Am I ready to give head/wank off my boyfriend?

[helplesslystranded]

Hi. Can someone help me? I've been in a long term relationship for a year and 2 months.I feel as though I could definitely pleasure my boyfriend a lot more..we are both virgins and have decided to lose our virginity to each other but not yet. I have never done more than snog a boy before, so as you can tell I'm not very experienced.But I have decided I want to either suck him off or wank him off (I guess I must kind of be coming across as a slut but yeah..). I'm nervous and I've never done it before, I'm also scared that I may not do it right and embarrass myself. Also I am not entirely sure how to actually properly do any of these things so can someone tell me what I should do or give me a method on how to complete this "goals"?

[Dionysos]

If you're looking for techniques, there are tons of resources on the net with illustrations etc. Google the joy of sex to start off.

If you're looking for an answer about what limits to set on your sexual activity you need to look to yourself for that. It's one of the biggest parts of growing up. You get to start deciding what your own personal rules are. Based on your values, your desires and your options, you get to/have to make your own decision.

My advice is to make that decision some time ahead of time when you aren't aroused. It's hard to be smart when you're horny. Beyond that, stay true to yourself and whatever moral code matters to you, stay safe and have fun.

Oh and it sounds like this won't be a problem, but don't ever let him pressure you into changing your limits. Only ever do something sexual if you actively want to.

[helplesslystranded]

Thank you for your advice

[Adenn]

If you are nervous about how you will perform, have him show you how he gets himself off, you can learn a lot by watching him and HOPEFULLY it will be a huge turn on for you.

Like the others have said, blow jobs are great, I greatly enjoy them, but he wouldn't have anything to compare it to.

Part of great sex is having open communication, ask him what feels good, what doesn't, what he wants more of and what he doesn't want more of.

Don't be afraid to speak up when the time comes for him to return the favor.

[knotme]

Im assuming you are comfortable with doing this; if so. I think you should go with his body language, you have to be in tune to his body. He will be happy with whatever you do with it; as long as you don't bite. Make sure you keep it wet and play with the balls

[kheserthorpe]

I'm assuming from your terminology you're in the UK. I'm assuming he's uncircumcised based on that. And based on that assumption, A would be easiest.

[helplesslystranded]

Wow, correct

[godfatherfan]

If your open to both then go with the blow job. Guys can handle hand jobs themselves. And while a hand job from your partner is better then nothing, a blow job is the tops of everything.
As long as you keep your teeth off of his cock you really can't mess it up. if he is a virgin he is not going to have a bunch of BJ's to compare it to. but if your going to do it at least be willing to let him cum in your mouth. It is so disappointing to have to stop her when it is close and it is very disappointing. It doesn't matter if you spit it out or swallow after, just let him finish. Don't forget to lick and fondle the balls

[26ukdude]

Giving a hand job will differ slightly depending on weather or not he is circumcised, and every guy probably does it slightly differently anyway so its best just to ask. In terms of sexual intimacy its probably slightly less serious (if you could call it that) than a blowjob, but a BJ feels a hundred times better than a hand. It really is just a case of putting your mouth over it and going up and down but again just ask him what feels good. He's probably nervous doing stuff to you as well if he doenst have the experience.

[klpic]

your both virgins. so he would not know if you were not doing it right. but nothing wrong in giving him a wank or a bj. just be gentle and if a bj lips not teeth start slow and watch his face ask questions after all it, s very unlikely he has not wanked him self off. he should be more than happy to tell you what he likes. As should you when the role gets reversed. Enjoy and don't forget tissues !

[emperor90]

Yep u are

[Anonymous]

Pace yourself. Begin with a hand job. You should come prepared with a sample size of cheap unscented lotion (I find "personal lubricants" embarrassing) and a face cloth to wipe up with. When he comes, cup your other hand over his penis (without touching it) just in case he is a power shooter who can reach clothing, upholstery or your hair. My sense is that you initiate this before he fingers you so he knows you want to advance.

My feeling, however, is that the guy should take the next step into oral and go down on you before you give him a BJ. Make it easy for him in how you dress. A skirt and loose undies that can be pulled aside so it can be spontaneous. If he is already fingering you, a hand on the back if his head will tell him everything he needs to know.

I say he gives oral first because it will eliminate you appearing or feeling slutty because he has already taken that step.