Am I gray sexual? Or borderline asexual? I just want to know if t's just me or if anyone else can relate to this?

[Teacuppoodle]

Although I find most people to be nice looking I'm starting to realize that the more I get to know people the less and less attracted I feel towards them and I'm very seldom attracted to anyone in the first place. However sometimes, in rare instances I'll feel really turned on by a person even if I don't know them very well. I'm romantically attracted to all genders. Does anyone feel this way or have experience with this? I'm jut trying to understand myself a little more.

[Anonymous]

hey there, here goes, i was attracted to females from a very young age, i realised this was different way back then never told anyone never acted or spoke of it, dated boys, married, kids etc. always attracted to females along the way after maybe thirty had experiences with females more intense in the later years. if you want to box me up with a term bi sexual, personally im not into that, never had a relationship with a female only males. sexual attractiveness falls more to looking at women, I've often felt i dont seem to be the same as many of my female friends the way they are attracted to men, its just my make up. now at my age im in a dilema about getting serious again because this part of my sexual nature has to be acted upon from time to time and would it be fair for a partner to understand? I've tried to explore this once it didn't work out, so for now im single and free to act upon my impulses... xx

[Teacuppoodle]

I'm sorry you held yourself back like that. But you know It's never too late to explore. At a young age I found myself to be bi. I used to get bullied at school for it but I fought back. So much so that rumors of me being a witch started to spread. During college I dated a couple women but had much longer lasting relationships with men. Now it seems the more people I meet the less I feel actual attraction. It's very rare that I find someone both interesting and sexually arrousing. This goes for all genders.

[Opinion Owner]

i happen to agree with you here and yet you are much younger than me, in my lifetime i always felt different when people would even discuss famous people that were attractive, i never really got that myself. if i met someone even remotely attractive physically it can be destroyed in two seconds flat by conversation. it intrigues me how it works for the majority? do you understand what im trying, badly to express lol xx

[Teacuppoodle]

Omg yes, I feel almost exactly the same. The people who I once was long attracted to are also very capable of destroying that attraction with their horrid behavior. Lol

[Opinion Owner]

are we not also playing a role in these lifetime encounters, how does this sound to you? you feel perhaps a little different in the norm of of attractions. so consider this, when it has occurred it has been much more about feeling, connection, energy of that specific moment in time. a great deal of this of this relevant

[Opinion Owner]

to you and i, our feelings change and therefore our emotions?

[Teacuppoodle]

In your opinion, what's the difference between feelings and emotions?

[BellePepper]

I feel like everyone has their own sexual preferences and attractions so there's not any point trying to label myself or others?

I also think it's normal to get pickier as you get older so I wouldn't feel bad about that either XD

[Teacuppoodle]

Labels are unhelpful. I agree, maybe I'm just more picky about who I like.

[Teacuppoodle]

Maybe my standards have changed I don't know

[BellePepper]

It's definitely possible. More life experience means there are more things you're looking for in a partner.

[Teacuppoodle]

Definitely

[Berethor]

If you one of the "gray" sexuals girls who want to never have sex then it didn't matter.

[Anonymous]

I kind of understand what you mean. It's like you're attracted to people but they're gross and disappointing most of the time?

[Teacuppoodle]

Yep that's pretty much it, except there are those rare gems every couple of years I suppose. I think I've met 3 people in my life that I actually really liked and 2 are raging disappointments! LOL

[Teacuppoodle]

Eek... That's sounds so harsh... :(