Am I trans or is it just a fetish?

I lately have been fantasizing of being a women, like I wish I had a bbl, big breasts etc. i even bought women’s clothes and a wig and looked so hot I surprised myself. Lately I’ve been masturbatibg to the thought of being a curvy vixen which I know for a fact I could be if I took hormones. Issue is once I finish I snap out of it and feel ashamed and happy that I’m a guy, like I’m handsome and tall. What’s wrong with me
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  • Could be you're not into the idea of playing with gender expression than truly wanting to be a woman.

    But don't dismiss it right away. It could be the negative feelings you have after you go back to presenting male are dysphoria for your male form.

    I suggest you find an LGBTQ specialist therapist and talk this out. Or even swing by your local pride centre for resources and guidance.

    At the least, you'll get a better understanding of yourself.

    Explore! And do what you can to get to the bottom of the shame you feel. Sometimes why we feel ashamed isn't always what it seems to be.

    It's okay to want to be and express your femininity. That's valid whether you're a man or a woman or something else. If you feel sexy dressing as a buxom lass, go for it! Feel sexy! You're allowed to!

    • *more into, not "not into". Sorry

    • Why has this feeling come up suddenly I’ve gone all my life without even ever thinking about it. Should I get my hormone levels checked maybe I have too much estrogen?

    • Sometimes it just takes time for us to get to a place in our lives and in our self-identity where we can truly start exploring big questions. It's unlikely it's something like a sudden boost in estrogen. Especially if your diet hasn't changed recently. But, if you're worried, go get checked. I didn't know I was bi until it just suddenly clicked. I was looking at fanart of Moira from Overwatch - not even sexual stuff, just various skin fanart - and all of a sudden it was like every unrealized crush on women I'd had growing up was just reframed. It just hit me that it wasn't admiration or appreciation I had felt. It was attraction. I spent the next few months exploring that some more, thinking over how it made me feel, etc. And slowly came out to my loved ones as I felt able to. Don't be afraid to read up on the trans experience. It can be helpful to read up about other's experiences so you can see if any resonate with you.

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  • Bro it sucks being a girl.. stay a man.. why would you change to be a second class citizen since men rule the world.. and then being written off by most people to want to date you since you are a mutant..

    • Yea like women are beautiful and ngl y’all dominate social media/internet but men dominate the real world

    • Yes very true.. and if you are tall and handsome why ruin that, stay blessed..

    • by the way what about being a women males you feel that it sucks so much?

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  • Definitely a fetish. Transitioning isn’t just putting on a set of clothes, it’s changing your entire identify, messing up your hormones, chemicals, physically mutilating your body, sterilizing yourself and ruining any chance at a normal healthy relationship. You’ll be required to take drugs for the rest of your life. It’s not a walk in the park. I have a friend who “fully” transitioned years ago and regrets it. And she is one I consider actually trans since it was long before it became popular to be trans.

  • I don't have any experience of the trans thoughts but I can tell you with complete certainty that you don't want to make a fantasy that you stop caring about after you cum into a reality, it doesn't matter what the fantasy is.

    You are also completely free to jerk off and or fuck anyone you want in any way you want so long as you respect the watch word.

    What is it?

    It's actually 2 words..

    Informed consent.

    (consent by the way can only be given by an adult and only for themselves.)

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  • Nothing is wrong... your in a " discover " mode. Maybe you end up being happy as you are right now. Maybe. The woman in you wins terrain. Nothing to be ashamed for.

  • What's a bbl?
    If you haven''t felt like you're in the wrong body all your life, it's just a fetish.

    • Brazilian butt lift

    • Oh! A bubble butt.

    • Bbl is extremely expensive and dangerous

  • You may be into drag

    • Maybe

  • You're not trans but you are a cross dresser.

  • Unsure. These some strange times. Best thing to do is not let the hate in and just do you. Forget the labels until you figure yourself out.


    Fetishes are fine. I have one with ankles. Which I guess is feet but I find them disgusting. So I have my own problems. :)

  • Listen having a butt and breasts are not easy lol

    • How so

  • Nah, man, you are not trans. Look, I've been the same since I was ten or eleven-years-old. A part of has always wanted to be a very curvy and chubby girl and have some similar to stuff to you. Same for the shame part and feeling happy about being a dude.

    I have always recognized for me why I am not trans and why I am like this:
    - It's a fetish I have built up in my head. It tends to not be that strong when I do not reinforce it for a while)

    - The fetish exists because I want to know what it's like from their POV, but also I have mainly dated skinny women, so I guess I feel sexually deprived?

    - There is a sense of control that I like that I can take on any shape or look, which I like. In general, I like being in control.

    Now, I know why I am not trans is because I huge pride in being a man. Sure, a part of me wants to be a girl, but I actually do not. It's mainly sexual reasons too that I want to, which is not an ACTUAL reason. I enjoy being a man way more and want to be one. Also, it makes life a fuckton more simpler.

    Now, what do I suggest?
    - Do not reinforce it heavily. The main problem with is that it can cause erectile dysfuction during sex if it becomes a habit.

    - Be with someone who has a similar to body to that, so that part of you is satisified. It's why I have stopped dating skinny women. I am sexually attracted to them, but it's not enough.

    - Stay busy
    - Recognize that it does not make you less of a man. You are doing it for sexual reasons, so it's very straight inherently.

  • If you only like the idea of looking like a woman when you're horny, and not in any other situation, then no. You're definitely not trans. I don't know if it's just a fetish or something deeper though. Good luck with that..

  • Hm nothing is wrong you just want all the hot attention and parts!

    Mistress loves helping her boys be girls ill tease you make. tou all excited begging for me to take your thing give you one of my things!

    • Lmaoo

    • Sounds like someone likes mistress offer! Come on you know you will like it just agree and I'll make you enjoy it all!

  • You likely have autogynophilia.

    • Let me look into it maybe I need to talk to a physiologist if this phase doesn’t pass I love being a man

    • Physiologist? I think you mean a psychiatrist.