Am I a sexual harasser?

I was 10 my cousin was 4, i was a curious child, me and my friends played games that considered sexual all the time, when my cousin was born i loved her_ i am also a girl_ i didn't have any sisters so i considered her my sister and i feel like i expressed my love to her as a child by playing games that i play with my close friends i only did it once with her, it was pretending we were married and stuff.
Now i am 25 i remembered it i feel guilty as hell, i was a child with two divorced parents who both abandoned me and no one actually taught me what was appropriate and what was not.
Am i sick?
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  • They claim when children do things that are sexual
    some time within their lifetime they were sexually abused
    I was about age 10 and my neighbor was age 14 he built a
    cabin in his back yard and I asked him to touch my penis
    and to touch his so there was something f**cked up there
    and I am no way Gay or Bisexual and even stuff went on with
    me and my sister, many therapists told me that I was a victim of
    sexual abuse this does happen and I hate it to this day that
    as a child, I was highly sexually and even into my teen years
    I was always hyperactive and now I am on medication for
    Bipolar, Schizo-effective disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder
    plus I got physical health illnesses.. I don't think you are sexual
    harasser, you could have been sexually abused?

    • Yes i have been abused by adults who were strangers and family friends also.

    • @notyourfavgoodgirl I'm sorry to hear that yes that sucks

Most Helpful Girls

  • I've had a few experiences like that as a child with my neighbor and family friends. I think it's more of a curiosity thing rather than something perverted or carried out with bad intentions. For a long time I felt shame and guilt for it as well. I didn't know how to feel about it and felt like a complete sinner. You know, I think as kids, your environment, upbringing, and experiences mold your curious mindset, and so you should never blame yourself for what has happened in the past. The best thing you can do is accept it, accept the reasoning, and be sure of yourself in order to move forward. It's hard, yes, but you can't change the past and sure as hell shouldn't beat yourself up for it, because I think we've all shared a similar experience. What you have done, doesn't define who you are, only what you do from now on counts😊

  • You were 10 and kissed a 4 year olds chest. Yes you unknowingly sexually harassed them unless you mean the playful way like when they blow on a kids belly. But either way you Luckily learned from it and know better now. This is why parents should watch their kids and what they do in front of the kids or what they allow the kids to watch on tv

Most Helpful Guy

  • You may have some baggage from your parents. And some of the things may not have been good for your cousin.

    But your not broken. And it's superising common in families for some kind of playfully sexual things to happen...

    I say common... It happens more then people think our would like to think... But in my opinion no your not horrible. And the other commenter is right... Just the fact your thinking about this so much and your worried about her means your a good person. You were a kid who didn't know better. Cut yourself some slack. If you feel that bad... Message your cousin and talk to her about it.. find out of it had a big impact on her life or if it was just a thing that happens.

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  • No I think that’s normal. Me and my sister who is a year younger would play house all the time she was the husband I was the wife, but it was totally innocent stuff just like pretending to go to work and take care of the baby doll. It’s not like you touched her or anything.

  • Before i can answer this i really need to know what you actually did at the time, and were you both clothed or naked then?

    • We played mommy and daddy and i kissed her breasts but we were clothed not naked and after that one time we didn't do it again.

    • then that`s ok and you have nothing to feel guilty about, and beings a lot of years have passed you have no reason to bring it up with her

  • What did u do to her?

  • It’s ok. It was a long time ago and you were just a kid. You didn’t know any better

  • You feel guilty means you are fine. It was a long time ago. Leave it.

  • You're not sick nor a sexual harasser. Children do silly things all the time, they don't know what they're doing.

  • You weren't meaning to harm, and I think You had mostly pure intentions.
    I have a similar story. I was younger, (13) also pretty curious, and my Youngest Brother (5) just liked to sit around naked and I would teach Him how the genitals will grow and change. He was just a kid, and seemed interested in my growth, so He grabbed.
    Now, I feel really bad.

  • If u are feeling guilty, i guess you are not sick.

    • Am i really considered a harasser even though i was just a child like her?

    • And yes i am so guilty i can't sleep

    • Message me. It's sensitive topic

  • No it's not a work of guilty
    It's just a game and you both are young.
    So don't worry

  • probably not. just a curious kid

  • U were young. Don’t worry

  • You know it was wrong, so no. Not sick. You were young and didn't know any better

  • yes you did nothing more than 10 years ago which did no harm,,, therapy would be eating guys asss and swallowing cum,

  • What did you do to her?

    • Touched her breasts, played a game "husband and wife" and i kissed her breasts