Am I right to feel upset?

Question

At the moment my older sister and I share a bedroom. I was in our room tonight folding laundry when her "boyfriend" came to the house. Later she came to the room to say that her boyfriend is insisting he will sleepover, so I should hurry up and go to the living room to sleep there. The walls here are thin meaning you can hear everything. So, I know he didn't bring the sleepover up, she forced that idea on him. Anyways I don't know how to feel about it. A part of me is like it is what it is, but the other part is angry. Why not have a conversation about this prior to him coming? Why should I sleep in the living room? Why can't they book a room and have sex there? Be considerate as we share the same room. Lastly, I do not understand why do all of this for a man that hasn't even shown you where he lives or his family?

WaterIsland · Accepted Answer

You aren’t wrong about any of your questions or how you feel. Living with other people is extremely complicated and difficult at times. Even roommates who aren’t family struggle sometimes. Or even people in relationships struggle with it sometimes. It’s not easy at all.

I’d maybe sit down with your sister and set some ground rules. And if you both can’t have a baseline respect for each other and the rules of the home, one (or both) of you might need to move out.

mark000h · Accepted Answer

Yes, you're right. It's your room too. Also, you might not like the idea of sleeping in a room that your sister and some guy f-d in. It's pretty inconsiderate of them. She should have paid the $40 for a private motel room.

jenna980000 · Answer

You can totally be upset about that! Did you ask her why she doesn't go somewhere else?

stratford · Answer

At some point you might want to spend the night with a guy and you can ask her to do the same?

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I get your frustration, but it's also really not that big of a deal. The girl wanted some dick. I'm sure you'll be able to return the favor and kick her out when you have needs of your own to fulfill.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I am 100% on your side.

peterrezeeek · Answer

u r right dont let him come more... tell ur sis to stop that and marry him if she really love him

strlb · Answer

Tell them to have sex so you can have your room back. The faster they get it done the faster you get to your bed. Honestly, if I were in your sisters postion I would want you to understand that I am horny and need a few minutes with my significant other.