Am I his beard?

[RitaAlbert]

Hello, everyone!
I have been dating this guy for a year now, he's 24 and I'm 25. The first time I suspected his sexuality was 9 months ago, when I saw a Facebook conversation between him and his best friend where his best friend sent him two photos of penises, and my boyfriend commented saying, "This one looks better". I was taken aback and confronted him right away; he said his best friend was just silly and that they joke around all the time. I wasn't convinced but I have no idea why I just let it go and believed him somehow.

Anyway, all went well until a few days ago when I had the chance to look in his phone and I saw gay porn sites in his internet history and a whatsapp conversation with the very same friend where he told him he liked the french kissing and that he (my bf) loved getting that blowjob and that "it was better than the time before" I felt like the whole world fell on my shoulders, I was speechless and didn't know what to do. The first thing I did was confront him again; he didn't utter a word for like 20 minutes and then justified his acts that he was just curious and tried that out and that he is fully straight.

What do you guys think? is he a closeted gay and in denial? He is kinda religious himself and always feels guilty about doing anything religion classifies as a sin. He doesn't have sex with me and says it should be after marriage, however, we kiss and hug... that's all. He says he loves that I'm innocent and baby-faced.
As for his best friend, they always hang out together, only the two of them, they talk for hours on the phone; they argue and fall out for weeks then make up again. I saw them holding hands before when nobody was looking, they always hug each other for more than straight guys usually do. There have always been rumors that his friend is gay. Can those be the actions of a straight guy like he claims? I'm so confused.

[Dinnye001]

I don't know. I cannot comment in the dick thing, because we make gay jokes all the time and make gay references (the more misunderstandable, the better), but we are all still heterosexuals to the extent that we would never... xF

As for the other things, he might be bisexual. Or gay. I am not judgmental until my own ass is on the line for pounding, so... can't help you there either.

But considering that sometimes the most outspoken anti-gays turn out to be as gay as a hot oven... everything is possible, I guess.

[jimyee]

He definitely has homosexual tendencies. He might not be completely gay but he is bi for sure. It is very odd that he experimented with a bj from a guy but not from you that kinda makes it look like he is gay. I would break up with him for cheating on you and let him figure out his shit on his own.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he is gay and struggling with it. It doesn’t mean that he is lying to you, he just might be in denial. Don’t confront, attack or blame him, try to have a calm conversation about it.

[RitaAlbert]

He sounds emotionally attracted to him too. A straight guy wouldn't speak in a romantic manner with another guy. There is a message between them where his friend tells him he wants to spend the night with him, cook dinner, cuddle and watch TV, and my boyfriend replied by sending him a heart emoticon.

[Opinion Owner]

I think that you have your answer already, their relationship is definitely not platonic.

[RitaAlbert]

I'm trying to put it together and organize my thoughts. The fact that he is denying hurts me. I keep remembering things that didn't add up then but do now! One day, I heard him telling his friend, "Don't tell anyone about our secrets.", I was like, what could possibly be so important between them that they feel the need to call it a secret!

[ImrankhanImmu]

He definitely looks like he's gay. He wouldn't have sex with you bit enjoy a blowjob from a guy. No straight guy behaves like that he is gay

[thomascale18]

He could be gay or bi. You need to find out for sure

[LOGESHKUMAR]

He should be gay...

[aasif11]

He is damn gay, I assume, unfortunately