Am I a prude for not trying?

[Anonymous]

I was hooking up with let’s call him T well T has been one of my best friends for years and I would have never thought he would see me in that way and he was in a relationship ( his girlfriend still was his Lock Screen) I don’t know how it all happened but I remember waking up to my nipples being sucked on and being grabbed I didn’t mind but all I wanted to do was that like simple touching like that is never a no from me anyways it lead to us trying to have sex but no matter how wet I was he wouldn’t fit and it felt like I was being split we tried different positions and nothing was working my body was relaxed and everything even lube didn’t work since it wasn’t working he went on to ask if he can stick it in my ass and I froze because I was already feeling pain and I didn’t want the pain that comes from anal I said no because in all honesty I don’t even like my butt being touched he went on to say that I am a prude and not even willing to give it a chance but I feel like I was the only one who was going to lose in that situation so was I being a prude and should have went through with it just so he could have fit in me somewhere

[Leapfrog00]

no, it's your body. Never feel obligated to have to let someone do something you're not comfortable with. Did you try foreplay? Sometimes you can still be wet enough and even think you're relaxed, but if you're both trying too hard, it may not go in. I date a girl once where I had this problem, and I would eat her out before, until she came at least once, and I had no trouble getting it in then.

Since she came before, it didn't just relax her, but opened her labia more. Maybe try that, have him eat you out first.

[Asker]

We did go the oral route first but it has been 5 years since I’ve had sex so I think that was one of the problems and it’s not like I’ve never done anal before but my mind was at the fact that if it didn’t fit in one place than the other was going to offer up the same outcome

[Leapfrog00]

yeah, that most likely was the problem. You could practice with a sex toy, insert it into yourself, and get used to having something inside you. I believe they sell sex toys just like men's dicks. Maybe get a sex toy and practice masturbating for a couple of weeks and then try it again. You'll get there! :)

[Asker]

I don’t think we will be hooking up anytime soon because his thought on me being a prude

[Leapfrog00]

The hell with him then. You can do so much better! That dude is NEVER gonna know the meaning of happiness or good sex, for sure!

[MementoMori777]

i dont think you should fall into peer pressure, dont pay attention to the name titles of society, who cares, you do what you do when you are ready, dont let some word effect anything, who knows maybe you just dodged a bullet with this guy, he just randomly grabs people and sucks on them, weirdo rapist vibes no lie, lets not mention he's a cheater as well, maybe it didn't happen for a reason, the right guy won't call you anything for not being comfortable, this other guy seemed annoyed he wasn't gonna get anything out of you so his ego kicked in and he insulted you, sounds manipulative tbh, i think you dodged a bullet and can do much better, even if its just for sexual intercourse

[RoseySarah]

Ew no run and never see him again!

Your body needed love time and to be ready! He would not allow you that and tried for more!

Run! Your not a prude you know what you like and he was making you do something you don't like!

Block him ghost him never see him again! Imagine his girlfriend has the same huge red flag issue with him!

[Elliot0_07]

Yes, you were really selfish!

Even if it hurts, you SHOULD do anal for him.

[Anonymous]

No, he was just being selfish.

[Anonymous]

No, not at all. If he couldn't fit in your vagina without causing you pain, he sure ad=f hell isn't going to be able to fit in your ass without hurting you. He was an asshole for calling you a prude.