Am I the asshole of asking my girlfriend when we are going to have sex?

[Anonymous]

*I am a male*

Yesterday night, I was planning to meet with my girlfriend after her girls night out, but she canceled our plans. I playfully asked her "Hmm, and now when are we going to have sex?". She replied angrily "Oh, that's what it's all about then! You don't wanna see me, you just want sex".

I said "Of course I want to see you, but is it that bad that I want to have sex with you?". She got furious and didn't answer my calls and told me to not call her and that she didn't want to talk to me. I tried to communicate via texts very calmly and I begged her to pick up the phone, because I wanted to hear her voice, but she rejected me. I didn't mean to objectify her, I just wanted to express my desire for her. Is it that bad? Usually, she is the one that texts me out of the blue "I wanna have sex , wanna come over?" Or "hey, I am looking for a girl to have a threesome with" etc. I mean , we speak very openly about intimacy. Also, many times she disappears for a couple of days, doesn't answer calls, she also went on her holiday house for a month and didn't text me or call me for weeks and after that she came back and confessed she slept with another guy, I got very hurt, but I decided to overcome it because I really want her. Am I an asshole that objectified her?

[provokeesmokee]

Bruh you let her cheat and took her back?

You basically gave her carte blanche to see how poorly she can treat you before you give up your puppy love act.

Frankly, I think you should end this relationship. Neither of you seem happy. Well, you sound like you're happy but I think you're just scared of breaking up with this person you have an unhealthy attachment to.

She clearly doesn't like you, man. Don't do this to yourself. She cheated on you, man.

[Anonymous]

So she text you saying she wants sex but the moment you do the same it's an issue for her? Talk about being a hypocrite. Also if she is out there sleeping with other guys doesn't that mean she is using you for sex and objectifying you.

[Asker]

So , I should apologize to her?

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn't apologise. Like she got upset and angry at you for the exact same things she is doing to you. I would respond by saying so it's okay for you to objectify me sending me random messages saying you want sex and this and that yet when I say I want sex you flip out. I'm sorry but why is it okay for you to do it but wrong when I do it. I would than also tell her. Your out there sleeping with other guys and only contacting me when you want sex so you are using me for sex. I personally wouldn't apologise

[Anonymous]

Why are you pretending to be female on GAG? You're not here, but you obviously do on other questions. Don't tell me you mistakenly selected female whe you created your account because we all know that's bulshit.

There are sooooo many females with blue accounts and males with pink accounts here. It's ridiculous.

[boggboss]

Clearly she felt like thats all u wanted from her if ahe is insecure all u have done is solidify u are with her for swx

[Asker]

Should I apologize to her? It's just weird that she has the right to express whenever she wants to have sex with me and I don't have it.

[boggboss]

But thats who u decide to be with so that's your choice

[BoopBoopBeep]

She sounds like a train wreck. Go get a real woman that isn't so insecure.

[In_Trance]

Why did you post as a girl?

[Asker]

Because I connected from my sister's computer and I signed up with her Facebook.