Am I the assholefor rejecting him?

[Anonymous]

I didn't wanna have sex with my boyfriend usually I'd feel bad and give in but this time I really couldn't get my head into it. The fact that he also blew up at me when I asked if he had a condom also upset me. I asked as he striped and kissed me and be kept evading the question. "U don't wanna do it do you?" "U never want to have sex with me" "would you like me to leav you alone so you can sleep with someone else. Sex just hasn't been all that for me but it's strange since I've only slept with 2 people it's just always something I did with whomever I was in love with. I don't really get off if u know what I mean but 3 years might be too soon for that. Anyways when he said that I didn't have to if I didn't want too I told him the truth that id didn't want too rn then he started yelling over me saying that that's what I'm thinking 'he doesn't get me off so it's pointless and that I'm stupid and I'm bitchy like the rest of the women in my family and aggressive and a bully I put the rule down that we'd use condoms and i' ld take birth control , he's always had a problem buy gave in there were a few times I let him when I was done ovulating but now he's starting to put all his faith into the pill. After he got mad he kicked me out if his car at the stoplight so I got out and walked to the bus stop. He drove around to my bus stop and told me to get in i ignored him and got on the bus and went home. He's been calling my phone and calling me slurs and that I should come back cause I messed up and I should forget about it like its my fault. I feel bad that yh we haven't done it in 4 days and yeah he has a high libido but he has no right to say those things to me.

[HSalenko]

While it may seem obvious to some, it appears you're in an abusive power struggle. You're right to refuse; sex is very much a privilege and not something he can demand. Man or woman, you are never beholden to sex. You aren't the asshole and truthfully: you aren't being fair to yourself by staying with him.

You deserve to be with a partner who treats you with respect, apologizes when he's hurt you, and can satisfy you. Get out OP, you got some independence so use it before he tries to take it away.

[Grovermint]

No. You have every right to decline and you shouldn't have gave in before if you didn't want to do it. I understand you want to please him, but you're in the relationship, too. Your feelings and body aches matter just as much as his do.

[RoseySaraah]

Your never the ass hole clearly he is when you said no consent you don't want to be pregnant!

Sadly this relationship won't last sorry!

He sounds bipolar and they just blow up at anything! They can be perfect till boom! Lucky he did not hurt you when you found his trigger!

Get away Hun! That is so toxic! Don't get pregnant for him

[Alex-Snow]

Screw him... it is your body and ur choice. Tell him no condom means no sex and he will just have to jerk off instead. He sounds selfish and seems to think it is all about him. How old is he?

[BigDog1989]

Why are you not into having sex with you boyfriend. Why are you with him?

[Asker]

I always do have sex with him, I go along with what he wants. I asked for a break this one time cause I couldn't and I wasn't feeling well he also kept dodging when I asked if he brought any condoms and that we should buy some but then he blew up saying he wouldn't want t to get someone like me pregnant so I left the car before I said something hurtful I kept my cool

[2021biguy]

A guy that cares about you would never treat you like that. You need someone that really cares about you, not just using you for sex. Forget about him.