Am I going to stay a horny virgin forever?

Hi everyone! Just wanted to start off by saying that I am a 21 year old virgin and I have no sexual/intimate relationship with men at all whatsoever (never touched, kissed, held hands with a guy). At this point I'm extremely sexually frustrated and a day doesn't go by where I dont think about sex and I masturbate to porn almost every day. I know some of u might be rolling ur eyes at this cliche question and thinking I'm being dramatic but it's how I feel at this point😭. It just seems like guys aren't really paying too much attention to me and no- I'm not ugly, I get told that I am attractive and on a really good day I honestly think I'm pretty hot and catch guys glancing at me. Not only this but guys I have slightly been interested in ended up having girlfriends, so it feels like there's no one out there for me. I get told by friends that I come across as intimidating, dont know how but I guess I just do so I guess it's more so that I'm just unapproachable (maybe it's my resting bitch face, maybe I'm hyper aware of my surroundings, maybe my trust issues)? I'm not just gonna go and have sex with anybody, I would like to build trust, get to know, and be in a relationship before I reach that point of intimacy. I've tried dating apps and those haven't worked either! What should I do, I'd hate to be in my 30s or late 20s to experience my first real relationship! Is it my intimidating aura, will guys be turned off by my lack of/no experience the older I get?
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  • I might be the weirdo in here but don't worry I won't try to get in your pants unlike a lot of person (btw am I the only French here? Feels like all of you are from the US)
    Anw, I lost my virginity while I was 21 and I do believe men and women aren't that different so I'll tell you what I think.
    The trust thing and all at our age and nowadays, no one care. You won't marry the first guy you'll have sex with. Just find someone you kind of get along with? What I mean by that is someone funny, who seems like someone who cares a bit about women, who won't penetrate you like a soldier trying to break a door, someone nice and gentle THAT'S IT.
    Then do it, simple and clean "Netflix and chill" "eat my ass" "your 6 feets but also 6 inches?" for the last one maybe a little D might be better, ask our Asians friends for that (just a joke, love on you guys ❤️) and you don't even have to wait an owl month because IT WON'T BE THAT GREAT! You might even miss those fingers of yours. What I mean is if you really want it you have to desacrilise it first (was that a word? Cause in French it is). Once done may feel like a butterfly and be able to build a relationship easier cause for now, I believe that without knowing it, you put a lot of pressure to guys and may ask too much for that relationship. You're 21, unless we found our half, we just want sex.
    Kiss on your neck 💋

  • I know EXACTLY what that feels like, I posted pretty much the same question about a year ago.

    I rushed into sex with just someone to get it over with because I felt like I as missing out of life and it was unattractive for me to be 21 and still be a virgin.

    I regret rushing into it, I think sex is definitely overhyped, like yeah it's good but isn't that great. I can imagine sex with a girlfriend/boyfriend would be much better but I don't have experience with that.

    I personally think if you haven't had any sex by our age it does become somewhat of a turn off (I might be biased and just reflecting my own insecurities into thoughts though).

Most Helpful Girl

  • Don't worry guys will not be turned off if you are a virgin in later years.

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  • Hey! Listen I know it might feel like ur late to the show, but it’s really not the end of the world. It’s not easy and it will be a bit awks but u just need to make the first move and try to reach out to a guy ur interested in. I forsure don’t think u need to give up having a relationship just to have sex. You can have it all haha! Also I think being the girl it’s actually easier, for example id feel worse for a 21 year old guy virgin than girl lol. Just take the time and focus on making a solid move? Hope this helps u can send me a message if you’d like to talk!

  • To your last question, I wouldn't be turned off by no-experience, and most guys I've met would prefer a girl with less experience the better.

  • yeah 😂

  • I am the male version of you! Horny 24/7.. my now ex broke up with me because she wanted 6 inches though so I feel terrible and inadequate!

    • Virgin

    • Gimme her number

    • chill

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  • Don’t feel bad. I lost my virginity at a late age. Your age actually

  • Yes you will die a virgin. It's okay though. We host parties every Tuesday if you wanna stop by. Na just kidding. Where do girls like you exist? I mean I only hear this on this site. I need to start approaching girls. I gotta find em. Lmao actually the last time I did this for a year I almost went mad. It's hard being brave all the time. But of course that wasn't the issue. You're gonna be fine by the way. My advice would be to change the way you think about it first and then maybe approach men or try dating sites. I don't know you so I can judge your personality or vibe. Maybe try this:

    https://www.youtube.com/embed/B6UvV99dSlQ
  • Why don't you just send us some pics and we can tell you honestly

  • F-female me? What took you so long to find me 😭 lol dw it'll happen eventually dude, im in the same boat, just a few years behind 😬

  • I'm a 20 year old virgin. I may have a chance to lose it maybe in couple of months but no idea

  • You need to post a picture to get impressions from strangers, you can post anon in the future and be like “how does my friend look” since people think she is your fren they won't feel bad being honest and roasting the pic

  • Sounds like me before i gave up my virginity. If you want to chat hmu in pm and maybe i can offer ideas.

  • Hmmm... you know I would really like to meet a girl like you. Most guys have the problem of every girl they meet is an emotional wreck from her past failed relationships. The dating scene is just really shitty right now, if you want just casual sex it's as simple as ordering a pizza but finding a relationship worth having with serious people is nigh impossible outside of a church. You are probs one of those rare non religious people who isn't a total degenerate hedonist. So am I, so I know the struggle. I don't have answers for ya unfortunately, other than pm me ;)

  • It sounds like you just need someone nice in your life to help you out. PM me if you want.

  • Lol seriously just post with ur real name and shit and I guarantee I bet all I have some guy in not many will step up and say nope bend over and. Give u the dick

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  • Yeah my friend I'm 34yrs and still a virgin. I going through the same thing your saying

  • 🙋🏼‍♂️There’s plenty of guys out here willing to help you out 🙋🏼‍♂️

  • It’s better to have no sex then to end up in a sexless marriage. That’s my world!

    • I feel you buddy

    • dayamn! Not you too?

  • You're a female and you say you're attractive. You can easily get sex.

  • Ahan.. Can we chat in pm?

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