Am I bi, a pervert, or normal?

When I’m out in public I’m constantly looking at women’s bodies - that woman has a pear shape body/nice waist to hip ratio/big boobs. . . And essentially checking them out. I am in a relationship with a man and don’t have any sexual fantasies about women. I just. . . check them out?

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  • I remember some studies done on men and women, and straight men like myself, have no sexual response to gay dude porn and don't have the ability to tell if other dudes are sexy or not. Females that are straight on the other hand do have a physical response to lesbian porn and they have the ability to tell if other women are sexy or not. The theory that followed those findings is that females have to basically size up their competition when it comes to looks.

    It makes sense to me because I see another dude and my brain basically just calculates if I can kick his ass in a fight or not. I'd have no idea if chicks think he's hot or not. This is pretty obvious because some of the dudes some chicks will talk about being so hot just look pathetic through my eyes.

    Now with all that said I think there is Bi potential for women in general... they have physical sexual responses to seeing women doing sexy time. But that's just me overthinking it maybe. It does make me wonder though because why do they get wet and start having a clit boner when seeing other chicks if they have no interest at all? Every straight chick I've talked to about it claims there is no sexual interest though. Hard to believe though because women do have a tendency to just say they have such and such preferences, but then their actions and choices don't match what they say.

Most Helpful Guy

  • And see probably 8 out of 10 guys do the same thing maybe seven out of 10 it's not that we're looking at them because we want to do something or fantasize about them we're looking at them two sizes them up just like you're doing I'll look at that girl she has curly beautiful hair look at that girl what is she wearing that for that makes no sense look at that girl is she lost 5 lb she would be so hot.. look at that girl
    . Or don't never mind because she's picking her nose oh my gosh most guys are exactly like you

Most Helpful Girls

  • So I'm not the only one! I do the same, I'm just a pervert. My me and my boyfriend are out I'm always pointing out the best boobs and butt in the room. I'm worse than guys are. We have little competitions who can spot the best pair of boobs haha.

    Iv no desire to date a woman or go down on one. I do fantasize about sucking on a nice pair of boobs though.

  • I mean if you're looking without sexual intent/interest then it's kind of whatever, ya know? Noticing other people's physical features is pretty normal, assuming that you're not sexualizing them somehow.

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  • Looking at other women's bodies while having a relationship doesn't make you bi, a pervert, or anything else. It's normal for humans to notice and be attracted to physical features in other humans. Just because you check someone out it doesn't mean you're attracted to them.

  • You're normal don't worry, we do the same we "differentiate" ourselfs also, like look at that guy's shape, arms, thighs, muscles, so its normal for a woman too, to kinda "take" bits and bobs and imagine hereself with "all them pump ups" for her man or for herself.

  • Naw that's normal. You dont have to be bi to look at bodies of the same sex.

  • I'm very much bisexual and that's not what you'd be doing if you were bi. You'd check them out AND have this weird desire to be invited into their room to have tantric, earthquaking sex.

  • are you turned on? or are you comparing yourself to them? or just admiring platonically?
    if your not turned on then your straight. if it does stuff to you down there then you're bi

    • What if I'm turned on by lesbian porn but would never have sex with a woman in real life? Am I bi?

  • You aren't a pervert. Maybe you are bisexual, maybe not. You don't have to label yourself. It's fine either way.

  • I don't think so, if you aren't specializing them then it's not perversion

    • Sexualizing*

  • That's totally normal thing

  • Normal. With guys, I don't do that though. Somehow it's different.

  • I think most women do as they comment on their clothes

  • Do you find yourself comparing yourself to them?

  • Its normal. Women are sexy i love to look

  • Just a common everyday pervert. You are not alone.

  • Normal. Not necessarily bi. You're probably comparing your body to there's. Bc you like this, that and the other on them and subconsciously want what they have.

    But if none of that, you're a perv just like rest of us... lol

  • apart from this issue, please know that being bi isn’t “not being normal”

  • That's pretty normal from my experience. My exes were the same and they definitely aren't interested in women, they just appreciated the beauty and sensuality of the female form. And what's not to love? Women have exceptional bodies and a wide range of beauty that is a pleasure to behold

  • Your normal, and now you know how guys feel, lol. If you were bi, then girls would turn you on.

  • I’m bi too, we are normal

  • yes your perfectly normal and in fact sexually healthy for having a sexually attraction.

  • Perhaps growing into bi-curiosity? All good.

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