All my sexual fantasies include white men, im not white or ever been attracted to a white guy in real life, is it the porn I've been watching since 9?

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Like I do think their attractive but in comparison to Asian or black i see in real life not so much yet, when im horny they are in my head? is it the porn?

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abc3643 Master
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This is a fascinating question!

It may be the pirn but also simply seeing so many white guys on TV and movies. The images that I saw on TV and movies I am sure are partly contributors to my own fetish's development.
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- Asker
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  You have a white man fetish to? Its strange because I find them beautiful or handsome people I've had crushes on celebs but their the kind of crushes in effect "this painting is beutiful" but im not sexually attracted at all? I've grown up with books/TV shows of attractive romantic white men yet in the end never felt sexual desire, it is a fetish i think because I don't lust for it like I do with asain/blacks
- abc3643
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  No, I do not have a "white man fetish". I am a white man though.
- Asker
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  What fetish are you referring to then?
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- abc3643
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  You have to PM me for that.
- Asker
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  You can just say it here its anon and I've admitted a bad racial fetish anyway can't be worser
- abc3643
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  No. 1) I am not anon and 2) I could not really be anon because my age makes me distinct. It's not a big deal.

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ohshee Master
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We all have something that turns us on it could be any reason
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- Asker
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  It doesn't turn me on at all... its a developed racial fetish that just pops in my head more easily then imagining another kind of man

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CometoMee Xper 4
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Can I ask what race you are? I'm curious on this myself.
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- CometoMee
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  Can you send me a message?
- Asker
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  Do you have the same thing?
- CometoMee
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  Can you message me
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- Asker
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  Why?
- CometoMee
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  Would like to talk in private about this. Not here in public.
- Asker
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  I think we need to follow each other to message on here
- CometoMee
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  It won't let me follow you. You have to do it first.

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hellionthesagereborn Guru
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Taboo.
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- Asker
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  Yeh lmao it would piss my family off tbh
- hellionthesagereborn
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  Probably the same reason your not interested in them but other groups you are, you have a bias but that makes it taboo and taboo's add a psychological element to it and thus make it sexually more attractive to you.
- Asker
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  I have curious thoughts about them that might come across as racist, their skin tone hair colour and body parts seem interesting and very foreign to me. I think they make cute mix kids with me but I can't see myself with a white person im not sexually attracted to them so I won't be fulfilled, an experience I know it sounds bad but it's litrally a fetish I've developed after growing up on western media, books , TV shows and porn. I think if I grew up abroad I'd probably never have this, because I feel bad and racist for objectifying in a dehumanising way of white men.
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- hellionthesagereborn
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  Your not sexually attracted to them but you fantasize about them sexually. Sexual attraction is their, its "romantic" attraction that is lacking i. e. to use colloquial terminology, once you get post nut clarity you stop being attracted to them. So again, its not a lack of sexual attraction its a lack of romantic attraction. That is more then likely do to upbringing which again, is probably what fuels the taboo aspect of it. I mean you already admitted your parents/family would not approve so more then likely you have taken on their view of whites but from a sexual standpoint you do find them attractive at least subconciously (hence you fantasizing about them) but that concious bias against them prevents any kind of romantic attraction. I'm not judging, I don't particularly care (on a personal level at least. Obviously I want every one to be happy and healthy but your fetishizing doesn't effect me personally), I'm just pointing out what it is. In all likelihood you wouldn't have this if you were abroad because being with a white person would be normal to you and it would be no different to you then being with a black person or Asian person but because of the reasons stated (more then likely), its now taken on a fetishized aspect. I mean its not likely to be the porn because porn has a lot of black pornstars, you can find Asian and hispanic pornstars as well. So again, I would say its more then likely your families view on whites which has fetishized it.
- Asker
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  I grew up in the west (uk) by the way but from a community that's pretty gated, my community and religious background has a lot of anti- white thoughts of looking down on them that maybe considered very racist if I mention and yes they are the most taboo kind of man after the jewish to be with in my community and religion (to some extent). I didn't see race as a teen watching porn but now im 22 im hyper aware of it and feel terrible to have bad perception of them sometimes I don't see them as human because of how different they look to me. I feel terrible even saying that but if I saw a white person upset I'd think they don't mean it. I don't beleive in my religion anymore and have tried to undo racist thoughts of family/community. Its strange because if you said a Jewish man, which would piss all my people and ex religion off more than the 'uncultured' white I'd actually not mind because it would unamously piss everyone off so bad. Jews are considered as devils and as cursed people in my ex faith/ community plus them being a bit ethnic makes me mind less also reality shows the opposite of Jews of whites reality shows them being terrible people than pleasant plus I have inherent mistrust of whites. Hear me out, im trying to change because its silly and my parents are silly for preaching this to me but such thoughts cross my mind but im aware and feel ashamed for seeing them as subhuman.
- Asker
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  I'd like to see them as normal people who get hurt/depressed/happy with beating hearts and not be so guarded or strange around them like their human and won't bite, even ones I like as cool or attractive, id like to see the humanity in them because I don't at all when compared to coloured people and this whatever fetish i developed is quite dehumanising and not genuine.
- hellionthesagereborn
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  I always found it strange how a group of people can move to a white nation and then hate the white people that live their. Its kind of like a neonazi moving to israel or a KKK member moving to africa, it just never made sense to me. I mean, if I don't like a group of people I wouldn't move to a country comprised entirely of that group (again, I don't particularly care because it doesn't effect me but it is very odd. right up their with fleeing a country because its society is falling apart and then going to another country and demanding it do all the things the country they fled did that got them to leave it to begin with. Seems counter intuitive.). That said, like I said, they are taboo, the outsider, and what we are told we cannot want we want more. I find that trauma tends to resurface as a fetish (I was neglected as a child so now I am hyper affectionate for example), so my guess is the racism that you grew up with (and it is racism from what your describing) caused you to spurn whites but living in a white nation, seeing them outside your group kind of "romanticized" it a bit, that is they are "exotic" in a way to you as they are different, forbidden and again, the forbiden is what drives a lot of fetishes.
- hellionthesagereborn
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  So judging from your discriptions I'm guessing that your ex muslim and I'm guessing Somalian? As for you trying to change, I do not hate some one who acknowledges they have an issue and wish to change, after all if I punished you for that then you wouldn't have much incentive to change now would you so I would in fact be endorsing the very behavior I shamed you for. So like I said, I'm not angry or judging, i'm just analzying your situation. I think its quite admirable to see that you have a problem and trying to fix it. You were raised your entire life with a certain mindset, that is very hard to break especially if your surrounded by it still and especially in a short period of time. Like I said, I think the hate and mistrust is trauma and its manifesting itself in your fetishizing white men. Once you work through it and see them as normal people like every one else, I think that it will work itself out and you will likely stop fetishizing them (their are some white women in america who do the same with black men, its very similar situation as yours). So what are you doing to try and overcome this if you don't mind me asking?
- Asker
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  Yeh its counterintuitive but theirs historical, cultural and religious hate associated with whites that fuels why they come along to western countries almost like "colonisation happened without you being invited, messed my house so I'll just invite myself to your house" its petty and yes, how did you guess what I am? Also of all people I've met i think mine have the most genuine casual racism towards whites and genuinely look down on them, I've never met a group of people like mine who don't worship whites in any way because seems like other groups worship them or try to be like them in some way. Also historically a lot of white people who went in the 19th-20th century felt and spoke about the superiority complex we have over whites of how you can't convince them they are below whites. I think your completely right about it being taboo their 'romantasized' in western fiction. Also i should add a lot of my people who grew up in a very western environment may hold strong contrary views and probably see their family are not right but we all know you can't bring a white home or else your dead, we share this similarly slightly to South asains who hardly marry out and stick to their own. The only group id say my people have mild respect for is arabs.
- Asker
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  Of course their are religious types who believe everyone is equal but will still have heartattack if you tried to convince them their offspring is interested in a white convert muslim. Some people/ families are different but im talking about general attitudes living in a big community of us and back home people don't address. Maybe it is 'exotic' but I find them strange moreso like a unique creature I wonder if there alive sort of thing and feel emotions as dumb as that sounds. What strikes me as odd is as a child/teen i never ever thought or noticed any of this kids are pure just shows when your old enough to understand the conditioning works. Even if you despised me for this i wouldn't be suprised because I feel very ashamed myself, im self aware enough to know when things sound ridiculous to me/cognitive dissonance that goes for faith, racism, society, cultural beliefs my thoughts/upbringing. I find i also have a very hard time reading white people's facial expressions or mind. The only time none of this applies is when listening to white music. Its true what they say, music brings people together or that thing were you see attractive good personality person of this group for a while you forget what your taught. Things I'm doing is reading biographies of white people im fond of like madonna or lady gaga because its easier to humanise that way
- hellionthesagereborn
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  That is just an excuse. I mean colonization happened sure, but name me a single society in the entire world that didn't conquer their neighbor? Just one group in the enitre world that didn't do this? Their isn't any (in fact ironically we are now less likely to do this now then ever before. That is thanks to capitalism which showed that we could produce things and it was better to trade then go to war, and to technology that came from it because we could utilize what we had much more effectively (for instance we use to require about 40acres of land to feed a family in the middle ages. With modern technology we can do it in less then two.). This is an excuse to play victim, basically to justify bad behavior. I mean lets put it this way, if you where wronged by some one when you where five, would you find it reasonable to try and destroy their life when your thirty? Most people would say no, that is irrational. Here we have over a century of time go by, and with the party in question (who did literally what every other group of people did through out all of history without a single exception (I mean Ethiopia was one of the world powers of antiquity, they didn't get that way by minding their own business. They conquered, they enslaved etc. just like every one else did (not saying it was good, it was just the rules of the times sadly (in fact most data shows that this behavior actually held us back and prevented us from advancing as much as we could have)).
- hellionthesagereborn
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  Now like I said, I'm not judging but pointing out that this is meant to dehumanize whites, that way any negative behavior or opinion is justifiable. Its also used as a scape goat i. e. I'm poor because of white people (instead of I am poor because I didn't make the right decisions in life (this is a big problem in the black community in the US right now, lots of excuses for bad behavior (violence, criminal activity, and broken homes (fatherlessness is rampant and the cause of most of these issues) yet by blaming whites they never have to actually fix the problem, they never have to admit that they are the ones that need to change). I'd say trying to humanize whites is a very good first step. In the US we had racism towards blacks but their was a black man, Daryl Davis, who was famous for converting these racist Klu Klux Klan members (who wanted to kill blacks and did routinely) by simply talking to them. He wanted to understand why they hated blacks so much so he would go to their rallies and then he would just talk to them, no hate no judgments just trying to understand. Once they were forced to see him as a human being they couldn't keep hating him, they couldn't keep propping themselves up above blacks, they couldn't blame blacks for all of their problems and he managed to convert hundreds of them over his life time (its actually quite fascinating.).
- hellionthesagereborn
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  That is what I was refering to as colonization as being an excuse, if you can dehumanize (like whites did with Africans (they called it the "white mans burden", to "civilize" black nations (it was an excuse to conquer others, just as south africa's and Zimbabwe made the excuse that they where "taking back what was theirs" in order to justify mass murdering and committing genocide against whites to steal their land and wealth even though those whites were not involved in any of the things that had happened over a century before). This is actually how people rationalize their behavior (all races do this, all groups do this, dehumanize so you can justify treating them differently to your own benefit or use them as a scape goat). So again, humanization is the first step to get yourself out of that mindset (again, their was a civil rights leader who was a KKK member (I don't know if you know anything about the KKK but they are right up their with Nazi's, they would kill blacks and whites who protected blacks (republicans mostly), burn crosses on their lawns to terrorize them and wear white hoods to conceal their identitites.), long story short he was forced to work with a black woman at a school (he didn't want his kids "brainwashed" by black people). by the end of the year he realized they had far more incommon, he walked away from the KKK and ended up fighting against them and remained friends with the woman for the rest of his life.
JPrez Yoda
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May you are sub-consciously curious so that's why.
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Marshymallow Xper 7
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Yeah pretty much.
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Avicenna Master
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That sounds like a good explanation
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AlexanderAnttila Yoda
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Okay, one blatant problem I see here is "watching porn since 9" geez woman.
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Danny_dan92 Master
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Probably porn
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Makeushiver Yoda
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Could be, it's probably a large % of actors. Though there are a lot of Latina, Asian and much more of late, blacks in porn
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- Asker
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  Yes but since 9 i been watching and I didn't see any black/asain actors on there
Valnac Guru
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It doesn’t matter we’re it’s from, it’s just what makes you wet.
That’s natural.
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Baseball21 Xper 5
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May I ask what race you are?
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flashgrandad Xper 6
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It sounds like it.
Who was showing you porn at 9?
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Sampan2017 Yoda
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Porn could be the reason try to be realistic
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Anonymous
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All your fantasies include white men but you're not attracted to white men?
Maybe you're in denial and need to have a white boyfriend.
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- Asker
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  I think some are beutiful but like a painting not sexual desire just an easier image of a male to put in my mind since handsome asain/black men are not in media a lot even though I find only them sexually attractive. Also porn is full of white men so it pops up in my brain easier.
- Opinion Owner
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  It doesn't really make sense. You would more likely fantasize about the type of people you're surrounded with on a daily basis than some porn image from your childhood. Maybe you only see Caucasian men as sexual? May e you need to broaden your horizons and date all kinds of people to find out what you really like. Yo sound like someone who's kind of repressed and closed-minded.
- Asker
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  I don't find them sexually attractive just attractive... I live in uk and I've never been attracted to one in that way for a onetime sexual experience i would consider but its purely a fetish, nothing long term like dating.
Anonymous
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Why are you just watching White Guys in porn then? Porn is online and easily available? It's not hard to find other races in porn.
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- Asker
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  Were talking 10+ years ago also like I even knew what race was at 9
- Opinion Owner
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  Why were you watching porn at 9? You didn't know there were other races at 9?
- Asker
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  No... what 9 year old even knows what race is? I didn't notice differences like that. I was watching porn because some one put it on by accident in lesson so I memorised site and went home to investigate lmao
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- Opinion Owner
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  You didn't know there were White People, Black People, Asian People, and Mexicans?
- Asker
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  I didn't grow up in USA. In the UK kids are not aware of race till mid to late teens
- Opinion Owner
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  I'm not from the USA.
- Asker
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  Well you mentioned Mexican. I've never seen a Mexican
- Asker
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  Were you from?
- Opinion Owner
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  Then I could have been a Mexican. I'm actually from the U. S. I suspect you're a moderator on the site and already know where I'm from even though I'm anonymous. It's obvious you are. You basically just told on yourself.
- Asker
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  Eh. Your one paranoid weirdo
Anonymous
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Could be the porn.
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