general and sexually for a few hours Withiut cumming till like the third hour. I was asking bC I liked it but I wouldn't like thinking he was actually uncomfortable and didn't want to tell me. He's generally hinest so I don't know msybe it was ok. I just don't want to do it that way if it's going to hurt him. But bc I liked it HED probsbly be up to it again.

    • Yeah sure he enjoyed it. And if the 2of you enjoyed it then its all good. I see you mentioned you suspect he may have went home and jercked it. I didn't see that the first time. But I can almost guarantee, that he did. :-) . He may be uncomfortable admitting it.

    • No. Lol I must be complete crap at expkaining this lol I was sleeping over. we were in his bed. After 2 hours snd 45 minutes he told me he was going to take care of it and be back. ( I guess bc he thought itd bother me if I saw him do it) I said no stay. so he put my hands on top of his penis and put his hands on top of mine and kind if guided me till he came. The End lol

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  • Frustrating? Yes. Painful? No lol I'd love and do love it

  • Honestly I would probably get bored of foreplay for a bit and then want cuddles for awhile until I get horny again.

    • Yeah it involved breaks and cuddling wasn't strictly forepkay in the conventional sense. . I just used the term very loosely to mean physically engaged in various ways sexysl or otherwuse, prior to release / sex. . :)

  • Too much sex = sore penis.

    • No. No sex. No direct contact with penis.

    • Ohhh well then the penis head and shaft shouldn't be in any pain, blue balls though...

  • If it's genital (vagina, nipples) stimulation then yes, kissing no.

  • I think it would be great 😏

  • if there wasn't contact down there yea but I'd have to try to turn myself off if there was

    • Ok thanks. That's what I. Was asking exactly:) How do you turn yourself off?

    • seems like women like a guy with self control. so I control my urges to look cool ;)

    • How?

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  • I believe that is a dream come true

  • Why would it be painful? I think it's fun to stay on the edge as long as possible. It makes the end result incredibly satisfying.

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